Narcissists? Hatred? Alexander! How is that possible?!
You know perfectly well that the main ingredient that runs through a narcissist’s veins isn’t blood—it’s hatred.
It’s not difficult for them to despise some of your qualities, either, and there are 8 in particular that I want to talk about today.
Hanging on to their excessive jealousy and coldness—any narcissist you know will have a real problem with you if you exhibit any of these traits.
Once you read these, I don’t think you’ll need to ask me why.
Narcissists Look for Traits to Say
People with strong narcissistic traits don’t want to impress anyone!
Their agenda is based solely on the idea that you serve them well by being a certain person.
If you’re not, they’ll hate you even more for it. It’s as if they’re looking for these traits to find a direct cause for their anger and negativity.
They Will Try To Make You Feel Small For Having These Qualities
For me or for you, these are not qualities you would ever hesitate to covet.
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Yes, it’s well known that people don’t like exploiters or cheaters—that goes without saying. You build your morals based on what you see as right or wrong.
Narcissists don’t know what’s right or wrong; they just know what they want and how they’re going to get it.
If they hurt you, so what?
Get Ready To Hold Onto Your Essence!
I’m often told things like:
I felt like my innocence was being taken away from me.
Every time I was around them, it felt like they were taking away an innate part of me—like my essence.
I don’t understand why they won’t let me be me.
I have news for you:
Because you’re a threat to them!
It’s time to hold on to that essence and never let go again, as we enter this list of qualities.
8 Traits in People That Make a Narcissist’s Heart Beat with Nonstop Hatred!
- You’re Kind-Hearted
Okay. Shall we stop here? I feel like this reason is so big that there can’t be any more!
Your kindness is like a virus to them. The more you spread it, the worse the narcissist feels.
The more you give, the more they hate you.
How dare you think about others and try to help them? What are you even doing?
What?! For no reason?!
Narcissists are only kind when it benefits them, and even then, it will remind you of them for years.
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Don’t forget that I was kind to that person once! So I can’t be a narcissist!
Yes, yes. It’s okay.
- You’re Naturally Talented
Naturally talented people are incredibly lucky.
I knew someone in school who could draw any movie or cartoon character from memory. It was truly amazing to watch this creativity materialize on paper in just minutes after they suggested what I should draw.
I couldn’t draw to save my life, but there was no part of me that hated this person for their talent. I’m fully aware that we are all different, with many different skills and talents.
That’s what makes the world work, isn’t it?
However, narcissists don’t think about this. They see other people’s talents as their own shortcomings.
If you can do it and I can’t, you’re robbing me of a part of me that wants to be fully represented.
So, yes—prepare for hatred. Prepare for envy. Prepare to destroy anything you’re good at just because they can.
- Live Life Regardless
Knowing the narcissist and immersing themselves in their mysteries is exactly what they want from you.
They adore your suffering, and they’ll only have a problem if you ignore their narcissism as if it can’t get near you.
Believe it or not, there are people like him out there.
Yes, they see the narcissism that exists. But they refuse to be affected by it.
They won’t change for anyone, and if a narcissist dares to abuse or manipulate them, these people will happily continue living their lives without being affected by even a single attempt. I salute you all!
- Solid Boundaries
If your boundaries are stronger than titanium, congratulations. This isn’t to say I sympathize with those who struggle with their own boundaries, but consider this:
Narcissists won’t want to know you if you’ve already made it clear that you won’t allow them to cross them.
Narcissists only thrive when those they know can freely manipulate them give in. If someone comes up with solid boundaries that look like this:
No, I won’t continue this conversation if you keep yelling.
I enjoy spending time with you, but I also love seeing my friends, and that’s not going to change.
Please respect my personal space. If you keep attacking, it won’t work.
Imagine making these comments to narcissists!
Hey, maybe you should do that!
- Intelligence
You can’t know things!
If you do know things, you might outsmart the narcissist and make them look stupid.
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You can show them all your facts!
No, sorry. That won’t work.
- Consideration
Let me explain. Your mother is sick, so you want to buy her some flowers and grapes and take her to visit?
Sorry, I don’t understand.
What good would it do me, the narcissist, if I did that?
Where did you get the idea to be so considerate?
That won’t work either.
All you’re doing is showing these toxic people what they really are because they didn’t think of it first.
- Joy
You see joy in every little detail. There’s something to appreciate in every day. The flavor of your coffee, or a beautiful sunrise. You smile and feel grateful for the life you have, even if it isn’t perfect every day.
You do everything a narcissist can’t—and hates.
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If joy were innate, they wouldn’t have to spend so much time stealing other people’s joy. At least, that’s what I think, anyway.
- You’re Generous
This doesn’t necessarily mean you’ll give me $20 every time I ask.
When I talk about generosity, I’m talking about time, love, patience, compassion, and empathy. You’re there for people, always taking the time to give them what they need.
You’re a good friend, a trusted son, daughter, or sibling. Loved ones or coworkers turn to you as someone they know will care, help, and support.
These are qualities you can’t pretend to possess.
That’s why the narcissist hates you.
