We often talk about getting older, but rarely do we touch on one of its side effects – loneliness. It’s not the most fun topic, but it’s real.
The interesting thing? Without realizing it, we sometimes nurture habits that lead us down this lonely path. But don’t worry, these habits aren’t set in stone.
So take a deep breath and get ready. We’ve put together a list of 11 habits you might want to ditch. It’s all about making changes to keep loneliness at bay as we age.
1) Spending Too Much Alone Time
We all need a little “me time” now and then. It’s great for self-reflection and relaxation. But spending too much time alone can also lead to loneliness, especially as we get older.
As we get older, our social circles may shrink for various reasons such as retirement, moving, or losing loved ones. This makes it all the more important to actively seek out social interactions.
So, make time each day to call a friend, visit a family member, or participate in a group activity you enjoy.
2) Neglecting your physical health
As the saying goes, a healthy body houses a healthy mind. Neglecting your physical health can lead to several problems, including feelings of isolation and loneliness.
As we age, maintaining your physical health becomes even more important. Regular exercise not only keeps your body fit, but it also releases endorphins, the happy hormones that help combat feelings of loneliness and depression.
Whether it’s a brisk walk in the park, a yoga class, or a dance session in your living room, make sure you get moving! It’s not about the intensity of your workout, it’s about consistency. So, find an activity you enjoy and stick to it.
3) Sticking to a strict routine
I’ve always been a stickler for habits. For years, I followed the same routine – wake up, work, eat, sleep, repeat. It was convenient and easy, but it was also monotonous. Monotony can lead to loneliness.
As I’ve gotten older, I’ve realized the importance of changing things up a little. Whether it’s trying a new hobby, visiting a new place, or simply changing up my daily walking route, these small changes have made a huge difference.
Breaking free from a rigid routine has helped me meet new people and experience new things. It’s brought excitement and anticipation for the day ahead, which has kept feelings of loneliness at bay. So go ahead and change up your routine now and then—it might be just the breath of fresh air you need!
4) Ignore the Power of Pets
Here’s an interesting fact: Did you know that owning a pet can help reduce feelings of loneliness? According to a study by the National Poll on Healthy Aging, 88% of pet owners said their pets helped them enjoy life, and 79% said their pets reduced stress.
As we age, having a furry (or feathery, or scaly) friend around can provide companionship and a sense of purpose. Pets need care and attention, which can help structure our day and keep us energized. Plus, who could feel lonely when they have a pet to cuddle with?
So, if your circumstances allow, consider adopting a pet. It could be a cat, a dog, a bird, or even a fish—any pet that fits your lifestyle. Not only will you gain a new friend, but you’ll also provide a loving home for an animal in need.
5) Avoid New Technology
Technology changes rapidly, and it can be scary at times. But avoiding it can isolate us from our loved ones and the world.
I’ve seen friends who resisted using smartphones or social media because they thought it was too complicated. But as they got older and their loved ones moved away, they realized how much they missed it.
Embracing technology can open up a whole new world. It can help us stay connected to our families, rekindle old friendships, and even make new ones. It brings us closer to the world and what’s going on in it, which can reduce feelings of loneliness.
6) Neglect Personal Interests and Hobbies
I’ve always loved drawing. But as life got busier, I found myself putting this hobby on the back burner. Work, chores, responsibilities—they all seemed more important. But as I got older, I realized something was missing.
One day, on a whim, I picked up my old brushes. As I immersed myself in the colors and brush strokes, I felt a joy and fulfillment I hadn’t felt in years.
Not only did rekindling my love of drawing fill my time, but it also connected me with others who shared my interests. Joining a local art club introduced me to new friends and alleviated feelings of loneliness.
Here’s a tip from my journey: Don’t neglect your interests and hobbies. Not only do they bring you joy, they also keep you from feeling lonely. Go out and dust off that old guitar or put on those old running shoes—your future self will thank you!
7) Holding onto grudges
Let’s be completely honest here. We’ve all been hurt and we’ve all held grudges. It’s part of being human. But holding onto those grudges, especially as we get older, doesn’t do us any good.
Holding grudges can isolate us, not only from the people we’re upset with but also from potential new relationships. It causes us to build walls and erect defenses. And let’s face it, holding onto grudges is exhausting.
Forgiveness isn’t about letting someone off the hook for their actions, it’s about freeing ourselves from the burden of carrying resentment. It’s about making room in our hearts for peace, joy, and new connections.
8) Overreliance on Digital Connections
Did you know that while social media and digital connections can help combat loneliness, they can also exacerbate it? Researchers have found that heavy users of social media reported feeling more isolated than those who use it less.
While technology has made it easier for us to stay connected to our loved ones, it’s important to balance online interactions with face-to-face connections. Humans are social creatures, and nothing can replace the warmth of in-person conversation or the joy of shared laughter.
While it’s great to video call your kids or participate in an online book club, make time for in-person interactions as well. Join a local hobby group, volunteer at a community center, or simply invite a friend over for coffee. These experiences can go a long way toward reducing feelings of loneliness.
9) Not Asking for Help
I’ve always prided myself on being independent. I used to like to do things my way and at my own pace. But as I’ve gotten older, I’ve realized that sometimes, it’s okay to ask for help.
I remember the first time I had to ask my daughter for help with her taxes. I felt embarrassed and like I was a burden. But she was more than happy to help me and reassured me that I wasn’t bothering her.
Asking for help doesn’t make us weak or dependent. It’s part of life. And most of the time, people are more than willing to lend a helping hand. It also opens up opportunities for social interaction and can help reduce feelings of loneliness.
10) Neglecting your mental health
We often focus on our physical health and forget about our mental health. I won’t overstate this – neglecting your mental health can lead to feelings of isolation and loneliness.
Sometimes, we just don’t want to admit that we’re feeling down or anxious. But it’s so important to acknowledge these feelings rather than ignore them. Taking care of your mental health is not a sign of weakness, it’s a sign of strength.
If you’re feeling lonely or depressed, don’t hesitate to seek professional help. Therapists and counselors are here to help you work through these feelings. Remember, it’s okay to not be okay sometimes.
11) Give in to negative self-talk
We all have that little voice in our heads that loves to criticize and doubt us. And let’s be completely honest here – giving in to that negative self-talk can make us feel isolated and alone.
If you’re constantly telling yourself that you’re not good enough or that people don’t care about you, you’ll start to believe it. It’s time to challenge those thoughts. Remind yourself of your values and the positive relationships in your life.
Be kind to yourself, because you’re worth it. Don’t let negative self-talk convince you that you’re alone. You are loved, appreciated, and never as alone as you might think.
Break Habits, Embrace Connections
So here are 11 habits you should break if you’re determined to avoid feeling lonely as the years go by. Remember, change isn’t always easy, but it’s worth it.
