Narcissists do a lot of things. They hurt. They inflict emotional pain and misery.

They confuse, they lie, they cheat. They intentionally take what isn’t theirs, all because they feel it’s rightfully theirs.

They will isolate you, they will deceive you. They will destroy your dreams and crush your self-esteem.

But…

…today I want to talk about the things that narcissists never do.

Turning the tide in this way will give a very interesting insight into the mind of a true narcissist.

1 Apologize

Wait a second, I’m just checking the narcissist’s dictionary.

P, Q, R, S….

…sorry.

No. It’s not there. It went straight from mean to mean it’s mean.

Well, knowing it’s not there means they never use the word. They don’t even know it’s there!

Apologizing means admitting that they did or said something wrong. And it probably hurts.

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Expecting an apology is setting yourself up for too much expectation. You’re not special enough to apologize, but no one else is either.

2 Admit Your Wrong

I would love to be there the first time a narcissist raises their hands and admits they’re wrong.

I made a mistake!

It was my fault!

How can I make it better?

I feel bad!

No, no, no, and no!

If they do that, it means they’ve suddenly developed the gift of self-reflection. They’ll put themselves in a position of paying attention to others and—well—no.

I don’t know a single narcissist in history who would happily admit they were wrong. To them, a mistake is a sign of incompetence and weakness.

Never!

3 Keep Your Promises

A promise is a lure.

The lure is false security.

False security becomes your reality.

Your reality never makes sense.

The narcissist’s promise will seem great. You’ll look forward to the day it comes true, and dream about it.

At some point in the future, the narcissist will forget that they made the promise in the first place. You’ll wonder if it was all just a dream—but your idea of ​​reality is crumbling.

Narcissists never deliver on their promises. In short, they use words to keep you close. They use words to make you trust them. They use words to pretend that they want the same thing you do so that you feel like you have “more in common.”

4 Be Emotionally Consistent

A narcissistic personality is very much like a roller coaster. There are ups and downs, twists and turns, and dealing with them is also full of “When will this end?”

It won’t end.

Narcissists are not emotionally consistent because that can be boring and predictable. They like to keep you on edge, with maximum opportunity for you to feel anxious and eventually depressed.

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Emotions are unregulated, and this is because narcissists have never learned to explore all of their emotions. There is a deep shame in vulnerability or sadness, so they cover it up with anger or grandiosity.

For you or me, this is very strange to witness, but it creates this feeling of walking on eggshells around them.

Not knowing what mood they will be in is very damaging to even the most stable person.

5 Stop Gossiping

Narcissists live and love gossiping. If there’s something to talk about, they’ll be the ones in the middle of it.

Gossiping is like fuel to them. Talking about how bad someone else’s life is, or what someone did wrong makes them feel better about themselves. If they can hear or hear someone else’s pain, they’ll enjoy it.

After all, if people are talking about that person, they can’t talk about them.

For narcissists – that’s better than good!

Another day, another step.

6 Forgive

Just like apologizing – forgiveness is not in their vocabulary.

While they expect everyone to forgive them, narcissists don’t extend the same grace to others.

For them, forgiveness is a sign of weakness. It means you hurt them and got away with it. Forgiving is like letting others be hurt again – and that’s completely unacceptable.

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Broken ego will be something they’ll remember forever. Just when you think he’s forgotten, he’ll remind you.

Hey, do you remember that time you did this?

Do you remember when you did that?

Yes. Do you remember that. How can you forget when you’re constantly reminded?

7 Take Responsibility

You’ll never see a narcissist tell you that he was responsible for something bad.

Instead, he’ll literally throw up his hands and say, “I had nothing to do with it.”

The chaos he can cause is truly annoying, yet he vehemently denies playing a toxic role in it.

Be careful of this – it’s one of the biggest red flags!

8 Be Really Vulnerable

Vulnerability is a sign of weakness in a narcissist.

All a narcissist wants is to be strong, to be known as strong, and nothing else.

Think about it. If the narcissist in your life had the traits of vulnerability, would they be able to manipulate as much as they do? Would they demand control in every aspect of your relationship?

Absolutely not!

They can’t. They fear getting hurt. In fact – it’s more than fear.

It’s a real phobia.

Remember that underneath that facade there is a very insecure person. Sometimes it’s hard to think about that because they’re often so obsessed with being “me.”

9 Expressing Their True Feelings

They don’t want to, and they don’t know how to express their feelings.

As mentioned above, vulnerability is about expressing one’s feelings, being open and honest. Now, don’t confuse this with all emotions – it’s not.

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Narcissists are great at expressing anger. Anger. Impatience. Self-importance. Disinterest.

All of these emotions are reactive – there has to be something that triggers them.

Anything that involves looking deeply into what’s really going on beneath the surface – forget about it.

10 I Love You

They may say they love you and truly love you in their own capacity.

But that’s not love.

That’s their version of it, which comes with conditions and control.

I love you when…

I’ll love you if…

When you do this, it makes me wonder if I love you…

Love is unconditional. It means accepting that you’re not in control (we can’t help the one we love). A narcissist’s fear of not being in control is a big part of their personality. They prefer everything to go their way.

Love is not on their agenda. People are just pawns they can use.