Have you broken up with your narcissistic partner and now you want them back? But you don’t just want them back; you want them to come crawling, begging, and pleading in the most desperate and humiliating ways possible? But how do you get a narcissist to come crawling back to you?
It may seem impossible, but it can be done if you know what to do. Here’s a secret you probably didn’t know: narcissists will break down if they see their ex happy or when their ex ignores them.
First, they hate seeing their victims’ exes happy, and second, they need constant attention.
When you ignore a narcissist, they will do everything they can to get your attention because they can’t live without it.
How to Get a Narcissist to Come Crawling Back to You?
How to Get a Narcissist to Come Crawling Back to You?
One way is to post amazing pictures on social media and make it look like you’re living your best life. Another way is to completely ignore the narcissist and not give them any attention at all.
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Although narcissists are stubborn and rarely chase after relationships, you can make them come crawling back.
Act like you don’t care that you’ve been left and that you’re better off without them. It won’t be long before the narcissist comes crawling back, wondering why you’re living your best life and not knocking on their door begging for them to come back.
Here are some tips on how to make a narcissist come back:
Post amazing pictures on your social media
Narcissists can’t stand seeing their victims happy; it just makes them angry. The narcissist kept you miserable when you were together, and they certainly won’t accept your happiness now that they’ve abandoned you.
The narcissist left you in a cruel way because he thought he had drained you and you had nothing left to offer him.
From the narcissist’s perspective, you were completely useless. So if the narcissist sees you living your best life shortly after he left you, it will piss him off. Here’s the plan…
Shortly after the breakup, have a wild night out with the girls on the town; if you can, go on vacation. Take lots of pictures of you having a great time; make sure you look amazing! Put some guys in the pictures and post them on your social media.
When your ex sees them, he’ll be furious and want to throw you off your horse. You barely smiled when you were together because you were so scared.
Now that you’ve broken up, you’re grinning like the Atlantic Ocean, and you’re with other guys! Absolutely not!
Once the narcissist sees those pictures, he’ll feel the urge to put an end to your happiness, and the only way he can do that is by coming back into your life. So expect your ex to come knocking at your door.
Ignore the Narcissist When He Contacts You.
Now that you’ve set the stage for the narcissist to return, he’ll contact you. After he sees the photo, he’ll give it two weeks before contacting you so he doesn’t seem too eager.
When he does, don’t respond. Ignoring the narcissist will only irritate him to no end. You’re having a great time, and you’re excluding him! The narcissist will declare an all-out cold war on you.
He’ll come at you with guns blazing but disguising it as love. The narcissist will go back to what he knows works. It won’t be long before the love bombing begins.
You will start receiving flowers, gifts, dinner invitations, and whatever else comes with their strategy. Their ultimate mission is to bring you back to the peasant level, so when you ignore the narcissist, expect them to do everything they can to win you over.
Block the Narcissist on All Platforms.
Now it’s time to take this plan to the next level. The ball is in your court because the narcissist has reached out to you.
The narcissist knows this, but they didn’t mean for it to stay that way—the narcissist plans to grab this ball back once they’re in your life.
Continue blocking the narcissist on all platforms; make sure they can’t reach you on social media, email, or phone.
Aim for no contact at all. The narcissist will know you’ve blocked them because they no longer have access to you, and they will have a panic attack. The narcissist will go crazy and do everything they can to get to you.
They will show up at your job, at your house, at your parents’ house. They will walk around like a headless chicken trying to contact you. Let this go on for a few weeks, and when you think the time is right, give the narcissist an inch by letting them contact you on the phone. Once they finally get through to you, their level of desperation will shock you.
Start working on yourself.
The narcissist wants you to remain a fearful, insecure person who believes they have nothing going for them.
That’s how you felt when you were together, and that’s how the narcissist expects you to remain. The moment they see you’ve broken free from their chains, they’ll want to pull you down from your high horse.
Start something like a 30-day challenge to get your body in shape and post updates on social media. In between, post about personal development, self-love, and spiritual growth.
The narcissist will not be impressed by this new positive mindset you’ve developed, and they will need to infiltrate your life to pull you back down to their level.
Can You Get a Narcissist Back?
You can get a narcissist back by making it clear that the relationship is over and by dating again. After you break up with a narcissist, they will act like they don’t want anything more with you. But in most cases, they’ll leave the door open in case they need you for anything.
Clearly That the Relationship Is Over
Whether the narcissist left you or you left them, let the narcissist know that the relationship is officially over.
You’re never coming back, and they shouldn’t bother trying to get back with you either. Don’t call them; they won’t answer; do it by text or email. Putting a seal on the end of the relationship will only upset the narcissist.
To the narcissist, it’s like the shoe is on the other foot; even if they dumped you, your putting the final nail in their coffin will make them feel like you’ve abandoned them.
The narcissist will wonder if you were planning to end the relationship, but they beat you to it.
These thoughts will drive the narcissist crazy, and to make sure it’s all in his imagination, he will start working on getting you back so he can have the last laugh.
StartDatingAgain
After telling the narcissist that the relationship is officially over, get a new partner. Make sure he is a thousand times more attractive than the narcissist, take a bunch of pictures and post them on your social media.
The narcissist will see these people because they don’t block their exes; they want to monitor their lives and make sure they are not going well.
The moment your ex sees that you have a new partner and that you seem happy, they will get angry and start plotting to bring you down. It won’t be long before the narcissist starts crawling back into your life.
What Makes a Narcissist Want You Back?
To make a narcissist want you back, remind them of what they are missing by showing them that you have plenty of new supplies to offer.
Narcissists thrive on external validation. Because of their deep-rooted insecurities, they cannot love themselves, and they seek validation from outside sources.
Once you start telling a narcissist how great they are, you become a source of supply, and they will be unable to resist you.
Remind a Narcissist of What They Are Missing
A narcissist dumped you because they assumed you were running out of supplies.
You can make a narcissist come crawling back to you by telling them that there are more opportunities available. Play the narcissist at their own game by bombarding them with love.
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Start sending your ex texts and emails telling him how great he is and how much you love him and miss him because he is so awesome.
Please overdo it; once the narcissist realizes what he is missing, he will come crawling back to you.
How to get a narcissist to talk to you again?
You can get a narcissist to talk to you again by accepting responsibility for the breakup and removing all obstacles that prevent him from contacting you.
The narcissist will take the opportunity to ruin your life again. You can expect him to come running back to you with open arms once you use this strategy.
Let the narcissist know you accept responsibility
Narcissists love to see their victims beg; it gives them the ultimate pleasure of knowing they have control over someone.
When you call the narcissist and tell them that you completely accept that it was your fault that the relationship didn’t work out. You can draw them in by pointing out everything they said about you.
Admit that you are stupid and incapable of living without them. Your admission will feed the narcissist’s ego, and they will want to hear you say it over and over again. The narcissist will start calling to hear you plead.
LeaveAllTheHolders
After the breakup, did you block your partner on all platforms? Maybe they felt threatened and took out a restraining order against them?
Doing things like this will only anger the narcissist because even though they dumped you, they need to know that they can reach you at all times. The last thing you want is an angry narcissist following you around.
You can slowly start getting things back on track by letting them know that you’ve removed the restrictions and that they have access to you. You might want to start by liking one of their posts on social media.
If that doesn’t work, move on to contacting the narcissist. If you get a new partner or a restraining order, send the narcissist a text or email telling them how sorry you are, that you’ve lifted the restraining order, and that the new partner is no longer in your life.
You may even want to go so far as to say that your new partner was controlling you because your breakup made you vulnerable. They were the one who made you block them and get the restraining order.
It’s important to note that the narcissist will not get back to you right away. They will rub their hands together in joy because you called them, but the narcissist wants you to suffer.
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I can’t tell you how long they will make you wait, but there will be a delay in contacting you because the narcissist wants you to know that they are in control now. During this time, they will plan exactly how to make sure you are completely destroyed once you get back.
Final Thought
If you want the narcissist to come crawling back to you, the above methods will work. However, you need to understand that when you come back to the narcissist, you will be in a war zone.
If you thought things were bad when you first met, they will be much worse, especially if you were the one who left the narcissist.
As mentioned, before the narcissist comes back, he will have a military-style strategic plan in place to ensure that he takes you down.
You will need to be prepared for this, are you strong enough for the onslaught that is coming? If not, I suggest you abandon your plan to make the narcissist come crawling back.
