Excuse me, I just want to know…
Why can’t you answer?
Hello? Is anyone here?
Nobody here. Nobody deserves it anyway.
You have questions, and I get that. You want and need answers. Narcissists make people feel this way because they hide so much from us.
They intentionally leave pieces of the puzzle missing for you to guess and assume.
These nine questions linger in the minds of people influenced by narcissists, and I want to tell you not only what they are, but why they never get answered.
Burning Questions…
We all have questions on our plate that we desperately want the narcissist to answer.
The problem is, what do we do with these questions because we know the narcissist won’t be honest with us?
Related : Why Woke Narcissists Are More Dangerous Than You Think
And yet each question fades away, with nowhere to go.
Will You Get Answers?
It depends on the type of question. Narcissists are capable of brutal honesty, and if you’re willing to listen to what they have to say, you’ll receive this answer in very direct terms.
The questions I wanted to ask you will never be answered, but that doesn’t mean we don’t hope they don’t at least try.
Hey, narcissist! Answer these nine questions!
- Why are you an energy vampire?
Narcissists suck the life out of everyone they meet. When you feel like you’re having a good day, it’s taken away from you when you meet them.
They don’t want you to have a good day. Your life means nothing to them, so ruining it is just something they do to pass the time.
You may wake up full of happiness and hope, and the narcissist will find you and steal it.
This is why many victims feel like they’ve lost everything. Exhaustion can be a sign that you’ve overstayed your welcome in the narcissist’s city.
Asking a narcissist why they’re an energy vampire is an interesting way to understand how and why they act.
He has no moral compass or conscience about why he’s acting this way, leaving people like you and me baffled.
But wouldn’t it be nice to have an explanation?
Come on, we need answers!
- What happened to you?
Seriously, what happened to you to make you so cold and evil?
Why did you become this way?
Why didn’t anyone rescue you from the clutches of entitlement as a child?
What path did you take to get here?
Meeting the narcissist and exploring their backstory would be helpful to all victims. It doesn’t excuse their toxic actions, but it certainly helps with understanding. Of course, those who are deprived of love will end up this way.
Related : How I Escaped a Narcissist and Reclaimed My Life
Of course, those with parents who say “Be perfect or else” will end up narcissists.
But wouldn’t it be great to have a description to go with that face?
- Why can’t you be happy for other people?
I think getting any narcissist to answer this question honestly would be extremely challenging. However, knowing why they can’t be happy for other people would be refreshing.
It would also be refreshing to smile and say “well done” without wanting to outdo them in any way. Unfortunately, we don’t live in that world.
We all want narcissists to be in charge of their emotions, and jealousy is one of the most prominent emotions I’m referring to.
Why can’t you applaud when someone else wins?
I can tell you right now—the reason is this:
Narcissists hate to draw attention to anyone but themselves. They love to be first, to win, to be better, and to appear more successful than anyone else they know.
- What have you done that was so terrible?
This is a personal question you might want a narcissist to answer.
What are they going through and how they make you feel?
Why?!
Why?!
Narcissists know you didn’t do anything terrible to deserve their abuse. They simply see you as the one who will endure it the longest.
Yes, the abuse itself is horrible. But that doesn’t mean you are either.
- Why can’t you see what you’re doing?
Huh?
Do you want the narcissist to reflect on what they’re doing?
Do you want them to suddenly realize that they might be upsetting and hurting others?
Do you want them to understand that their harsh, sometimes even vicious, words have consequences?
Imagine!
- Why can’t you live in peace?
Narcissists don’t know what peace means. All they know is to stir up conflict and stir up trouble in situations that would otherwise be perfectly normal.
Related : How Narcissistic Trauma Can Make You Sick
If a narcissist lived in a peaceful world, they wouldn’t last more than five seconds before getting bored. That’s why they have to wreak havoc and blame you!
- Why do you lie all the time?
Lying gets me out of trouble.
Lying turns me on.
Lying makes me seem more interesting than I really am.
Lying gets you into trouble instead of me.
Lying creates conflict.
Lying is fun.
You won’t hear the narcissist say any of this because they don’t want you to know the truth.
We wish they did. It would be so much fun to hear!
- Why do you want to make people feel so bad?
Narcissists hate it when you feel good, so feeling bad is everyone’s goal.
Let this moment be the only reason not to give too much to a narcissist. You won’t find sincere intentions, nor will you find a heart that cares even for a moment about what you say or share.
People feel bad around narcissists. They have this amazing way of extracting feelings of inadequacy and low self-esteem from those they can provoke.
And while they do this, they feel good because you feel bad.
- Why are strangers more important than me?
Narcissists want to impress those who don’t know them because they see them as a blank slate.
They must present themselves perfectly, even if they only have 30 seconds to impress a stranger. They want those 30 seconds to be memorable.
Related : You’ll Never Guess These Texting Tricks Narcissists Use to Control You
What an amazing parent/partner/boss!
How wonderful it is to know this person!
And of course, that’s what they want people to think they are.
You? You know them. You know their personality quirks, and you know how they can be both wicked and charming at the same time.
If you had 30 seconds with a stranger, you would want to keep a lid on that evil, and set the charm free.
