Falling in love with a narcissist can be nothing short of crazy. It can constantly make you feel like you are losing your mind.

Don’t lose your mind!

Think about the most annoying person in your life, whether that be a partner, boss, friend, or someone else close to you. In these relationships, you lose track of yourself in some way—acting crazy or constantly feeling insecure—and you can’t quite figure out how or why.

Looking back on past relationships, you know you didn’t always act this way, but in this particular relationship with this specific narcissist, you get hooked every single time.

Why do some people have such power over us and make us go crazy?

It’s like there’s always some feature that’s about to fall flat or we’re constantly overwhelmed. People like this are called Crazy Makers. And dealing with them is insane.

Not sure if you are in a relationship with someone or not? Keep reading to learn the signs you’re in love with a narcissist and the characteristics of this frustrating behavioral pattern.

Then, you can learn some smart strategies for dealing with the Crazy Makers in your life.

Here are 7 worrying signs that you are in love with a narcissist

1. They are cute on the outside, but not so much on the inside.
   The Mad Makers hide their true identities by acting gentle, altruistic, sympathetic, anxious, and caring on the surface. When you first meet them, you will create an instant connection and think they are the nicest person ever.

Beware, though, because Crazy Makers change their shape into what you want to see, but only long enough to lure you in. Once you get hooked, all things end in an argument, and your general emotional state becomes one of frustration and anger.

Since they still strategically bring out their “cute” side, you will constantly justify your relationship with them and live in a world of confusion. It’s a cycle of being mad enough to leave the relationship only to then receive just enough drops to bring you back to it. Repeatedly.

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2. Taking care of them is your business.
   People with this personality disorder want a life of fun, comfort, excitement, and anything outside of fun is not their thing. They’d rather other people (aka you) deal with all the boring or difficult stuff.

In other words, they are sensitive to the words “responsibility” and/or “accountability.” Oh, and those who delay their gratification experience the full fury of Crazy Marker’s indignation.

Remember that they are not in contributory relationships; They are here to receive them and for someone else to take care of them. These narcissists always want more than they give and don’t care how you feel about it.

3. They are selfish.
   This is their central feature. Crazy Makers does not operate in relationships with an ounce of empathy or fairness. Their idea of fairness is that they get exactly what they want at the moment they want it. They feel they deserve it.

They are stubborn, opinionated, unreliable, and refuse to perform when asked (even though they expect you to do so). They are willful in their desire to annoy others all the time and they act as if everyone outside of them is overreacting. It is their world and you are just a visitor.

4. They are never wrong. never.
   Self-centered creatures, Crazy Makers live in a world of complete distortion. They see themselves as victims of their circumstances.

From their point of view, they are never wrong, they are never wrong, and their motives are always pure intent. They take no responsibility for their behavior.

One of the craziest signs you’re in love with a narcissist is their inability to tell the difference between important and unimportant things. They argue about everything and nothing, often making a fuss about the least important matters.

Dusting off deflects their responsibility from the issue at hand and throws their victims off target. They will use anything to justify their anger while pointing out that you are, in fact, wrong. They only see certain “facts” and cancel out all other useful (or fair) information.

5. They throw tantrums.
   Wow, do these people have tantrums because of science, maybe even an art form. They make a lot of noise when they are not satisfied right away, and often throw verbal threats, excuses, and justifications to get their demands met right away.

Their other favorite method is to pretend you don’t exist. They’ll ignore you while you’re talking, walk right by you, or make noise in one form or another until you lash out (so they can blame you for your “anger”) or give in because it’s not worth fighting for. Any reaction encourages the course because Crazy Maker has got its way.

6. They “accidentally” annoy you on purpose.
   Mad makers act in subtle, hostile ways, so no matter how you react, you’re wrong. Being driven mad by their chronic forgetfulness, dragging feet, tardiness, withholding of affection, and stubbornness is par for the course.

They are also fond of being provoked with nonverbal behaviors such as eye-rolling, shrugging, loud sighing, smiling, under-the-breath comments, and sarcasm. an aberration. Their goal is to invite you into a rage so that you look at the mistake and easily give up responsibility.

To make matters worse, Crazy Makers then makes insincere apologies claiming innocence with passive-aggressive statements like: “All I said was…” or “I just meant…” implying that you are “too sensitive” or “taking things the wrong way.” “

7. Nobody runs them (because they’re the boss, obviously).
   These people are especially annoyed when others try to tell them what to do. “I’ll do it in a minute…” and “Geez, I was going to do it; just relax…” are their most famous lines.

They still take action until they feel so angry that they do it to themselves. Or they react with anger and indignation when asked to cooperate or comply. They see a request as a request and cooperation as a submission.

Chronic delay is the preferred strategy for reinstating dominance if forced into compliance. Crazy Makers recognize the opportunity to promise others an arrangement that is beneficial to all involved, knowing that they will likely choose to disappoint everyone’s hopes by backing out or showing up late (just because they can). They even train themselves to be sensitive to what others want and need just so they can avoid giving it to them.

If you try to hold them accountable, they will simply deflect by saying, with false honesty, “I’m sorry” or “I screwed up.” But they are not sorry. They will turn around and make the same “mistake” over and over again. Their apologies quickly became more offensive than the original.

Unfortunately, something Crazy Makers withholds most often is emotional support. Sometimes they stand up for the indefensible just to be tough.

They do not see others as “people”. They see others as objects whose purpose is to serve their satisfaction. They do not empathize with the feelings and needs of others.

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Here are some smart strategies to help:

Keep your wits about you. Critical thinking skills are the most important thing you need in these relationships. Crazy Makers masterfully disconnects you from rational thinking. It distracts, deflects, and confuses you to throw you off balance. So if you get confused, don’t do or say anything until you have time to clear it up. It sounds easy and simple, but it is very difficult to implement because when we feel exploited, we resort to very primitive responses. Before we know it we are defending ourselves.
Don’t let them isolate you. Mad makers like to take you alone as there is no one else around to question them. Always communicate with them via text, email, or in public. Avoid verbal conversations between two people. In public, getting up and leaving is an option. In a text/email, reply on your own time. If a crazy maker is verbally isolating you, he’s going to win. Verbal warfare is their best skill, as they will soon trick you into telling them more than you want (and then they will use it against you).
Listen to your intuition. If you find yourself straying too far from your normal behavior, this is the first clue that you are in a toxic dynamic. Listen carefully. If you are feeling or acting crazy, remember that lost people waste us. If you have taken…face the reality about it and stop the conversation and interaction with this person immediately. You don’t owe them to keep arguing.
Get external verification of your status. Explain the situation to someone you trust and ask for help reconnecting with the thinking part of your brain. Are you misinterpreting things or does this behavior, indeed, seem crazy to them too?
Do the opposite of Crazy Maker. If they argue, don’t argue. If they want excitement and drama, avoid being dramatic. If they ignore you trying to convince you to chase them, don’t chase them. If you remain boring, they will eventually leave you alone. Keep your thinking open and your mouth closed. Silence is often the best way to calm down annoying people. What they want more than anything is your attention and they will run and jump all over the place and bark constantly to get it.
Choose your battles. Don’t take action when you are angry. Crazy Makers uses your anger to turn you around and win. You will never convince them they are wrong, so don’t waste your time trying. Learn not to waste your breath.
Ignore their tantrums. Their tantrums come in many forms, so beware. The thing to remember about tantrums is that they only make noise. They are trying to bully you and get under your skin so that you do what they want. They provoke you on purpose so ignore their noise and call their hoax. set emergencies such as a 15-minute delay policy; If they didn’t show up at the appointed time, they left. If they shout. He left the room. If they play martyr, don’t bother with it. If they ignore you to make you feel unimportant, don’t chase them.

Never explain yourself. Crazy Makers use misdirection and confusion to throw you off balance and put you on the defensive until you begin to explain yourself. Remember, the lower you are, the more ammo you give them to use against you. It doesn’t matter if you’re right, Crazy Makers are out to get you to defend yourself before they step in for the kill. The more you talk the stronger they feel. Because these people love attention, control, power, and silence, and not engaging in the conversation they are provoking drives them crazy! One way to avoid these arguments is to keep talking about the current problem and use the language of “I want to find a solution to today’s problem.”

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Know that there is no help for people with this personality disorder, they are stuck in their controlling reptilian brains causing chaos and drama wherever they go.

Don’t take it personally – they are like that with everyone. He’s not unique to you, no matter what they might say to make you think you’re the only person they have problems with.