Narcissists tend to make the lives of those around them miserable. They bully, dominate, highlight boundaries and do not respect them. If you are on the receiving end of this type of behavior, it is frustrating, humiliating and takes a toll on your self-esteem. Narcissists get away with this behavior for years by destroying the trust of family members and choosing to surround themselves with people who support their fragile sense of ego. However, sometimes, the way narcissists act in the most intense situations is downright dangerous. Here’s why.
They don’t respect experts. My client, a physician, recounted the frustration she felt when dealing with a particular family whose father was ill. “His daughter will not respect my decisions at all. She spends all day looking up her father’s condition on the Internet and then tells me how to do my job. She constantly calls me, takes up the nurses’ time, and is very rude to me sometimes. I tried to be patient, but I became angry “Very.” Even though my client was ignoring her patient’s daughter, she was experiencing unnecessary anger and anxiety in the process. “It makes my job much harder,” she told me. Narcissists try to get people in positions of expertise to follow their desires because they believe they They know better than experts. Hopefully anyone in a position of experience will recognize narcissists for what they are, but to say the least, they cause stress and extra work.
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They act without consulting the opinions of others. No matter how dangerous the action is, if the narcissist believes he is right to do it, he will follow through with it without consulting anyone else. “My dad put us in some real danger positions,” Matt recalls. “I remember one time it was snowing heavily. My mother asked him not to go out in the car, but he picked us up from school and then decided to visit our grandmother and take the back road which was very steep. I remember my brother and I were really upset and scared, but he said it would be an adventure. We managed “We got there, but it was very dangerous – the road was closed soon after and we had to stay at my grandmother’s house.” It doesn’t matter how dangerous others think something is, if the narcissist wants to do something, he will do it.
They will put other people’s lives in danger if their needs are met. “My mom loved to show off to people, laugh, and do anything to be the center of attention,” Danielle told me. “One day I was riding a horse we had. I was an insecure rider and she was a very skittish horse. I made her a promise not to let me off the lead rope. There were a few people around – girls hanging out in the field watching the horses – and without “With warning, my mother took the rope off the horse and slapped him hard on the backside. ‘I was off.'” As they approached a large fence, Danielle threw herself off the fast-paced horse rather than risk jumping on it. “I could have broken my neck. Everyone thought this was the funniest thing ever. “This is a story that has been repeated for years.” Not considering Danielle’s wishes and laughing, puts Danielle in a very dangerous situation.
They have low empathy. Most of us would hopefully consider not only the needs of others before taking action, but also how they would feel about the situation. We have the ability to see things from their point of view, and walk in their shoes. Narcissists typically have much lower levels of empathy toward others. Being right, winning, and being in control is much more important than worrying about how someone will feel. Like Danielle and Matt’s examples above, narcissists endanger others by failing to consider their needs.
They love drama. Narcissists thrive on drama, pitting people against each other, keeping dangerous secrets and leaving a trail of resentful and vulnerable people in their wake. Creating dangerous situations is one way to create drama – especially when they occur within a web of deception. The fact that some people will undoubtedly emerge from the drama weak, upset, and frightened by the dangerous situation they have been dragged into is a win-win situation for the narcissist.
Whether you are related to a narcissistic parent or sibling, or have a narcissistic boss or political leader, it is likely that their inability to listen to experts, independent decision-making processes, need for attention, low empathy, and love of drama will put you in a dangerous situation at some point.
