In addition to focusing on couples, I have done business consulting and helped companies be more profitable by developing healthier relationships at work.
Researchers have consistently shown that there is a relationship between good morale, healthy work relationships, and productivity. However, sometimes, just like in personal relationships, you have to deal with a toxic relationship at work.
I have helped many clients in my private practice deal with people at work who drain their energy, create a lot of stress and anxiety, and make it difficult to even go to work.
Here are 3 tips for dealing with toxic people and toxic relationships at work:
- Don’t take it personally.
People who find you toxic are usually toxic to others. You may (for some reason) be a good target. Determine your worth and don’t let someone else’s emotional burden affect you.
I know this is not easy but if you notice how you internalize the cruelty or negativity of the other person. Stop, take a breath, and remember that you can practice relaxation even while the other person is doing their toxic thing.
- Act opposite to your reaction.
For example, if you want to escape from this person, move towards this person and show some interest. Of course, don’t expose yourself to abuse, but getting rid of a person in this way can sometimes change the entire toxic pattern.
- Talk to a few trusted people.
If the toxic person isn’t your boss, talk to your boss and see if you can get some support. If he is your boss, see if you have coworkers you trust.
Of course, good friends and family members can be confidants with whom you can share your difficulties. Getting support often gives you the strength to deal with a toxic person.
I know that it can sometimes be more complex and difficult than what I mentioned above. I’m here to help you get creative in this unhealthy situation so you can be more innovative and happy again at work.
