With narcissists, there’s only one way to disarm them. I know your personal experience with narcissists may look different, but ask yourself, has this method worked?

There’s a lot to be said about body language, and I strongly believe that if you use it wisely, you can disarm any narcissist you encounter.

Want to learn more?

Well, you’ve come to the right place!

Golden Bridge

The ideal method is to push the narcissist across what I call the golden bridge.

Let me explain what that looks like.

Bridges are meant to be crossed, and they can get crowded and noisy.

These aspects can make crossing an unpleasant experience, so what you should always do is strive to make the bridge golden.

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This simply means not making it unpleasant for them. The bridge is friendly.

You’re not causing them a negative experience when they’re using drugs, but you still don’t want them to cross it.

So, when you inevitably resist them in the ways I’ll explain, they’ll be instantly disarmed and have nothing to argue or oppose.

Fear: Fear, Obligation, Guilt

When a narcissist uses fear, obligation, and guilt against you, it’s time to disarm them.

You don’t need them in your life. Asking yourself what these three things the narcissist wants from you is crucial to disarming them.

Let’s look at what each might mean for you.

Fear

If you don’t find a job soon and start paying more money, I’ll have to leave and you’ll have no choice.

What if you’re desperately trying to find a job? The world may not be in your favor right now, but you’re doing your best. Using fear against you will only make you more afraid and increase your dependence on them for survival.

Commitment

Your responsibility is to take care of me, so when I order my lunch, I expect you to make it for me.

Are you alive for the sole purpose of fulfilling every obligation the narcissist imposes on you?

Putting yourself in this role means you’re prioritizing the narcissist and abandoning yourself.

Guilt

Why focus on yourself in everything?

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God forbid you dare focus on one thing. It may be the only time that week you think about yourself, but you’re forced to feel guilty when you do.

Stop And See What’s Happening?

The idea that someone can use fear, obligation, or guilt against you is a retarded way to manipulate you into feeling something you don’t like or don’t want to feel.

The narcissist feels more powerful, so you give up on what they want you to give up.

You might:

Hang your shoulders.

Shrug a little.

Walk with your head down.

Fumble as you try to apologize.

You look scared because their words affect you.

All this body language does is show the narcissist that you’re giving in to their caustic tactics.

Non Confrontational Victory

I’ve always liked to believe that if you can be as nonconfrontational as possible, that’s how you can push the narcissist away with minimal retaliation.

“Maybe you didn’t mean it, but it sounded like you were trying to make me feel guilty.”

What a statement!

Saying this in response to their attack will completely silence what they’re trying to do to you.

Saying it honestly, but in a friendly way, will show them that you don’t want to start an argument, but are trying to understand.

Confrontation can:

Make the narcissist more angry. They won’t like you being so direct, and they’ll automatically defend themselves.

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Make them mad. What are you trying to do? Why are you attacking them? What did you hear?

Let them express themselves. No one can be more audacious than a narcissist, especially you. If you try to be like that, they’ll lower your status by more than a few notches. They might say things like, “Do you know who you’re talking to?” or “Don’t you know who I am?” These are clear signs that the narcissist’s standing has been called into question—by you and only you!

The floodgates of punishment are open. If you dare, they’ll double down. This is something to be wary of, as it’s a situation many victims find themselves in at some point.

Use The Stop Switch

It’s a necessary button to have and control, of course. The stop button will not only protect you, but it will prevent any form of conflict from escalating.

You don’t want to get involved, that’s the bottom line. Narcissists can make it seem impossible at times, and I appreciate and understand that.

You’ll only inflame and arm them further if you keep the stop button on, or what I prefer to call:

reacting to anger.

It’s better to turn off the stop button and walk away.

They Can’t Take It From You

As I told you, I also love to empower, which brings me to this last point.

Narcissists will take everything from you until you have nothing left to give. They will gladly and openly steal your joy, your thoughts, your compassion, and your loyalty, leaving you with nothing in return.

These are the traits that keep victims striving. They wait, hoping that something different will come out of the relationship.

They believe that if they keep giving, the narcissist will be grateful and love them even more. And every time they show any love, the victim thinks, “I did it!”

Victims stand with open arms, always waiting for that sweet hug.

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That hug never comes, but victims continue to stand waiting, with aching arms and legs.

It’s time to recognize the price of their theft.

You. You are everything you are, and everything you stand for.

They have no right to take everything from you. The golden bridge exists because you’ve put a lot of effort into making it beautiful.

We must confront the narcissist on this bridge in a non-aggressive manner to keep them calm and completely disarm them.

So, let today be the day you decide to disarm the narcissist whenever they try to ignore you.

Any fear, obligation, or guilt they try to project onto you deserves to be expelled—and fast.