Narcissists aren’t the easiest people to buy gifts for.
They have a strange approach to giving and receiving gifts, making it difficult for those who love them to express themselves through gifts.
Not only that, but shopping for someone who only thinks about themselves is a unique challenge. Will anything ever be good enough?
What to Buy a Narcissist for Their Birthday?
When looking for gifts for narcissists, focus on items that reflect their sense of self-importance and grandiose personalities. Avoid anything sentimental or nostalgic, such as photographs, for example.
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Narcissists generally lack feelings of nostalgia because they don’t experience the warm, fuzzy feelings that most of us do. Sometimes the past is too painful for them and forces them to self-reflect, which they hate.
It’s best to keep your gifts simple and lighthearted, focusing on a positive future rather than an unforgettable past.
Gifts for Your Narcissistic Mom
Some suitable Christmas gifts for a narcissistic mom include:
A patterned bathrobe
A soft wool bathrobe is a great way to let your narcissistic mom know that you love her and want her to always look her best. A high-quality patterned bathrobe will keep her warm and cozy after a luxurious bath without compromising her sense of style.
Quality matters, as narcissists are often very materialistic, seeking to achieve and display status through their clothing and possessions. By personalizing your bathrobe, you will also appeal to your mom’s great self-image.
A personalized spa set
Create a personalized spa set by choosing a selection of high-quality skincare products, scented candles, and bath oils. This type of gift encourages the narcissist in your life to take time for self-care and relaxation, which they rarely do.
Narcissists rely on others to make them feel good, so they rarely think about pampering themselves. If you can make your mom feel good about herself without having to validate or worship her, it can be as much a gift to you as it is to her.
Professional Photoshoot
Arrange a professional photoshoot for your narcissistic mom, choosing a photographer who can capture her charisma and confidence without insulting her fragile ego.
But be careful here. Although narcissists take and post more selfies than most people, they don’t particularly enjoy looking at their own photos.
Research shows that narcissists “feel emotional distress rather than joy when looking at their own photos,” perhaps because they have negative views of themselves or their appearance.
Gifts for Your Narcissistic Dad
The problem of what to buy a narcissistic dad for his birthday is even more challenging if you’re shopping for a narcissistic dad.
Why? Simply because we find shopping for our own parents more difficult, and when you add to that the narcissist’s bizarre reaction to gifts, it makes the whole scenario a little scary.
While your narcissistic parent is unlikely to show any gratitude for the following gifts, they should not provoke a negative reaction or retaliation, which is all you can ask of a narcissist.
Personalized Leather Wallet
A high-quality leather wallet with their name or initials on it is perfect for displaying their accomplishments or organizing their documents so they feel more important.
Gourmet Foods
Narcissists are pleasure seekers who enjoy something out of the ordinary, so why not gift your narcissistic parent a truffle lover’s gift box complete with several types of truffle oil, truffle pasta, and truffle spread?
If he has a sweet tooth, a high-quality chocolate or Turkish delight might be enough, while a caviar gift box might be just the thing for a narcissistic parent with sophisticated tastes.
Better yet, you can admire him for his excellent taste, which he will enjoy more than the gift itself.
Executive Desk Organizer
A neat desk organizer will help your narcissistic parent keep their workspace tidy, making them look more professional and successful.
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Since image is everything to a narcissist, having a clean desk will make them look good and therefore feel good.
What to Buy a Narcissist for Christmas
The best Christmas gifts for narcissists are luxury items that reflect their perceived superiority and show that they deserve only the best.
If these types of gifts are beyond your budget, stick to something fun or entertaining, and hope that your narcissistic friend or relative sees the humor in it. Otherwise, narcissistic anger could ruin Christmas.
What to Get Your Narcissistic Mom for Christmas
We hope the following ideas will help you figure out what to get your narcissistic mom for Christmas, as our first set of suggestions is perfect for the narcissistic mom:
Engraved Pen Set
Give them a high-end pen set engraved with their name or a motivational quote that reflects their importance and success.
Best Mug in the World
Get your mom a personalized mug that says, “The best in the world at everything.” It may not cost much, but it will give your narcissistic mom an ego boost that she deserves.
Personal Diary
Give your narcissistic mom a beautifully crafted diary engraved with her name or a motivational quote from her favorite author. She may never use it, as narcissists are reluctant to self-reflect to any degree, but it may encourage her to start exploring her thoughts and emotions. If that fails, it’s a place to list all of her accomplishments and talents!
Plan a Weekend Getaway
Arrange a vacation to a destination she loves, making sure she knows the entire weekend is about her.
Buying this type of gift for a narcissist can backfire, as the narcissist may see it as coming with strings attached.
Let’s say you plan and pay for the trip. In this case, you probably expect to be invited, so you may not accept the gift as intended – instead, you may see it as a way to control or manipulate him into giving you more attention and admiration.
What to Give Your Narcissistic Dad for Christmas?
Don’t give your narcissistic dad anything that suggests self-improvement.
Books and masterclasses suggest that your dad still has something to learn – a sentiment he won’t appreciate, since he already thinks he’s the best at everything! Instead, massage his ego with one of the following gifts for narcissists:
Artistic Wall Mirror
Choose an artistic and decorative wall mirror that will not only enhance his living space, but will also give you the perfect opportunity to check in on his appearance daily (or even hourly!).
Smart Mug
A smart mug will keep your narcissistic dad’s coffee at the perfect temperature until the very last sip, ensuring it perfectly suits his needs and puts him in a good mood for the rest of the day.
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Remember, many narcissists are “perfectionists,” so they will appreciate a gift that guarantees them another piece of perfection in their lives.
NameAStar
Naming a star after your narcissistic parent is a thoughtful and unique gift. Hopefully, he or she will see it as a gesture of admiration while playing on their need for constant validation and attention.
In most cases, the narcissist will interpret such a gift as an affirmation of their self-perceived importance and greatness, reinforcing their belief that they are truly exceptional and deserving of appreciation.