Energy vampires are emotionally immature individuals who believe the whole world revolves around them. We can all be energy givers or takers at times. What are energy vampires and do they exist? How do you deal with toxic energy vampires?
We’ve all heard of those people who drain us, bring us down, and spread negativity just by being in the room. And you want to know how to deal with negative people who take up your energy.
I think some people can engage in vampire-like energy behavior without even knowing it. Some people do this with conscious intention. Either way, I believe in energy vampires and that’s because I’ve had many first-hand experiences.
My first experience with an energy vampire gave me a real physical sensation that I wasn’t expecting at all.
I was on a mentor training retreat several years ago and we were all working hard on a certain aspect of hypnosis work. The guide was working with a member of our group and we were all watching.
Two or three times during the conversation between these two, the guide mentioned “vampire-like behavior”. Finally, the exercise ended with the mentor yelling at the participant, “Damn it, stop your vampire-like behavior when I’m trying to teach you something!”
Honestly, I had no idea what was going on, and the experience kind of left me with my mouth hanging. The group teacher had never shouted before.
Then it’s my turn.
After this other person was yelled at, it was my turn to do the same exercise with this mentor. I went through the instructions with trepidation, and for whatever reason, he didn’t yell at me.
After my workout was complete it was time to rest and we headed outside on a beautiful sunny day for refreshments. We were in a location in nature with many trees, so it was a great place to relax and refresh.
While I was talking to another colleague, this person who was being yelled at appeared and stood next to us.
Energy is being drained
I began to feel pressure on the left side of my body (it was standing to my left) and then a sensation of “teeth,” like tubes, being inserted into my side. It was physical as if he was touching me!
At the same time, this person asked me, “How did you manage to do this exercise correctly, Sarah?”
It was incredibly uncomfortable and somewhat scary! At that time, I continued my (intermittent) conversation with the other student, and then the instinct kicked in because I started to feel a sucking sensation.
In my head, I said, “Damn it!”
miss. it worked. The participant untied the energy vampire “tubes” (or whatever they were) and walked off to another group.
It sure is interesting when this first happens.
I have to say, I think my approach to the situation above was fairly effective, if not particularly elegant!
There is a lot of talk about “protecting” negative energy in spiritual circles. In my case, I think what happened is that I hastily redefined my boundaries once I realized they were being breached.
Later, I talked to my teacher about it—I remember him laughing because my eyes were like saucers—and he explained that I had just reached another level of awareness and sensitivity and that it was time to find ways to honor those abilities.
I don’t remember not being able to eat chicken for at least 6 months after this experience either. Encounter an energy vampire with a direct energy exchange around my energy as well.
We can all be energy givers or takers at times.
Do your best to steer clear of judgment about being an energy vampire. It is important to understand that when someone is emitting a lot of energy – or “chi” – we are drawn to that.
Just take a moment to think of your favorite music star or TV actor. What happens when you see them on TV or even meet them in person at a concert or publicity event?
If you were in this position, did you feel empowered to access some of what they have?
The star quality is strong and charismatic and many of the big stars have a huge stage presence. With their talents, they can increase their energy and connect with their audience, which makes a big stadium event very personal.
So we all get in touch with our energy sometimes.
What do you do when your energy is taken without your permission by negative people with vampire-like abilities?
After all, you didn’t ask for this. Letting an energy vampire take you (once you realize it) is the same activity as having someone steal your wallet. And nobody likes that!
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If you’re with someone who makes you feel overwhelmed, here are 4 things you need to do to restore your energetic balance.
- Find some way to re-create your boundaries
Use conversation, space, or energy to make sure you don’t feel crowded or invaded. And saying something in your head will work more often!
If you can leave, do so. If that’s not possible, find some way to break contact, even breaking eye contact will help.
- Imagining something sacred between you and the person involved may also cut off communication
It sounds strange, it works. When I had a guy tease me while waiting in line for fast food, I imagined Archangel Michael between him and me.
He left as soon as I did. I am so proud of this!
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- Find out what the energy vampire is trying to get from you
In a training retreat, what a person sought was knowledge—and through osmosis rather than learning it themselves.
Knowing what gets drained more often can help you figure out a way to stop the leak. And knowledge by osmosis never works unless there is complete agreement, in the case of a mentoring arrangement between two people, for example.
- When you can remove yourself from the situation, see if you need to clear yourself
This will give you space and time to figure out what’s going on and focus on things.
As you become more aware and aware of the energy dynamics between you and others, you will realize that energetic give and take goes on all the time.
Real growth comes when you can learn to sense what is going on in the present moment and then decide what you want to do about it. We can all be givers and takers at times.
