the main points
People with narcissistic personalities may behave differently than non-narcissists, such as avoiding introspection and denying mistakes.
Narcissists may also have different values than non-narcissists, such as status and image rather than empathy and authenticity.
Identifying the destructive behaviors that characterize narcissism can help people recognize and deal with narcissistic people.
If you have someone with high levels of narcissism in your life, you are more likely to become stressed, exhausted, or confused than for the narcissist to change.
People with a narcissistic pattern or diagnosable narcissistic personality disorder stubbornly cling to their psychological defenses and rarely stop promoting their own image. Over time, you may become accustomed to how dangerous and costly their actions are.
This is why it is important to do a reality check for narcissistic behaviors rather than healthy ones.
Related : Impaired Trust in the Narcissistic Family
Differences in behavior
Characteristics of narcissists:
Shawn introspection
Emotional deficiency
Become hypersensitive to insults
Acting impulsively
Spoiling others’ good mood
Denying or hiding mistakes
Driven by fear
Blame others
Reluctance or withdrawal when disturbed
You get angry when you are criticized
Follow profit and loss strategies
Holding a grudge
You have one-way relationships
Characteristics of non-narcissists:
Value introspection
Care about other people’s feelings
Do not personalize the actions of others
Look for spontaneity
Celebrate other people’s good moods
Seeks to learn from mistakes
Cultivate hope
Take responsibility
Communicate when upset
Accept constructive criticism
Look for win-win solutions
Find the resolution
Establishing mutual relationships
Narcissistic behaviors like those listed above are generally designed to hide feelings of insecurity. Certain behaviors, such as avoiding introspection, denying mistakes, procrastinating, or blaming others, seek to highlight the narcissist’s perceived shortcomings.
Others, such as ruining others’ good moods, holding grudges, and being overly sensitive to insults and criticism, are designed to put others on the defensive in the hope that others will be less likely to challenge the narcissist’s fragile ego and shaky self-image.
Still others, such as the presence of one-way relationships or a lack of empathy, reflect the difficulties narcissists have in engaging in anything other than superficial or transactional relationships.
Differences in values
The contrast between people suffering from narcissism and healthier individuals is also striking in what they value.
Values of people suffering from narcissism:
Perfection
Get the attention of others
superiority
the win
condition
picture
Values of non-narcissists:
growth
Communicate with others
equality
Fairness
sympathy
authenticity
Narcissists hold values such as perfection, winning, superiority, and status in the hope that this will attract more attention and acceptance to themselves. Their values, like their behaviors, tend to be self-aggrandizing, in contrast to the more inclusive values such as connection, compassion, and authenticity espoused by non-narcissists.
