Open communication in marriage is critical to building trust, resolving conflicts, and creating a strong relationship with your spouse. Learn how to make your relationship a safe space!

Wondering how to make your wife feel safe? Read below!

It is good for you to wonder what makes your wife feel safe and secure. Many men do not and as a result, their marriages fail.

Open communication in marriage is important for it to be successful
Learn how to communicate with your spouse for a successful marriage
I know that when I was married, my husband tried to make me feel safe. He worked hard, walked by the wayside, and predicted what action he would take in every bad scenario, but he never really made me feel safe.

We’re now divorced – no surprise.

So, what’s the number one thing that makes your wife feel safe and secure?

You will love this – really. I know it’s very hard but you can do it!

The number one thing that makes your wife feel safe and secure – is communication! Well, now you know — let me tell you why and how you can communicate in a way that makes your spouse feel safe and secure.

The importance of communication in marriage to make your spouse feel safe

If you communicate with your wife, she will trust you.
Well, this can be hard to understand.

How can communication with your wife make her trust you?

Ask yourself – do you know what goes through your wife’s head every day? Do you know if she has a problem, feel hopeful about the future, wonder who will pick the kids up from school, and how will she be able to go to the gym?

I guess maybe not.

And she probably can’t read your mind either.

So there you are, going about your day, you have no idea how your spouse feels, you don’t know the things they’re managing, and you’re probably struggling to manage them.

If you talk to each other, things will change dramatically.

For example, if your wife is frustrated with all the things on her plate, and you ask her what’s going on, she’ll know that you care about her. If you ask her how she’s doing, she can celebrate with you that she’s doing well or share that she’s struggling. If you tell her you’ve had a crazy day and you won’t be home in time for dinner, she may be disappointed but she can plan accordingly.

In all of these cases, talking to each other is what makes your woman feel secure because it makes her trust you and trusts that you are open and transparent with her.

Talking to her makes her feel seen and heard. Talking to her makes her feel confident that you know what’s going on in your life. Talking to her makes her secure that she can trust you to help her manage her moods and all the crazy things going on in your life.

I know communication can be a challenge for men. Women spend 24/7 reaching out to the other women in their lives and they always have. As a result, communication is easy. Men have not exercised that muscle as much and so they struggle with it.

But you can do that. If the goal is to make your spouse feel safe and secure, communication can make your spouse trust you and thus feel that way.

If you communicate with your wife, she will feel loved.
For women, a lot of feeling safe and loved feels like being heard and appreciated. It is said that we do things well and that we notice. It sympathizes when we struggle.

Think of the times when you and your spouse were forced to communicate. It might be due to a fight. Maybe it’s because you needed to coordinate the kids’ hockey schedule. Maybe it’s because you go out to dinner and spend a few hours at the table from each other, talking about this and that.

While uncomfortable, I’m sure the fight was, to some extent at least, a form of communication. And if the conflict is resolved and the issue is brought up, then this is a success for both of you. Do you often find that you have sex after an argument after being forced to communicate? And I think sex makes her feel safe and secure, right?

Maybe if the two of you talk about making a plan for soccer weekend, she’ll know that you’ll be a part of how things come together and that she’s not alone in making things happen. That would be good so that she wouldn’t have to take the entire load on her shoulders.

Maybe it was just a night out, you two. We talk about this and that but actually, we talk to each other and not to each other.

In all of these cases, you make your wife feel safe and secure. You make her feel loved. And feeling loved is what a woman wants, more than almost anything in the world!

If you communicate with your spouse, you will stay in touch.
The number one thing that causes a marriage to fall apart is a lack of communication.

Think about when you were together for the first time. Didn’t you stay up late at night talking about your hopes and dreams? You don’t spend many hours making plans for a weekend getaway or a vacation. Were there regular dinner parties that talked about sports, clothes, pets, and holidays?

Didn’t you feel connected? So connected that you asked her to marry you.

And now, here you are, even though it’s been many years down the road and that connection has fallen apart.

Kids, work, business, money, extended family, and all the mundane things in everyday life, have gotten in the way of you and your spouse feeling connected.

And when your wife doesn’t feel connected, she doesn’t feel safe and secure.

Talking to you, her life and love partner will allow her to feel the connection she once felt, and to feel loved, safe, and certain about the future.

Again, if your wife feels attached to you, she is more likely to want to have sex with you. If that isn’t enough of an argument to work on your communication skills, I don’t know what is.

So there you go, why communication is the #1 thing that makes your spouse feel safe and secure.

I know the idea is scary. That you don’t think you can communicate in a way that makes her feel all of those things (although you probably know that you can, in this case, do!)

What I want to remind you of is that you can communicate. I mean, you did it at the beginning of your relationship, well enough that she agreed to marry you. So, can we dig deep, find that connection power, and start working on it?

I would encourage you to talk to someone (specifically me!) to help you work on building your communication skills. There are also some great social media articles and videos that can help you.

All of this being said, there is one method of communication that won’t make your wife feel safe and secure — listening to her and then trying to fix it.

Women want to be heard and sympathized with – they are not fixed. I would encourage you to consider this because, for many men, the instinct to fix rather than listen is almost innate. If you can recognize this and try to listen and not fix it, it will go a long way toward making your spouse feel safe and secure.

This is the video I love. It shows (humorously) how to communicate with your woman to make her feel loved and not to be fixed.

You can make your wife feel safe and secure. I know you can!

The importance of communication in relationships is reflected when one is attentive, makes time for meaningful conversations, handles conflicts effectively, and continually improves communication skills. If you’ve learned how to communicate with your spouse, share your thoughts below!

So there you go, why communication is the #1 thing that makes your spouse feel safe and secure.

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