People who have been in narcissistic relationships know what happens when you finally end up dumping a narcissist. Being in a toxic relationship with a narcissist is emotionally and mentally draining, to say the least, and if you’ve ever been, you know exactly what I’m talking about.

The sad part is that when you’re in love with a narcissist, there will be good times, and there will be times when everything seems normal, happy, and romantic. However, the rest of the time, you will be humiliated, abused, manipulated, and made to feel unimportant and unimportant. This is the harsh truth about being in a narcissistic relationship.

If you want to live a happy, and most importantly peaceful and rational life, you need to stay far, far away from the narcissist, because they only care about themselves. Being with self-absorbed and selfish people like this will only hurt you and destroy your self-esteem. Letting go of a narcissist is one of the best things you can do for yourself.

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How does the narcissist’s mind work?

The most important thing you should know about a narcissist is that they can only love themselves. All they care about are their wants, wants, needs, and feelings; Others can go to hell.

Mentally, they have a low level of organization, even if they look neat and orderly from the outside. They will try to control you and change you according to their needs so that you can “fit” into their life, the way they want it.

Now, when you decide to dump a narcissist, it ends up causing them a massive narcissistic injury, and it completely shatters their facade. In such a situation, they may even consider suicidal ideation, but it is only intended to manipulate you further into not leaving them.

However, if it was they who started to disintegrate, their ego and false pride remain intact. Instead, they like to feel the power they have over you when they choose to leave you and end things for good.

What does a relationship with a narcissist look like?

Narcissist lives in a superficial world where they consider themselves to be nothing but God. In their minds, they are smart, witty, wealthy, the best, and the best they will ever be. This is also known as the “greatness gap” – the abyss between his sense of entitlement and his inflated delusions – and his reality and his unequal accomplishments.

For them, you are just a source of narcissism to them, pray for those they need to feed, to maintain their narcissistic and delusional world. As long as they are getting their narcissistic supply from you, everything is fine in their world, and the minute it stops, they start to crash.

What you need or expect from them doesn’t matter in the least, and in some cases is seen as a threat. The fact that you are lucky enough to have his “love” and “attention” should be enough for you to be happy. Expect nothing else to offend them.

The narcissist will choose to be with you as long as you are useful to them, i.e. they can put a spotlight on you, manipulate you, and make you do whatever they want. The minute you stop or start seeing their games, they will kick you to the curb.

In their delusional world, they believe they must have the best of everything, especially a partner or spouse. Their significant other must be amazing, beautiful, talented, and highly qualified. Anything less than this is simply not good enough for them.

And God forbid, you are not the perfect human specimen, they will go out of their way to make your life a living hell. If you are not their perfect creation, they will treat you like trash.

The importance of letting go of the narcissist

If you want to keep your sanity and live a happy and peaceful life, breaking up with a narcissist is a must. It’s important to move on from a toxic relationship like this and focus on living a life just for yourself, the way you want it.

When you end up dumping a narcissist, the reaction is nothing short of volcanic and upsetting, because narcissists can never imagine that they will be the ones to be dumped, rather than the other way around. Their superiority complex makes them blind to their toxicity and reality.

You finally feel sure you’ve had enough of their negativity and manipulation and left them behind to start a new life. I have never felt better.

What happens when you give up on a narcissist?

One very important thing that you should know about a narcissist is that they are absolutely afraid of being abandoned. They have serious abandonment issues, and no matter what they pretend to be on the outside, being dumped and abandoned is one of their worst nightmares.

Narcissists are incredibly insecure human beings on the inside, which is why they are always trying to put others down to feel powerful about themselves. So you can imagine how upset, angry, and vengeful they will feel when you leave them. They will resort to many things to keep you from leaving them.

Here are some of the most common things narcissists do to manipulate you into not leaving them:

• They will make you feel guilty for leaving them by emotional manipulation and blackmailing you.
• They will beg and beg you not to leave them, making false promises that they will change for you.
• They will threaten you with dire consequences if you do not change your mind.
• They will launch smear campaigns and put their flying monkeys on you to further humiliate you in front of others.
• They will resort to love bombing to manipulate you into believing that they love you.

Grief after abandonment by a narcissist

No matter how horrible a narcissist is to you, after letting go, you will grieve. Not because you have to, but because it will come naturally to you. They may not have loved you in the truest sense of the word, but you did. So you grieve not only for the lost relationship but also for what you lost in the process.

Being in a narcissistic relationship and even getting out of one takes a lot out of you; Your experience makes you believe that you will never be able to love or trust someone again. You mourn the innocence you lost, you mourn the optimism you lost, and you mourn your old age.

The grieving process you go through is never a linear one, rather you will experience a range of emotions that will leave you confused and even heartbroken. Sometimes you may feel shocked and sometimes you may feel happy. Then sometimes you feel lost and distraught, then sometimes you feel freer and happier than before.

After this stage, you start to feel angry and angry, because you realize how badly you were treated, and it takes some time for you to deal with these feelings. Once you go through the painful fire of anger and anger, you finally accept everything that happened, and then you find peace. You accept it all, cry your heart out, and finally try to move on from the past.

You may even find the courage to forgive the narcissist because you are now wise enough to understand that forgiveness does not mean it never happened, it means that you accept that it happened and the only way to close the chapter for good and heal is by letting it go for good.

All of these stages are important for you to truly move on, and if you try to skip any of them, they will catch up with you and afterward you will feel worse than ever. Grieve what you need to grieve so that you can finally find peace and happiness in your life.

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Do you need to forgive a narcissist?

The ability to forgive is a great quality to have, but sometimes it’s hard to do. Especially when you have to forgive a toxic and narcissistic person. However, one thing you should always keep in mind is that forgiveness is more about forgiving than forgiving.

When you forgive a narcissist, it does not mean that you are condoning their behavior or pretending as if what they did was not harmful or offensive. You forgive them because you want to walk away from the pain they caused you and start your life over. It’s never about them, it’s about you and your peace of mind. always.

After letting go of the narcissist, try to forgive them, as this is a very important part of your emotional and mental recovery.

Is it okay to be friends with a narcissist?

To be honest, trying to stay friends with a narcissist, especially after breaking up with them, isn’t an attractive prospect. It is very difficult for narcissists to be nice and kind to others unless they need something from you. So after you dump a narcissist, don’t expect for a moment that they will be civil to you.

They will be furious, angry, insulted, and vindictive at you because it is much more difficult for them to accept the fact that you left them than they left you (which was their plan all along, from the start).

I’ve been in a couple of narcissistic relationships before, and let me tell you from personal experience that being friends with a narcissistic ex is one of the worst decisions you can make. Because no matter how amazing you are, they will always go out of their way to treat you like trash, just until they feel the power for a few seconds.

The only circumstances that might be nice for you are the following:

• If you unintentionally act as a narcissist.
• They need something from you.
• They are preparing an elaborate plan to take revenge on you, which is why they are so kind to you at the moment.
• They want you back in their lives, not because they love you, but because you are the best kind of narcissistic supply for them.

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