How many times have you seen a jealous narcissist living at work?
Let me tell you – it’s not pretty. It’s pathetic.
They act like petulant children, and they’ll use any trick of their narcissistic hat to get back at you for being a threat to them.
In fact, there are a lot of weird things that narcissists do when they’re jealous. If you’re sitting comfortably, let’s start at the beginning.
You’ll never ignore these things from now on!
Jealousy – It’s Not a Burden to Carry
Whenever a narcissist acts a certain way, you need to understand that it has nothing to do with you. There are times when they completely convince everyone else that they’re the problem.
All the drama is yours.
The conflict is all over your head.
The reason they’re mad at you is because you acted inappropriately, or asked too many questions.
You didn’t support them, so they’re mad.
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Jealousy is no different. The jealousy that comes from any narcissist is irrational and unhealthy, yet they still refuse to tolerate it, so they pass it on to you as quickly as they can.
They will do this in different ways, which is why we are here today.
Before we do that, please understand this:
Under no circumstances should a narcissist’s jealousy become a burden to you.
Never.
1 The Silent Treatment
The silent treatment is a punishment.
In this case, your punishment is that you (unknowingly) targeted the narcissist, and threatened them in some way.
Let’s get to the heart of the matter here, because no one should be so jealous that they stop talking to you.
Again – this is not your problem. Narcissists can’t justify what’s going on in their mind, so they resort to the easiest thing possible – stop talking.
All is well for them, right? But what about you? You wonder what’s going on.
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How did it get this far? Why are they keeping quiet with you? Why is their refusal to talk a priority today?
Because they want to trash everything you’ve accomplished.
2 Short-Term Comments
You only got the job because almost no one else applied.
I’m sure you were promoted because they felt sorry for you.
You don’t deserve a raise. You don’t even like your job.
I’m sure drawing is fun, but I don’t see a sustainable income from what you do. You’re not good enough.
Comments like this are designed to hurt you. When you’re having a good day and something amazing happens, the narcissist comes along and turns you black and white.
3 Start talking about a “friend” all of a sudden
Hey, if you can have friends or good things, the narcissist can do it too!
Anything you can do, I can do better!
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It’s going to be a game of who can win. The narcissist will turn blue in the face to beat you at this.
What they won’t do is tell you it’s because they’re jealous.
4 Join a dating app
If you don’t give them what they want, they’ll look elsewhere for it.
In their jealous rage, narcissists will make sure they feel like they’re getting back at you by hitting on complete strangers.
It’s an irrational way to deal with emotions they simply can’t control—but that’s how narcissists everywhere are with you.
5 Sabotage Your Success
If you succeed, they’ll have a problem.
Don’t you understand that the narcissist is the only person who’s allowed to make good things happen to them?
If they become like you, how can they impress anyone? Where will the attention go?
Get ready to have your success ruined by them.
Failing to help you.
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Not showing up to your event.
Telling you you’re useless.
These are all ways they’re likely to sabotage your success.
6 Being late or refusing to show up to celebrations
If you’re about to celebrate some big news, you’ll be excited about meeting someone like no other.
Finally, you passed the exam.
You got the keys to your dream house.
You’ve achieved your weight goal.
You’ve done something worth remembering – and something worth celebrating.
So, you set a time and place. Everyone showed up…
Everyone except the narcissist.
They texted to say they couldn’t make it, if you were lucky. Jealousy usually hurts more than that, and they’ll just ignore you.
This makes you give up on your good news and try to call them all night.
Everyone asks you why you’re distracted.
In fact – it’s them.
Every time.
7 Remind Yourself That You’re Not
Better check in with yourself!
Don’t overdo it!
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Comments like this will come when something good finally happens to you.
How dare you take a day off from your usual bad mood and self-confidence?!
8 Get Rid of Your Fears – Come Back Down with a Slam
If you have something good going on, the narcissist will fight your fears back by dropping them at your feet.
Your smile is so wide open when you’re happy.
You really need to work on looking better in your graduation photos.
I’m surprised you passed your test, considering you’re dyslexic.
Isn’t it disgusting that narcissists will go to such lengths, only to see the smile quickly fade from your face?
9 Stay Away from Bad Advice
Narcissists want to see you fail.
As a result, they love throwing bad advice your way when things are going well for you.
So anything good you have will go downhill faster.
10 Tracking Apps That Are Portrayed as a Concern
I Just Want to Make Sure You’re Okay!
You don’t… want to spy on me.
You want to know I’m where I say I am.
You want to ask me why I took a detour on the way home, even though I just wanted to post a message.
Narcissists get jealous when you do things without them. If you dare, asking for tracking apps is a strong possibility.
You have been warned!
11 Anger
If you get angry and scream and shout, the positive, proud feeling you currently feel will quickly disappear!
Narcissists will do that. Scream. Yell. Whatever they need to do to prove to you that no matter how much you achieve, they can make more noise.
12 Crying
I’m happy for you, don’t get me wrong. I just need a moment.
This reminds me of a time when I tried so hard to do the same thing, and failed.
I’ll be fine. Honestly, you’re celebrating.
Don’t feel bad about your happiness.
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As I write this, I’m feeling angry inside for all the real people who are authentically succeeding.
This is why jealousy can take away your happiness.
13 “I feel so sick”
Distracting yourself by missing work – classic!
And what can you do, blame them? The missing work card is designed to elicit maximum sympathy and keep you from any celebrations you may have deserved.
That’s sick!
