Some of us are generally more attractive to narcissists than others. Do you believe there are those who repel them?!

Without wishing we were all of those people, what if we started looking for the types of people narcissists like to manipulate?

Collectively, if we can see what draws us toward toxicity, we can be more aware of the types of people we allow around us.

Narcissists have favorites, and I want to explain exactly what that means for you.

Do They Have A Favorite?

When you become a favorite in the eyes of a narcissist, you’d better learn how to escape quickly.

Usually, this means you’re a candidate for a prize you really don’t want to accept.

You’re the one who stands to lose the most.

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The narcissist can get away with treating you badly because you keep forgiving them.

You make excuses for others’ bad behavior.

You listen closely to what they tell you, and you believe it.

They make you feel like you’re not good at the things you love to do.

The list goes on, but at its core, they’re the master manipulators, and you’re the puppet.

Narcissistic Manipulation

Narcissistic manipulation begins the moment you meet them.

What seems like a sweet and sincere encounter ends with the narcissist luring you into their world, pretending to like you and care about everything you have to say.

When you find the voice within you that they love to be heard, you’ll finally feel loved and appreciated.

Then your charm increases, as the narcissist captivates you and tells you how amazing you are, and that they’ve never met anyone like you in their life.

You’ve hit the jackpot.

So, what makes you, the victim of all this, allow this intense manipulation?

Victim Traits

People most susceptible to narcissistic manipulation typically fall into the following personality categories:

You love love. Caring for others and boosting their self-esteem makes you happy, even if it comes at the expense of your own self-esteem.

You love to please people. If you can help in any way, you’ll sacrifice your own errands to make time for others.

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You accept any kind of affection, even if it’s fleeting. Any kindness shown to you makes you feel incredibly happy, and it will.

You want to fix people. If they seem broken, you have enough kindness and compassion in your heart to help them heal.

You forgive, and you keep forgiving. If someone wrongs you, they may have had a bad day or something. You prefer to see the good and believe promises rather than look directly at the facts.

You apologize a lot. Whether you’ve done something wrong or not, the learned solution is to apologize and ask for forgiveness from others. This allows them to control you all the time, and keeps you helpless.

It’s familiar. No matter how toxic a situation is, as long as it seems familiar, you’ll continue to fall into it.

I want you to reread these points several times and decide which ones fit your personality. Maybe more than one person does.

It’s not your fault for being who you are, but knowing that a narcissist is more susceptible to manipulation because of you will help you recognize their patterns.

Why Some Qualities Are Good

I don’t think people-pleasing is necessarily a good thing, but let’s look at what it means.

People-pleasers just want things to be okay. They want to see everyone happy, and if they can help make that happen, they’ll help.

I understand this to a certain extent. We all want to live a life where no one suffers.

But when you’re punished for being late to work, and you choose to stop and chat with lost people because they think you look nice, you’re burdening yourself.

You should be nice, but if you refuse to prioritize yourself, everyone will be happy, while you feel lost.

Your value doesn’t lie in making life easier for others.

Now, let’s focus on empathy.

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Feel it, and be the understanding family member or friend you want to be.

But make no mistake—you can’t absorb other people’s energy and let it affect your own feelings.

And What About Others? Not much

When you over-forgive, you give the narcissist permission to say or do whatever they want without needing to be reprimanded.

For example, let’s delve into the subject of cheating. It’s not okay to cheat. If you’re with someone, you’re with them alone.

If you want to be with someone else, end it. It’s pretty simple for me.

Narcissists love cheating. They love any kind of attention, and unfortunately for you, that means they’re, yes, going astray. So what happens when you find out?

They can deny it, blame it on jealousy or paranoia, or they can simply ask for your forgiveness and tell you it won’t happen again.

And you, the forgiver? You’ll agree. You’ll believe them when they say how sorry they are and how much they truly love you.

It was a mistake!

I was drunk!

I didn’t know what I was doing!

I’m so sorry!

I love you, not them!

It didn’t mean anything!

You hug them and tell them it’s okay, that you just want to move on.

These are qualities that aren’t very good, but are very easy to manipulate.

Don’t let yourself fall into the trap of being a pushover. You’re better than that.

Use What You Know To Help You

It’s a good idea to learn how narcissists behave and the types of people they like to manipulate and control.

With a little luck, you’ll be able to recognize these qualities within yourself and see them as a strength. Curb them, instead of giving them to narcissists.

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With that, you’ll begin to set boundaries for yourself. Boundaries, morals, and values. Then you’ll be in a better position to say, “I’m sick of this,” instead of continuing to be manipulated and miserable by the narcissist you know.

The only thing that will alienate you from narcissists is sticking to what you believe in and not falling for their tricks.

Either that, or you subconsciously continue to accept being manipulated by the person who has destroyed so much of your good character.

I believe that knowledge is the best thing you can have.

What do you think?