Affirmations are positive phrases that help people cope with negative thoughts or feelings.
You may have heard them before, but you haven’t thought about using them in your own personal situation.
As a survivor of narcissistic abuse, I won’t promise to understand your feelings, but I do promise to guide you to a proven method to help you heal.
Nothing this important will be solved overnight, but affirmations are a powerful tool to trust.
These 20 affirmations for narcissistic abuse survivors will help you find your starting point.
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It’s time to stop believing the stories your narcissist has told you.
Affirmations are much more than just words you repeat to yourself. They are a tool to help you heal and recover.
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While there are thousands to choose from, only a few will truly resonate with you, your personal experience, and the trauma of narcissistic abuse.
In fact, the affirmations I offer you all have transformative power.
Why Positivity Is the Healing Path to Narcissistic Recovery
Narcissistic abuse leaves scars that erode our self-confidence. Under the narcissist’s control, victims learn to comply and remain compliant, losing their ability to be empowered.
This was never your fault.
Narcissists are bullies, and bullies respond well to fear. In fact, your fear has fueled theirs over time. That’s why they wanted it so badly.
And now you can turn your fear into faith.
Faith that affirmations will help you regain your true self.
Now—let’s take a look at them.
20 Affirmations You Need Right Now to Continue Surviving
1 I Am Confident in My Choices
Let’s be honest—there was a time when you weren’t confident in your choices. You were often told they were wrong or stupid, so you learned to agree with your abuser for peace.
Now you can reclaim that power.
2 I am forgiving
No one is asking you to forgive those who have wronged you until you understand what forgiveness means to you.
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Some see it as letting go of the past, while others see it as compassion for them and their circumstances.
Right now, forgiveness may simply be forgiving yourself for what you’ve learned.
3 I am healing
With each passing day, you are healing more than you realize.
And no, it’s not linear. Some days will feel like one step backward, and others will feel like two steps forward.
All days are healing days.
4 Time is healing me
There’s no doubt about it.
Time is the greatest healer, but you can’t speed it up, and sometimes it feels very slow.
Think of narcissistic abuse as a broken arm. Will it heal the next day, or even the next week, or the next month? No. Of course not. It takes time.
So appreciate it, understanding that you are healing through it.
5 I Have Strong Boundaries
You may not have had boundaries before, but they’re getting stronger every day, just like you.
When you said yes, you can now say no without guilt.
And when you said no to yourself, you now start saying yes.
6 I Can Respond, Not React
Narcissists want you to react. They love seeing your face when it’s filled with pain and suffering.
By responding, you can remain calm, even detached. Not giving them anything will make them angry, but it will make you feel stronger.
7 I Am Strong
You’ve always been strong, so you fought hard for the relationship to work.
But now, the pressure to make something toxic, something perfect, is gone.
Instead, you can build your emotional and mental strength.
8 I Survived All of My Bad Days
Every day I went through, no matter how hard I suffered, I survived.
I know this may not seem like a big deal, but you made it through.
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Now that the worst is over, and your abuser is gone, you can shape your days.
9 I Am More Than My Story
I get easily forgotten amidst all the trauma, right?
But you are not your story, and you have every right to be you, without the stigma of trauma being tagged with every step you take.
10 I Deserve Happiness and Joy
You deserved it from the start, but it will become clearer the more you convince yourself of it. Start now.
11 I Am Capable
No one’s ability can change based on what others think of them. A narcissist will never be able to take away what you’re capable of simply by telling you about it—they make it seem as if they are.
12 Life is Beautiful
It is. Every part of it is beautiful, and when you open your eyes to it fully, you will see it, live it, and experience it.
13 It Wasn’t My Fault
A crucial affirmation in recovering from narcissism—and I recommend it as one of my top three.
It Was Never Your Fault. It will take time to undo your programming to believe this.
But you can do it.
14 My Reality Is Real
And all this time, you’ve been told it’s not. When a narcissist deceives you, your reality is covered up by their lies and their version of the truth—which only flatters them.
15 I Can Shine
It’s never too late to start over, no matter how old you are or how long the abuse lasted.
If you can see each day as a new opportunity to live the way you want to and heal from that pain, you will move forward on that journey.
16 Love Myself
You must love yourself. You will soon realize that no one on earth has the right to take that away from you.
This is where the initiative comes in.
17 I am here to protect myself
And that is what you must do. You owe it to yourself to provide yourself with the comfort and support you need. For a long time, you put your abuser first because you have a kind heart.
What if you channeled that kindness into your own personality? This affirmation will help you do just that.
18 Trauma Is Not a Permanent Residence
Most people still believe that trauma is something we all have to live with, but that is not true.
Trauma is a visitor to the mind and body. Yes, it often lingers for a long time, but that doesn’t mean you can’t eliminate it with work and time.
19 My Road to Recovery Will Carry Me Tomorrow
Tomorrow is where you want to be, because it separates you from the pain you feel today.
I get that. Tomorrow will look exactly like today unless you start seeing the potential for it to be positive.
It can be whatever you want it to be.
20 Hard Days Are Inevitable, But They Will Make Me Stronger
Knowing that not every day is easy will help you get through those tough days. Life isn’t perfect day after day, and neither is recovery.
You will get there. You just have to believe you will.
