Narcissists seem to have it all, don’t they?

You may be wondering, “How do they get away with it?”

Well, honestly, it’s because they’re experts at playing the game they’ve written.

Everything can change, dear reader. And it does.

Where a narcissist ends up will shock you, and make you realize how one moment can change everything.

Narcissists: The Perfect Life

It’s the perfect painted picture, right? Narcissists want to be perfect, and they try hard to make sure that image is maintained, no matter what.

They will appear as if nothing is their fault. They want to be hard workers, so people know how seriously they take their responsibilities.

They love to honor themselves by providing the best material goods you can think of. They want that nice car, that big house, that fancy clothes, and the latest phone.

On paper, they have it all. They portray the perfect life to the world, so that the world sees them as perfect.

What Do You Think?

Of course, we know they’re not perfect—quite the opposite!

There are a handful of people who know narcissists well and know the path ahead for them.

But before I get to that point, I want you to think about a narcissist you know. It could be a family member, a friend, someone you work with, or even your spouse.

Once you have that persona in your mind, I want you to think about where they are right now.

Are they more impossible than usual? Maybe they have a history of always getting what they want, and being incredibly lucky.

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They’re healthy. They have great connections. They live in a beautiful home that you wish you had. They don’t seem to bother much, and they’re respectful both personally and professionally.

It’s all so unfair, isn’t it? Especially when you know who they really are.

Without you…

This is the worst part—the part you know and are familiar with…

…Narcissists are nothing without you. They build their entire selfish empire on making you feel the worst you’ve ever felt, and that’s what makes them go above and beyond even their own expectations.

But once you put an obstacle in their way—once the dynamics change in any way—the narcissist’s mask and persona begins to crumble.

They know they can’t function without knowing that they can abuse you openly at any moment.

They want it to last as long as possible, but they know it can’t because you’ve left, or you’ve quit, or you’ve found out who they are.

You’ve found out the truth.

AndThisIsWhyTheyNeedYou

They can’t play their game unless you sign up for it, and when you walk away, the game is officially over.

You need to remember this, friends, because it’s what will help you get through your worst days with a narcissist:

They really need you more than you need them.

You’ve been programmed to believe that you need them and can’t survive without them, but that’s simply not the case.

The truth is, they’re only able to do what they do because they have an open door.

When you close that door, everything changes.

TheFall

The fall is almost instantaneous, but it doesn’t have to be obvious to everyone at first.

You’ll notice the withdrawal. The narcissist is temporarily confused. Yes, he can move on to his next victim, but what if he runs out of people to manipulate?

What if he has no magic left in his magic bucket?

It’s easy to see that a narcissist seems lost when he doesn’t know how to manipulate the people around him to his advantage.

He’s exhausted all his options, and now it’s time to watch the collapse.

…even the decline!

I’ve had conversations in the past with people I’ve met or know about their narcissistic parent.

When they were younger, the parent thrived because he knew he could manipulate his children and spouse. Work was busy and they were always trying to find ways to make everyone around them feel small.

As they got older, their personality deteriorated as well.

It’s harder to manipulate children who are suddenly adults, and have more power to hold on to an idea, opinion, or goal they want to achieve.

They feel lost, and they try to control wherever they can. It often feels like an attack or a triangulation wherever possible.

They play with their age, with statements like:

I used to be fitter than I am now.

I’m older. No one understands or sees me.

I’m sick. No one helps me.

I wish I could turn back the clock.

It’s like they’re playing their own sad violin song, isn’t it? You almost want to roll your eyes because you know they’re playing with their age.

Old age is actually a privilege that not everyone has, and that’s something worth remembering.

The problem with narcissists is how they use their age as some sort of mental disability.

They are still very capable of being narcissists.

They are just fooling fewer people.

GoingNowhere: Fast

Narcissists are on the decline!

It is fast-moving – and I have to say that if you think it is fun – you would not be the first person to have that opinion.

Finally – there comes a day when things don’t go their way.

People get bored with their mood swings.

There is a shift in how they feel they are worthy of being treated.

They understand the connection between feeling negative and being around a narcissist.

They start wanting to achieve goals for themselves and they understand that the narcissist is the one holding them back.

Life starts wanting to be lived, and as these people grow in their lives, the narcissist shrinks in size.

Narcissists can only be abused when you consciously or unconsciously surrender to the narcissist.

If you start putting yourself first, the narcissist will have no choice.

And no—they don’t like it—but guess what…

…it’s not up to them.

NeverAnyHappyEnding

When it comes to narcissists, they never get a happy ending. They’re notorious for getting harder and harder as they get older.

Their stubbornness becomes almost annoying.

They crave the ability to control the people they once controlled.

Their grudges become bigger than ever.

They realize they’re not the person they once were.

Narcissists end up miserable, sad, and lonely. They’ve always been that way, but as they get older, these feelings become more prominent.

They never begin to care, and they don’t regret their actions.

You’d be wrong to assume that they would care or regret their actions.