Narcissists are so charming that they are like magnets to some people.

For those who are lucky, there is no power in being attracted to them. However, for others, they feel an absolute pull to the narcissist’s seemingly effortless behavior, which attracts someone of a certain type, and quickly begins to diminish them.

Surprisingly, these people can overlap with other types – but seeing the pattern will really help you find ways to repel the narcissist.

After all – they only cause misery for everyone.

So, let’s get to the point.

1 Children of Narcissistic Parents

Narcissistic parents are often the catalyst for people becoming magnets for narcissists in adult life.

No matter how miserable your narcissistic parents were when you were growing up, they did so while instilling habits, thoughts, and beliefs in you.

You don’t deserve this, you can’t do that, you can’t love that, nothing is good enough, etc. What does that mean to you?

Setting the bar low

This means that you will only find someone who you feel is good enough for you, and that bar will never be high.

Growing up in a narcissistic household normalizes narcissism, and oftentimes, narcissism is not something that the person who experienced it in childhood would see as something dysfunctional.

Where does this leave them?

It leaves them falling into the arms of narcissist after narcissist in adulthood, constantly confused when things never seem to go their way, or why they are having the same kind of self-esteem issues.

Narcissists love people who are oblivious. This means they don’t have to worry about being found out.

2 Those Who Forgive

Giving someone a second chance is sometimes a legitimate thing to do in life. When you make real, honest, and regrettable mistakes, forgiveness is a way for both parties to heal and learn from the experience.

Forgiveness = Problem!

The forgiving nature becomes a problem when the person insists on forgiving as a cure-all.

It’s okay. I know you didn’t mean it.

You had a bad day. Things will be better tomorrow.

I understand. I don’t need to explain.

In a narcissistic relationship, these phrases become a daily occurrence. They become a get-out-of-jail-free card for the narcissist who knows that they can continue to punish you, manipulate you, or treat you with extreme contempt, and that you will just shrug it off and smile and say that everything is fine.

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The narcissist loves forgiveness. They are not grateful for another chance to prove themselves, they are grateful for another chance to destroy you and get away with it again.

3 People with Overly Positive Viewpoints

The world seems a really unfair place when it puts overly positive people in the narcissist’s crosshairs.

Let’s make every day count!

What a great morning, let’s put all our positive intentions out into the universe.

You know what, a bad day doesn’t mean a bad life. Let’s find gratitude every day to remind ourselves of how beautiful life is.

While this positivity comes second nature to a positive person, it’s enough to make a narcissist secretly vomit.

Why?

Because they know they can never spread as much love and light into their entire life as a truly positive, sunny person can in a single day.

brightlightofhappiness

Your light as a positive person will brighten up the narcissist’s dark aura, and they’ll enjoy it. It comes with a related sticker that a narcissist will love. This sticker reads:

They can’t be that bad, of course! I refuse to see their negativity as a flaw. Nobody is perfect. I’ll give them a chance.

Of course you’ll give them a chance. That’s what draws you to narcissists like a magnet: the idea that you can forgive, forgive, forgive.

4 “The Rescuers”

The Rescuers know exactly who they are. They love the familiar story of meeting someone and feeling like that person needs to be rescued in some way.

With the best of intentions, the rescuer sees a problem that they know needs to be solved, and they jump in with both feet, feeling like they’re the magic fixer for everything.

Rescuers want to change the narcissist, but they want to do it with a good heart, and without the manipulation that the narcissist would bring to the table if they tried to do the same thing to someone else.

They’ve been through a really tough time. They don’t have a lot of money, so I’m going to rescue them.

Sometimes, this can feel like a very fast-paced relationship where the rescuer lets the narcissist into their lives, their homes—everything—so quickly that it ignites an intense process of what they consider healing and recovery.

Narcissists? Healing?!

The narcissist will not heal and will not recover. You can give money, give time, and buy into the story the narcissist is selling, but no matter how uncomfortable the rescuer finds themselves in, the rescue simply won’t happen.

The key is to not buy into the narcissist’s initial sad story in the first place. Pay attention to the sad stories, because there is a lure behind them that they are planting on you.

5 Empathic People

They care deeply, they leave the nearest available parking spot for people who may need it more than them, they remember important days, and they text to see how you are doing without an agenda.

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Empathic people are very attuned to what is right. They are not trying to be nice because they think they will get something in the end—they are nice.

Empaths, by nature, connect and reassure, and the world would be a magical place if everyone had natural, inherent empathic qualities.

A battery ready to be drained!

Let’s say an empath who doesn’t know or doesn’t know the wisdom of narcissistic personalities crosses paths with a narcissist.

In this case, the narcissist will be drawn to them because he knows he has a full battery of someone from whom he can extract the energy and supplies he needs.

When the narcissist and the empath initially meet, sparks will fly. The narcissist will get everything he needs from the empath, from conversation to admiration to sympathy.

Empaths are primed to listen and understand, and the fragile ego of the narcissist accepts this fully and with a fierce confidence that they will finally be believed.

Big hit!

The empath will not overly understand or comprehend the magnitude of what he has gotten himself into when he meets a narcissist. However, the narcissist will immediately feel like he has hit the jackpot.

They have now got everything they need.