Ideally, we’d all love to see narcissists wearing a T-shirt that says:
I’m a Narcissist, Walk Away!
Sadly, all we have left to do is learn the art of narcissism to identify them ourselves, something many people overlook.
You’ll notice that much of the information you’ll find relates directly to male narcissists, but I want to change things up a bit.
Female narcissists exist, and they go to great lengths to distinguish themselves from males.
If you’re looking to identify the top 10 signs of female narcissism, we’ve got you covered.
Oh They Really Exist…
You think they don’t exist—but I’m here to tell you they do…
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…I’ve met more than my share!
Recognizing_Female_Narcissism
Recognizing a female narcissist may not be easy or natural, because females tend to be:
The fairer sex
Understanding
Patience
Empathy
Less prone to negativity
In general, females are known to be more composed and more vulnerable to any kind of abuse in personal relationships.
Why They’re Hard to Spot
Well, for these very reasons, female narcissists hide in public.
You can’t pick them out from a crowd because they operate in more covert ways than their male counterparts.
10 Signs of Narcissism
- They’re More Secretive
“Cunning” is the middle name for most female narcissists. They’re so adept at pretending to be normal, it’s almost scary.
What sets male narcissists apart is their ability to hide and manipulate their victims for longer periods.
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In fact, most people don’t notice covert narcissism until much later, sometimes years.
Do you know how much damage a person can cause in that time, and how much abuse they can endure?
Women play a gentle and honest role in their covert narcissism, and you’d be surprised how many people not only believe it, but also consider them close friends.
- They’re adept at playing the victim
They often portray themselves as incomprehensible and resort to playing the victim to gain sympathy from people—both those they know and those they don’t.
What comes with gaining sympathy? Well, there’s validation, support, and feeling “seen.”
Do you think any narcissist needs more of that? I don’t know! However, toxic women are easy to deal with, and all of this is a much-needed resource.
- They Know It All
Men typically don’t study narcissism unless they’ve been directly affected by someone who fits all the criteria.
I’m speaking very generally here, but no one would willingly sit down and read or watch something in detail to learn about it unless they were forced or wanted to.
Narcissism is well known to everyone, but the complex and intricate aspects of Narcissistic Personality Disorder are completely unknown.
Women, on the other hand, are known for their desire to understand their behaviors, feelings, and relationships.
They tend to understand the difference between men and women more, and they look for ways to support that.
Narcissistic Personality Disorder is of great interest to covert narcissists. If they can study and learn about it, they can also learn how to overcome it and overcome any doubt.
This makes it difficult to spot covert narcissists in society!
Doesn’t that disgust you?
- The Woman Card
I’m a woman, this isn’t because of me—it happens to me!
Well, statistically, yes. Women are more likely to be abused and to be victims in abusive relationships…
…but…
Let’s not pretend narcissists don’t exist—because they do!
Women can play this card and pretend to be nice. The one who suffers, the one who is so brave, and all these horrible things happen to her—but that’s nothing but a dangerous lie.
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No—narcissists aren’t victims, but by lying, they’re disrespecting actual victims of abuse.
- The Gut Feeling That Something’s Wrong
You always feel “off” when you’re around someone who isn’t right for you. I can’t explain it any better than this:
Sometimes, your body reacts to another person’s presence before your mind even allows you to realize it.
That’s what it feels like when you’re around a narcissist. The kindness seems even nicer than usual, to the point where it bothers you.
And you’d be a fool to speak up and say something, wouldn’t you? I mean, everyone seems to like her.
- Overly Emotional
Men are naturally more reserved or limited in their emotions, and narcissistic men reject the exaggerated positivity that women resort to.
You may find that narcissistic women tend to laugh more, or feel excited. They share news happily and act cheerfully, as if they want to share their news with everyone.
Likewise, when it comes to negative emotions, you’ll see tears—and lots of them.
Narcissistic women cry constantly, and what happens when people cry? They get sympathy! Hugs. A shoulder to cry on. An ear to listen.
They get attention.
It’s what they love to do, and they take advantage of the fact that women find it easier to express emotions.
- Pettiness
A narcissistic woman will bring up every little thing and wave it in your face. Things can almost turn hateful with them, as they get caught up in everything that doesn’t matter.
It’s a toxic way of trying to create drama where none exists, and they’ll do it by involving you as much as they can.
It’s actually hostile, and it stirs up conflict in people who are otherwise well and having happy days.
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Narcissists are generally detail-oriented, and the finer details are often brushed aside and left to dry in this petty, almost childish way.
- Users? Yes!
Narcissists will exploit you until there’s nothing left to extract.
Once that happens, you can say goodbye to them because they’ll move on to their next partner or best friend.
No loyalty, just motivation.
- Sex is a weapon
While men resort to love bombing, women use sex bombing!
Toxic women typically understand what attracts men and use this love language to attract them and keep them hooked over time.
- They seem shy or reserved
Oh, isn’t that cute?
Don’t I make you feel warm inside?
Stop it now, please…!
These women are intentionally sweet and intimidating.
“If I can be the opposite of what I really am, that’s my way of projecting my fake charm onto the world.”
It’s not just cars, hobbies, and compliments like it is with men.
It includes more favors, exaggerated offers of help, or that humble “Oh my God, I mean, I’m so surprised” attitude when you win something or are voted the best performer at work.
It’s a conventional way to be seen, noticed, and appreciated for something you can’t truly be.
