We all love text messages, right? A short greeting, “Hello, how are you?”

Maybe you’d love a voice message, a photo, or a video attached to what you send. Text messages connect us!

But what about those texts that destroy a narcissist’s hold on you? Don’t you wish you knew what these messages are and unleashed them on that toxic jerk you know?

Well, I’ll tell you what they are, and exactly how they can destroy them!

Shatter Their World

One text message can completely destroy any hold a narcissist has over you. I know many victims of narcissistic abuse try hard, but they just can’t find the right words.

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I’m sorry.

I’m here.

What can I do to make it better?

Oh, I didn’t mean it.

These texts play into the narcissist’s hands, and that’s what they’re after.

They want to smile knowing they’ve made a positive impact on your day. That impact may be positive for them, but it’s always negative for you. If you handle it right, you can completely destroy their world.

Does that sound interesting?

If you really want to control and eliminate them, you need to combine some of these tips to help you.

The first?

You need to show indifference. Narcissists feed on your reactions. If you give them gray skies, they can’t complain about the rain or the scorching sun. It’s just a normal day, a blank text.

Another good tip is to set firm boundaries. Boundaries show you’re done with their manipulation. They put you back in the driver’s seat.

Finally, you need to remove as much of their influence as possible. You don’t want to, and shouldn’t, be available to them.

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It’s good to get an idea of ​​what works, right?

If this is new to you, you’ll want to start somewhere.

I’d say you’ve already begun to delve into this topic voluntarily.

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So, let’s move on to some examples that might help.

I’m no longer interested in this dynamic. Take care of yourself.

What this does is shorten the conversation and make it clear, ending it. Most importantly, it ends with “Take care of yourself.”

There are no feelings, and it’s final.

The narcissist gives nothing away.

“I no longer need your validation. I wish you well.”

Yes, we wish the best for all narcissists, but we know our wishes won’t get them there. With this message, the control is gone. And you’re free!

“I see through your tricks. I’m not playing games anymore.”

Exposing a narcissist is probably the worst thing you can do to them. They’ll no longer be able to manipulate you once you stand up and tell them you’ve got it.

Any explanation tells them their manipulation is no longer working, and you’re not going to put up with their bullshit anymore.

It’s a powerful message, but it’s an irreversible one.

“I’m done explaining myself. This conversation is over.”

If you keep trying, all they’ll do is mock your effort to try to calm them down or prove your point.

These points will never work, because you’ll never be able to say or do the right thing.

You can justify yourself until your face turns red. Sometimes, if you do it right, they might run away, but most of the time, you’ll just be running up a hill with no water on a sweltering day.

The Real Script To Destroy Them?

This is where we get to what really works, and I feel like I’m cheating by giving you this, because it’s not a script at all.

Actually, it’s nothing.

That’s true.

Silence.

I know you might be thinking, “Alex. Excuse me, what is this? This isn’t what I expected!”

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You’re right, it isn’t. But honestly, has what you’ve done to date been a successful approach to the narcissist in your life?

Probably not.

Often, narcissists are the kind of people you need to understand before you can begin to destroy their hold on you. What do they do? What drives them? How do they reach you?

For many of them, it’s via text message. They send their messages in a way that can throw you off your feet. You’re having a great day, and then you realize what they mean.

Sometimes they’re downright abusive, other times they’re more subtle, but you know what they mean.

The lack of surprise kisses that tells you they’re upset with you. The laughing emoji when you tell them you’re feeling unwell.

The passive-aggressive thumbs-up emoji when you cancel plans because your car won’t start and you won’t arrive.

Then you start thinking, in your overly anxious mind…

How can I improve this?

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It’s not your job to improve everything all the time. You can lose power completely when someone tries to please others in a situation.

If you want to destroy their control over you (because that’s exactly what they mean), you have to impose a kind of silence that diminishes their ego.

The very ego they feel they can impose on you.

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Well, this shouldn’t work, and you can do it whenever you receive a message you’d normally panic upon reading.

Turn off your phone. Remain silent. Be yourself.

A moment to reclaim your power and set clear boundaries means you refuse to fall into or engage in their toxic cycle. Yes, it’s possible for a narcissist to get upset with you and make you feel bad.

These are triggers that push you to apologize and push you back into bad, unhealthy habits.

By agreeing to this, you’re giving them back control. Why?

The dynamics only change when something inside them changes.

Silence is golden, and in this case, you have to see it as an opportunity to win.

You want to break control without exception. You want to break the cycle of abuse. You want to come back strong.

Silence is a debilitating tactic for dealing with a narcissist. When you see how easy it is to cling to your life and control it as you wish, there’s rarely a retreat.

So what are you waiting for?