Life’s all about putting in the effort, right? But you know what? Sometimes, you don’t even have to try; it just happens.
That’s what narcissists do when you want to drive them crazy.
Narcissists hate it when you drive them crazy, but when it happens, you’ll know.
They’ll curse you out and try to fight you in their own toxic way, but hey, it was accidental, right?
Isn’t it?
Why would you want to?
I know it’s weird to think about wanting to do something negative to the person you’ve become attached to.
It’s not like you’re cruel or playing games, but you know, sometimes you don’t even have to try to drive a narcissist crazy.
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Sometimes, it just happens.
- Ignore them, even for a little while
Narcissists are known to thrive on attention, but who are they without it?
You can make them feel fear, anger, or admiration; it doesn’t matter.
What matters is that you’re harnessing your energy to give it to them. The moment you stop, they go crazy.
Why Do They Go Crazy?
I’ll give you three reasons!
They think they’re the center of your world, and this completely undermines that belief.
If you don’t acknowledge them, you distort their sense of importance. Their ego is damaged!
It forces them to realize that they don’t really control you—which is always true.
How They Can Accidentally Ignore Them
Sometimes we get busy, right? We don’t mean to ignore people; it just happens. You might be busy with someone else, or stuck in a work situation.
If the narcissist isn’t a priority, you’ll trigger them.
This also includes ignoring their jokes, or not responding to them when they try to provoke you.
What about their reaction?
Depending on the narcissist, you can expect passive-aggressive comments, guilt trips, or even sudden disappearances that prompt you to pursue them.
Is it really so horrible for a narcissist to ignore you…?
- Setting and Sticking to Boundaries
You know your boundaries irritate the narcissist, which is probably why you’ve been so eager to let them go.
You don’t want trouble, inconvenience, or applause from them if you dare to assert yourself, so you don’t bother.
The fun part comes when you automatically become someone who sets boundaries and refuses to change them for anyone.
Why Do It Is It Is Them Risky? Not having boundaries leads to problems. Their presence leads to these things.
They expect you to always give in to their demands, but you don’t.
Boundaries mean they can no longer communicate with you endlessly. Great!
This shows them that their manipulation hasn’t worked. How irritating!
How Do You Set Boundaries?
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You have to learn to say no without over-justifying yourself. You don’t owe it to them, and you should never let them make you feel guilty about doing something.
Ending a conversation when it starts to escalate, or history will repeat itself.
Seeing Their Reaction
Tantrums? Explosions? Accusations?
You don’t expect anything less from an emotionally disturbed person.
In other words: I can’t manipulate you anymore!
- Happiness Without Them
Happiness is the only thing that drives a narcissist crazy, and there’s no point in trying to make it happen. Just be.
Narcissists want to be in charge of your mood, including your happiness.
If they aren’t, and you’re doing everything yourself, they’ll drive you crazy.
Why Does This Drive Them Crazy?
Narcissists believe your happiness must depend on them, and if you’re happy without them, it means they can’t control your emotions anymore.
Talk about triggering their inner emptiness!
What Sudden Happiness Looks Like
Start feeling excited about the little things again. A hobby or accomplishment they didn’t have a hand in, or enjoying time with friends or family without asking for their permission.
Just live your life.
And what about their reaction?
If the narcissist isn’t trying to sabotage your happiness, they’ll just ignore it as if it doesn’t matter to them.
And who cares, right?
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Do it anyway!
- Expose Their Lies
And why wouldn’t you? What if it drives them crazy?
If you’re expected to tolerate a narcissist being around you, they’ll have to deal with the consequences when you notice something is wrong.
Why Drive Them Crazy
Think about it. A narcissist’s self-image is built entirely on deception.
They tolerate being made to feel or look stupid, or to be caught. If you start exposing them, it means you care.
Exposing Lies
It may start as innocently as recalling a detail they hoped you’d forget. You might say something like:
That’s not what I said last time. No matter how calmly you say it, you can laugh at their exaggerations instead of being impressed. That’s all it takes.
And their reaction?
Watch for the narcissist to double down on their lie or change the subject. If you’re really unlucky, they may become aggressive and/or defensive.
- Not Afraid to Walk Away
I applaud anyone who can openly and honestly decide they’re fed up with life with a narcissist.
If you can avoid being manipulated to keep you, you’ll always have the upper hand.
You don’t have to threaten or make a big deal out of it; you can just shrug and say, “You know what? I’m done here.”
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The narcissist’s influence over you won’t help if you do.
Why Does It Make Them Crazy?
They don’t want to lose control of you, always assuming you’ll need them.
If you’re happy to walk away, you don’t see them as important as they see you.
Walk Away? Really?
Can you calmly walk away from a toxic conversation? Walking away doesn’t have to mean going on forever, but it could mean, “This conversation isn’t satisfying to me.
I’m leaving.” You’re showing them that you’re putting yourself first, before any drama they’re trying to stir up.
See Their Reaction
Oh my, expect the smears to start right away! They want to push you away, and if they can’t, the smear campaign will soon follow.
If you can handle that without getting upset, you’re doing yourself a huge favor.
- Refuse to Engage in the Drama
Drama isn’t good for you, so let the world—including the narcissist—know that you won’t be a part of their conversation.
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Again, it’s about taking control away from the narcissist and giving it back to you.
Why Does This Mad Them?
If you’re not participating, they have nothing to gain.
Reread this.
How To Refuse Their Drama
You can respond to their anger with “Okay.” Tell them you feel “It’s okay.”
Refuse to argue about something pointless. It’s just a waste of energy and time, and always do so calmly.
Observe Their Reaction
Guilt.
Tears.
Escalation.
The Silent Treatment.
Watch and wait, but either way, they’ll go crazy!
