Narcissist Grandiosity Explained

Grandiosity is a key component of most narcissistic personalities. It’s where the narcissist feels immensely superior, for no apparent reason.

In everyday life, narcissists hide most of their grandiosity, especially with those they aren’t close to. But they can’t hide it indefinitely, so it manifests in various forms.

In this article, I’ll discuss my observations about narcissistic grandiosity and how it manifests in their daily lives…

Conversations

Narcissists often display grandiosity through their way of speaking. And this way—it’s exhausting!

Narcissists are completely mesmerized by the words they say and assume everyone else is too.

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So, they dominate conversations by taking over most of the talking and directing them to their favorite topics—usually themselves.

Narcissists don’t like to listen to conversations because everyone is beneath them and they don’t have much to offer. Therefore, it’s their job to dominate the conversation because they have a wealth of knowledge to share.

Narcissists seem completely oblivious to the fact that people don’t care about the smallest details of their day, or the things that only matter to them. In their eyes, they are so important, and everyone hangs on their every word.

From Hero To Victim

Many narcissists play the victim to gain attention and gain approval from others. But at the same time, they can’t resist flaunting their arrogance. Thus, you find a contradiction in words and actions.

A narcissist may cry about their poverty one moment and then show off their new designer jacket the next.

They may boast about how well they manage their life, hinting at their superiority over you, and then expect you to help them with their problems.

Narcissists oscillate between hero and victim, trying to get the best of both worlds. But deep down, they know who’s more important.

Narcissists Expect Everyone to Focus on Them

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As you know, narcissists often focus on themselves. But on top of that, they expect others to share their enthusiasm.

Narcissists demand excessive attention from others, even though they don’t care about anyone else. They don’t see this as hypocrisy because they believe they are far more important.

There are many ways I’ve seen narcissists expect excessive attention from others in their lives. One of the most common is when they have a “problem.” Instead of sharing it, they expect everyone to understand and know what’s going on in their mind.

A narcissist often feels offended when no one recognizes their “distress.” They may make a fuss, complaining that no one cares, even if all they have to do is tell people.

This is because the narcissist is frustrated that people don’t think about them constantly. They think they do, so they make a fuss to force them to do so.

Narcissists Are Never Wrong

Narcissists are so arrogant that they never believe they’re wrong. This is, of course, unrealistic. So, narcissists have to force themselves to accept this.

They deny any mistakes they make. They engage in illogical, circular arguments when they lose an argument. They blame others, even when they’re clearly wrong.

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Narcissists often consider their opinions to be facts, even with the flimsiest of evidence. Therefore, they may become angry when others disagree with them. They believe they’re wrong if they don’t share their opinions.

Entertainment Time

When it comes to going out for a night, narcissists often aren’t content with just going to a local bar. Especially if it’s their birthday. They have to travel long distances to a fancy venue and attract as many people as possible.

Narcissists care about appearances. To look popular, they invite half the world and pressure them to attend.

Narcissists value annoying people. The more people they annoy, the more important they feel. So, they invite as many people as possible to travel far and wide just to feel important. Some take this to an extreme, expecting everyone to travel abroad for their birthday party.

Narcissists also overvalue day trips. They don’t just stroll around their local park; they travel long distances to do the same.

Narcissists don’t engage in leisure activities for fun; they are a demonstration of their grandeur, both to themselves and to others. So, they make them difficult and complicated, simply to satisfy their ego.

Judge and Jury

Narcissists’ arrogance is manifested in their belief that they alone determine right and wrong, and that their judgment is final.

Narcissists believe they have the right to punish people because they are the arbiters of truth and justice. Therefore, what they say stands.

Narcissists don’t realize that others also believe they’re right. There are so many different points of view. In the narcissist’s mind, they’re right, and that’s all there is to it.

I’ve heard narcissists say, “I know I’m right” on complex topics, without any evidence to support their claim. It’s an astonishing level of grandiosity when you think about it.

Infatuated With Their Grandiosity

Narcissists often become infatuated with their grandiosity. They pay exorbitant sums for certain products and services.

If a credit card is labeled “Platinum,” the narcissist must have it. Narcissists upgrade their memberships to VIP status, even though they don’t need it. Just to confirm their grandiosity.

Narcissists may convince people to buy a new car they can’t afford or a house they’re overburdened with. All to appear more successful than they are.

Skilled salespeople often understand the narcissist’s vanity and exploit it by telling them that their product or service is for important people like them. The narcissist buys into this.

Risk

Narcissists believe their own hype to the point where they feel the universe owes them. They feel they’re destined for greatness, even though they’ve done nothing.

This drives narcissists to take unnecessary risks, firmly believing they’re lucky.

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Narcissists may neglect their health because they’ve inherited a better body. Or they may gamble more than they can afford, believing they’re destined to win big.

This vanity causes many narcissists to struggle with the real world. When you keep taking risks, bad things happen. Narcissists rarely learn from their mistakes because they have someone to blame.

Narcissistic Paranoid

At its most extreme, a narcissist’s arrogance may turn into paranoia. They may worry that the government or other important entities are spying on them or trying to trap them.

The narcissist believes they are extremely important, and it makes sense that these prominent entities would focus on them, even though they live a relatively normal life.

Over time, these thoughts may worsen, and their paranoia may turn into delusional thinking, further detaching them from the real world.

Conspiracy Theories

The narcissist’s arrogance may lead them to believe in conspiracy theories. This may be a result of their own paranoia and delusional thinking, but it is also a result of conspiracy clubs that target grandiose thinkers.

You may have noticed that many conspiracy theorists congratulate themselves on being “woke.” They talk about the lesser “herd” as if they were inferior.

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Top conspiracy theorists make their living by attracting followers by convincing them of their superiority due to the special knowledge they impart. Many narcissists exploit this, using it as proof of their superiority.

Scam

Narcissists sometimes fall for scams because of their vanity. For example, they may fall for foreign dating scams, where someone half their age wants to marry them but needs the money.

The arrogant narcissist never questions the validity of these scams because they believe they are amazing. So, of course, a supermodel half their age wants them. Who wouldn’t?!

They squander their money, believing their awesomeness has finally been appreciated. They never consider it could be a scam until it’s too late.

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