When you truly fall in love with someone, you will always know for sure. But just in case you haven’t, look for some signs that will help you understand the feelings you have for someone, romantic or not.
Have you met a man? Maybe the man?
Isn’t romance great? The long late-night conversations, the holding hands while walking in the park, the butterflies you feel when you see them. It’s all very cool. And scary.
Opening up to someone can be intimidating. Letting your guard down to let a man into your heart puts you at great risk. Because of this, many women hesitate to fall in love.
(Think of every woman ever on The Bachelor—expressing their reluctance to fall and then doing it anyway only to be denied a rose the next night. Ugh.)
So, before opening up to your partner, make sure that you love him or her.
But how do you know?
Here are some signs that will help you find out:
- You can feel it.
what is love? It is very important to understand the difference between being in love with someone and loving someone.
I think when you are in love with someone, you experience the feelings you read about in books.
When you see your person, your heart jumps a little, you crave their touch, you want to know everything about them, spending time together is great, and you care about their hopes and dreams.
But when you love someone, rather than love someone, your feelings are more of friendship.
You feel the peace and happiness of being with them and supporting them in their endeavors, but that feeling of your heart jumping, enjoying their physical touch, just isn’t there.
So, how do you feel when you see your person? Does your heart skip a beat or do you feel peace?
It’s an important distinction and one that only you know.
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- Distance can be hard.
When you love someone, watching them walk out the door can be physically painful. You count the minutes, hours, or days until you see them again. When you are reunited, it is as if you feel good again.
However, it is important to know the difference between obsessive love and being in love. When we are obsessively in love when we are away from our lover, we cannot function.
We’re constantly wondering where they are and what they’re doing and maybe even stalking them on social media. Our jobs and friendships suffer and the physical pain from afar is debilitating.
If you love someone healthily, being away from them is hard but you still live your life as you always did, eagerly waiting to see them again but also healthy apart.
And you know, man, that reunion is worth the wait.
- You love the good and the bad.
When you are in love, you love everything about yourself.
You love wanting to spend a lot of time with yourself or asking you questions about your day. You are always happy to be with them and love when they touch you. You appreciate the way they open the door for you or give you a foot massage at night.
Furthermore, when you are in love with someone, you like things that you find frustrating.
Maybe they always leave dirty dishes in the sink, act differently when they’re with guys, or forget to buy you flowers for your anniversary. The things you wish for could be different.
If you love your person despite these things, and you probably think they’re adorable even while you’re snooping, then you’re definitely in love.
My boyfriend owns these button-down short-sleeved shirts that he loves to wear to work in the summer, and white sneakers, too. I hate those shoes and shirts, but, man, he’s the most handsome man I’ve ever seen every time he walks out the door in the morning. Yes, I am madly in love with this man.
- You don’t see any red flags.
If you love someone, you don’t constantly question the relationship.
Do you think you want to be in this relationship but aren’t sure?
Are you thinking about whether you are doing something wrong with this person?
Do you spend time thinking about others instead?
Do you find yourself rationing your relationship often?
People who fall in love are secure in the fact that love is real and equal and that committing to it is an intelligent commitment.
If there are little red flags that you ignore or if you constantly wonder if this person is enough for you, then you probably aren’t in love.
Related: 5 Ways You Change For The Better When In Love
- You are forever loyal.
Do you find yourself looking at other people and wondering if, for whatever reason, you might be interested in a relationship with them?
Are your friends introducing you to other people who they think might be better for you?
If any of these things are the case, you may not be in love with your man.
People who are in love with their partner are not looking for other potential mates. They are perfectly happy with the guy sitting next to them and the prospect of being with someone else is repugnant.
Besides, if you’re in love, you know that, more than anything else, you don’t want to hurt your man with your eyes or hands. You know that keeping your eyes firmly focused on him is what you want to do every single day. He will love you for it!
You ask yourself, am I in love? – a very important part of taking the next step in a relationship.
If you’re in love, you can open up to your man and look forward to moving forward in your relationship, knowing that it’s the right thing to do.
If you don’t love your man, let him go. He deserves to find love and don’t waste any of your time pretending that you do.
Therefore, if you feel deep feelings for this man, if you want to be with him always and miss him when he is gone, if you love everything about him, if you have no relationship questions and can be loyal, then most likely, you are in love and that He is the man for you.
