Have you ever wished that a narcissist would suffer forever? You want them to feel a little bit of pain like you do, and you want them to know what it feels like to be hurt.
Although they won’t admit it, they are suffering. In fact, they are suffering a lot underneath that narcissistic layer of toxicity.
You’ll be happy to know that there are several ways they suffer forever…
…But what are they?
Let’s get started!
YouWon’t Imagine Suffering Exists
As far as you can see, narcissists don’t appear to be suffering at all. This is because they are adept at hiding all the terrible things, including their personalities.
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So while the suffering is there, you’ll only see the idealized version of it all.
Ways Narcissists Bury Their Suffering
Narcissists will add drama and trouble to their own suffering, as well as the suffering of everyone they know.
The more they do, the deeper they can bury their suffering until no one suspects a thing.
How to be affected
We are affected by the suffering of narcissists because we are drawn into their toxic webs, and many of us give up before we find a way to escape.
We become like the person we spend the most time with, and if that person is a narcissistic partner or parent, they will eventually make us feel worthless too, just as they think about themselves.
Narcissists are forever suffering from these 6 things
- Not really knowing happiness
When I think about this reason for a long time, it really blows my mind.
I love spending time with my family, getting out in nature, eating good food, and making memories with the people who matter to me.
I find happiness in the change of seasons, or on a nice, warm sunny day. I love the first taste of coffee in the morning. I feel happy when I see people being kind to each other. I love a good movie.
I can extract so much from life that makes me truly happy.
Nothing makes a narcissist happy. Even your misery makes them feel temporarily better about themselves, but true happiness—well, it doesn’t exist.
It’s a real moment to reflect, isn’t it? Imagine going through your whole life without knowing what the little things can do to your soul.
Think of all the little details that narcissists overlook because they are so toxic that they can’t even get along.
It must be a very dark world to live in.
- Not Experiencing Love
Love is everywhere. It’s in music, in movies, in friends and family, in communities and food, in jobs and hobbies, in relationships and beliefs—you can’t escape it.
Narcissists also find love pathetic. They tend to roll their eyes at the mere mention of it.
Oh my, you’re so weak.
Really? Come on, let’s not exaggerate here.
Love? Give me the silly bucket!
Okay, enough of this silly show!
Love is forbidden in their world, and they easily repel it (unless they want something from you). You may ask yourself, “Oh my god, what exactly is it about love that you hate so much?”
I’ll tell you.
Actually, it’s the inability to feel it. Narcissists can’t experience any kind of love, because love is an emotion that runs so deep.
If you expect a narcissist to go that deep – you can forget about it!
A world without love is an incredibly dark, lonely, and cold place, isn’t it… Ah, suddenly everything makes sense!
- Constant Jealousy
I’m sure no narcissist would ever admit to being as jealous as I am, but that doesn’t mean they don’t feel it!
Jealousy is their middle name. If someone has a new car, a new promotion, a nice house, time to exercise – whatever it is – the narcissist will find a way to complain about it.
Look at them! They think they have it all!
If I were more prepared, we would have twice as much as they do now!
You’ll never hear them say, “I’m so jealous!” That would be a straight-up admission that they’re admitting to being imperfect.
Instead, they suffer silently from this raging green-eyed monster called eternal envy.
And it’s usually the victim who suffers the most, as the narcissist’s rage is projected onto them.
- Deep Self-Loathing
Here I think of Jim Carrey in The Grinch, full of self-loathing and walking up the hill by himself with his dog Max.
Woe is me!
But you know what? At least he was open about it all.
At least he was audibly complaining about the fact that he hated himself and was a bitter jerk.
The Grinch came after lessons learned, but narcissists won’t.
Instead, their suffering is internal, and it’s eternal.
They can’t and won’t get rid of that part of themselves because to do so would mean starting to love themselves or appreciate who they could be if they stopped being narcissists.
- Having to Remember Lies and Stories
What a thing to do – all because being kind and honest is a huge challenge for narcissists!
Remembering the lies and stories you make up so you can look good, manipulate, control, spread gossip or pretend to be innocent is how narcissists operate.
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Every time they open their mouths, they are forming a belief in someone else. That belief will be stored and remembered – but does the narcissist store and remember?
Well – in short – they try. Ultimately it’s impossible to do, and that’s part of why they suffer so much from it.
Sometimes lying works as a way in or out.
If it makes the narcissist look good, all the better!
But I’ll tell you one thing:
Narcissists aren’t as smart as you think; sometimes, they make mistakes.
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All it takes is one mistake for people to reconsider and say, “Did he just say that? I thought he said the exact opposite last week!”
Suddenly, people don’t trust the narcissist—and that’s where their struggle really lies (pardon the pun).
- Addiction
It doesn’t matter what type of addiction it is, what matters is that the narcissist resorts to things that aren’t good for them to deal with or overcome.
Alcohol.
Gambling.
Smoking.
Drugs.
Even over-exercising.
These are all familiar obsessions that narcissists can use to maintain their addictive behavior.
Addictions go in cycles, right? The same goes for toxic relationships and the ups and downs that addiction can cause.
