I can hear you all now:

You can tell a narcissist is lying if their lips move!

Well, to a certain extent, you’re right. Narcissists love to lie. However… there are certain things you can be on the lookout for.

When I’m asked how to spot a narcissist, my favorite tip is to be on the lookout for how they tell you things.

In fact, it’s almost funny to watch them squirm and try to wriggle out of such obvious moments of deception.

Let’s go over all the ways you can spot a lying narcissist.

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You can be your own human lie detector!

MysteryStoriesComeThickAndFast

When you ask a narcissist a question in the hopes of getting an honest answer, they can take you on a journey.

The journey isn’t a pleasant or strange place. In fact, it’s a ride on a hamster wheel, and you end up getting nowhere fast.

They’re Mystery. They dodge your questions like bullets, and the more you ask them, the more confused they become.

They act this way because they know they’re not being honest or truthful with you. I mean think about it, are honest people even somewhat honest?

No.

They’re being uncompromisingly honest.

That’s because they really have nothing to hide. A narcissist has a lot to hide, and they’ll do whatever it takes to do it.

It’s so funny to watch them try to calm you down with answers that won’t calm you down.

Yeah, I went out.

Out where?

Just out.

What were you doing?

Things.

Any things?

Things that don’t concern you.

They want to upset you and make you worry about where they are.

They love to lie.

Change the subject – what now?

You ask.

They answer, quickly followed by a compliment or a reference to the weather. If a narcissist really knows you, they’ll bring up a topic you’re passionate about. This is designed to help you avoid the lies you know are happening right in front of you and to you.

Yes – these subject changes can come thick and fast if you’re in a conversation with a lying narcissist.

There’s also something a bit sly about changing the subject, and that’s how it’s meant to confuse you a little.

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Maybe you were sure you got the truth, even if it wasn’t what you wanted to hear. And suddenly, you’re talking about good dog names, and you’re left thinking…

What’s so upsetting about it? Why do I assume they’re lying?

contradictions, stuttering, stumbling

This is one of my personal favorites, because when I’m in the presence of a lying narcissist, I love watching the stuttering unfold.

It’s so annoying to the narcissist and they often excuse themselves by saying “I need to make a call” or “I need to go to the bathroom.”

Listen to the tone of someone’s voice as they try to smooth over their lies. Be aware of the defensiveness of how they use language, or how they stumble over their words as they try to evade your truth-seeking questions.

I, eh, but, well, um, eh, uh, well, I, I, I, eh…

Oh, it’s so good to see them so uncomfortable.

You know, narcissists?

If you don’t want to get caught, stop lying!

It’s so simple for the rest of us, but it seems so complicated for all of you.

EyeContact? What is eye contact?

Point in a weird voice…

Avoid. All. Eye. Contact.

I swear narcissists are aliens. I wouldn’t be surprised, because they are a completely different life form than the rest of us.

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If narcissists are uncomfortable with who they are lying to, they will find eye contact a little creepy. This can be especially true in the workplace, or with people of authority who you are questioning.

Think about many world leaders or politicians. Yes, they look away as they promise to improve their communities or give them more opportunities to find work.

They don’t look you in the eye, and when they do answer, they look everywhere except where you are sitting or standing.

Interestingly, the worst narcissists can be the opposite. They can literally poke you in the eye as they try to overcome the idea that “no eye contact equals lying.”

This intensity is even more fun to watch, because no amount of eye contact adds truth to their words.

BodyLanguage

A simple swerve or twist is enough to tell you that they’re not really giving you everything they know.

Folded arms protect them from your desire to know what’s really going on. They’re also designed to protect themselves from you, because they feel marginally or completely threatened.

Playing on their phone when you’re trying to engage in a conversation that calls for honesty.

Sighing or tilting their head impatiently at you as you ask questions, hoping you’ll give up on seeing their obvious frustration.

All of these tactics are designed to push you away, and keep you away from them so they can continue to lie.

TurnItOnYou

Where have you been?

Sorry, did I ask you that last week when you were out all day?

Why didn’t you call me?

Well, you never called me to ask where I was! I could have gotten in trouble or gotten hurt!

I was late.

Don’t you think I wanted to get home sooner?

Using your questions to get back at you is a classic narcissistic ploy. They don’t want to answer what you want to know. They want you to feel bad for asking in the first place.

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They will use what you are questioning to question in return. Anything to shift the blame away from themselves and onto you.

This tactic is still a lie, because what they are doing is blaming you for something they did.

This means they get away with it no matter what they do.

TrustYourGut

When everything else around you fails, look inward. This is something that people who have constant access to narcissists fail to do because they begin to learn not to trust what they are thinking or feeling.

This is a state that the narcissist has forced upon you, but in reality, you can still think and feel – and believe it.

Trusting your gut is a surefire way to fall for their lies and fully understand how they are telling them.

When something doesn’t seem right, or when they don’t present themselves in an open and honest way, you know that something is definitely up.