The average human life is 27,000 days. A third of that time is spent sleeping. That leaves you with a frightening amount of only 18,000. Can you afford to waste one more minute?
Are you making the most of every moment? Are you living to your full potential? Do you feel satisfied, happy, and pleased with your life?
If you do any of the following six things, you are likely to feel unfulfilled. But fear not. In this article, you will find the solution.
1) Surround yourself with the wrong people
We are big fans of the African philosophy and humanism called Ubuntu. At its simplest, it states: “A person is a person through other people.” Who you choose to associate with will have an impact on who you are. This means that surrounding yourself with narcissists, manipulators, and abusers will lead to deep unhappiness. If you are a decent, good person, you will likely hope and believe that people can change, and they often do. But there is also a point where you need to cut your losses and acknowledge that the relationship may be permanently toxic. Knowing when to do this requires well-developed intuitive powers.
2) Complaining without acting
We all need to vent and let off steam from time to time, and this is mostly a harmless form of stress management. But if you are habitually a whiner, you could be in an emotional trap that you will find very difficult to escape from. Science has proven that defaulting to complaints and negativity rewires your brain to automatically see the worst in any situation.
Not only is positive thinking a better use of your time, but it can also become a self-fulfilling prophecy, leading to increased happiness.
3) stubbornness or pride in asking for help
Humans are social animals. Our development and our place in the world owe much to our ability to cooperate. By refusing to ask for help, you are rejecting one of nature’s great gifts. You end up stuck in a situation or problem that can be easily resolved. Again, we return to the concept of Ubuntu. We live our lives through others. There is no reason to fail when help is at hand.
4) Allowing others to make your life decisions
According to Bronnie Ware, a hospice nurse who has listened to thousands of patients calculating the inevitable end of life, there is one regret more frequent than all the others and it’s not what you expect—living your life according to other people’s expectations rather than your true desires.
“It was the most common regret of all,” she says. “When people realize that their life is about to end and look at it with clarity, it is easy to see how many dreams remain unfulfilled.”
There are many reasons to do this, from societal pressure or peer pressure to a natural tendency toward compliance. However, the most harmless reason is a lack of confidence in our decision-making abilities. This is where Synctuition meditations can help you, when you learn to listen to and trust your inner voice, you realize that no one makes better decisions about your life than yourself, fully empowered and in control.
5) Chasing short-term pleasures rather than long-term happiness
Scientists have found that we experience two types of happiness. The first kind, known as the well-being, is happiness associated with purpose or meaning in life. This is the joy one feels in a child’s accomplishments, knowing that a good upbringing has paid off, or the joy we feel when helping others or achieving a long-term goal.
The second is delicious well-being, which is the short-term satisfaction we get from satisfying a desire. Shopping or binge eating may feel good instantly, but science has also shown that they create feelings of anxiety if they are habitually pursued or used as a substitute for genuine, earned happiness.
6) Ignore your feelings and emotions
This problem may be more prevalent among men, but it has reached near-epidemic proportions in Western society. “Don’t be emotional” is often used as a stick to beat people with, while society portrays women as emotional, irrational, and therefore inferior. Men learn to value rationality above all else and despise and belittle them for showing their emotions. Yet every great thinker in human history has been vocal about their reliance on intuition. Intuition has been described by scientists as the highest form of intelligence, and everyone from motivational speakers to psychologists is constantly telling us about the power and reliability of intuitive thinking. This may be the most difficult habit to break, as it is ingrained in many of us. However you should. In order to live a happy and fulfilling life, you need to fully understand your needs, feelings, and emotions.
