We all know that if we have a troublesome narcissist in our lives, it’s best to cut them off completely.

Stress decreases, while peace of mind increases. Life seems simpler, more enjoyable, and more meaningful. However, some narcissists don’t give up easily.

If you provide a good source of support for a narcissist, they may not leave you without a fight. They may try many tactics to get back into your life. Guilt is one of them.

It’s never easy to cut ties with someone. If you have effective empathy, it’s easy to feel guilty about doing so, no matter how negatively they affect you.

Narcissists feel guilty quickly. They expect you to feel guilty anyway. They’re aware of your high levels of empathy, so they exploit this. They hope your guilt will lead you to make an emotional, rather than logical, decision. The irrational decision is to bring them back into your life.

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They may exaggerate or fabricate health concerns or other issues. They relay messages to people, recounting their suffering. They portray you as turning your back on them, as if you are the sole cause of all their problems.

If you feel guilty, there’s a chance you’ll collapse. You’ll let them back into your life, even if it’s at your own expense. And we don’t want that! So this article aims to help you stop feeling guilty about not reaching out to narcissists…

Narcissists Are Not Your Responsibility

If you’re close to a narcissist, you’ve probably felt responsible for them. Because narcissists manage their relationships so that you’re responsible for their well-being. You’re more of a caregiver than a friend or lover.

Narcissists create this dynamic, so people do what they want. And also to ensure their own well-being. Because empaths feel bad about cutting them out of their lives. Because they’re emotionally invested. Deep down, they understand how fragile the narcissist is and how they struggle to cope when left alone.

However, the narcissist is not your responsibility. Your primary responsibility is yourself. And if the narcissist is harming your life, you owe it to yourself not to reach out to them. If the roles were reversed, they would have abandoned you suddenly.

It’s unfair to expect you to be responsible for another adult. They’re capable of taking care of themselves, if they really wanted to. They wouldn’t do the same to you.

Furthermore, I’m sure you wouldn’t expect anyone to be responsible for you. Especially if you’ve caused them problems, which is avoidable.

Narcissists Don’t Care About You as an Individual

The sad truth is that narcissists care about no one but themselves. They may like what you do for them and enjoy your company. But as an individual, you’re nothing special.

A narcissist’s relationships are transactional, dependent on what people do for them. So, if you stop being useful, they’ll just see you as nothing.

To a narcissist, you’re just a body to keep them company, a commodity to exploit for their own benefit. They don’t care about your personality or uniqueness, your history, or what you’ve done for them. Because of this, they can quickly move on once they find “better” options.

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Not connecting with a narcissist is different from not connecting with a normal person, because normal people experience a deeper level of attachment.

Narcissists may be upset about what they’re missing by not knowing you. But they don’t actually miss you. And once they find a suitable replacement, they quickly forget about you.

A narcissist may have experienced not connecting many times before, because their relationships are usually short-lived due to their difficult nature. Therefore, not connecting is an integral part of many narcissists’ lives.

So don’t worry about how a narcissist handles it. To them, people are essentially the same. As long as they give them what they want. And even though they may tell you otherwise, no one is special—except them.

Not Connecting Opens Doors

One of the most overlooked problems with narcissists is that they often prevent you from attracting good people into your life. This may be intentional, or it may be a result of their nature.

Narcissists take up so much of your time and energy that you don’t get to spend time with others. They literally consume your world. They prevent you from making friends with good people. They may also prevent you from pursuing your goals and spending time on hobbies and interests.

If this is the case, this is a gross injustice to you. You have every right to end friendships or relationships that are harming you and holding you back from moving forward in life.

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Once the narcissist is gone from your life, you have more time and energy to do things for yourself and meet people who genuinely have your best interests at heart, which improves your quality of life. I’ve lived with narcissists in and out of my life. I can attest that life is so much better without them.

Final Thoughts

You have every right to remove someone from your life. It’s your life. No one else has the automatic right to do so, although narcissists often maintain that position.

If a narcissist is making your life worse, you owe it to yourself to get rid of them. Because narcissists usually benefit at your expense. So, in essence, they’re taking from you.

Unplugging is an act of self-care, not selfishness. Although narcissists often describe it as the latter, that’s only because they benefit from your knowledge. In their eyes, not serving them is “selfish.”

That’s why they’re often eager to rekindle “relationships.” To narcissists, you’re a resource waiting to be exploited. They know you don’t see things the same way. And that gives them all the advantages. Because they take, and you give.