If you’ve ever tried to go No Contact or gone through several cycles of ignoring the narcissist, you’ve likely encountered this scenario:

You’ve made it through four days of no contact and feel good about yourself and the future. Because of this, you’ve planned an outing with a friend with whom you’ve rekindled your relationship after a long period of isolation imposed on you by the narcissist.

You choose your clothes when your cell phone vibrates. You are looking at the incoming message. He is a narcissist.

You feel a little nauseous because you realize that a narcissist doesn’t give up so easily. I decided to ignore the text and continue preparing for the evening.

Later at dinner, you’re laughing about it and talking about old times with your long-lost friend when you spot another buzz from your cell phone. Against your better judgment, you look at it.

It’s funny, the last time you and the narcissist talked about marriage, they told you — for your good, of course — how it wasn’t good marriage material…or even good relationship material, for that matter. If you think you’re still going strong, you put your phone away — but you can’t seem to stop thinking about wedding invitations and a trip to St. Martin for your honeymoon — all while your boyfriend talks about how amazing his vegan New York cheesecake is.

At bedtime, you turn on your favorite comedy show, trying to forget the recurring thoughts about not being young, and marriage is starting to seem like a pipe dream. Your phone vibrates as if to signal:

ex??? The person they were cheating on you with six months ago??? How dare they? You pick up your phone in a rage and snap a snap back, and you can barely say enough bad things to the narcissist about what an asshole they are.

Jackpot!!

The narcissist pulled the lever and got a reward.

Keep in mind that narcissists don’t care if your interactions with them are civil or not… good or bad, they just want a reaction from you. This shows them that they are still on your mind and it is only a matter of time before you respond to their text moves. On top of that, texting is the simplest and quickest way they can continue to dig deeper into every crevice of your mind.

Read :

Let’s not forget why you implemented No Contact, to begin with. They were cheating on you. They abuse you. It kills your soul more every day. Don’t let your feelings of betrayal cloud your judgment – which is easy to do and also why blocking the narcissist by any means is crucial when you want to break off the relationship.

Change your phone number and email address if necessary. Do whatever it takes because any bit of communication is all a narcissist needs to know that they can bring you back under their control and their manipulative and abusive system.

what should be done:

Find a way to completely block Narc – whether you’re doing it on your own or with the help of a trusted friend. You may even be able to block them through your service provider. If so, let someone else be in charge of the password.

Don’t spend too much time researching the hundreds of behaviors and subcategories of your toxic ex’s disorder. Instead, find conversion therapy methods and start trying them.

(If you think you may be depressed and/or experiencing symptoms of PTSD, seek the services of a licensed therapist.)

Finally, if you share custody with the narcissist, you can implement a strict form of modified communication. In most states, you should have only one way for the other parent to contact you regarding the children you share. Insist on email communications and end “He Said/She Said” with a moderated email system, such as Our Family Wizard.

Read :

Let’s not forget why you implemented No Contact, to begin with. They were cheating on you. They abuse you. It kills your soul more every day. Don’t let your feelings of betrayal cloud your judgment – which is easy to do and also why blocking the narcissist by any means is crucial when you want to break off the relationship.

Change your phone number and email address if necessary. Do whatever it takes because any bit of communication is all a narcissist needs to know that they can bring you back under their control and their manipulative and abusive system.

what should be done:

Find a way to completely block Narc – whether you’re doing it on your own or with the help of a trusted friend. You may even be able to block them through your service provider. If so, let someone else be in charge of the password.

Don’t spend too much time researching the hundreds of behaviors and subcategories of your toxic ex’s disorder. Instead, find conversion therapy methods and start trying them.

(If you think you may be depressed and/or experiencing symptoms of PTSD, seek the services of a licensed therapist.)

Finally, if you share custody with the narcissist, you can implement a strict form of modified communication. In most states, you should have only one way for the other parent to contact you regarding the children you share. Insist on email communications and end “He Said/She Said” with a moderated email system, such as Our Family Wizard.