There is a big difference between being proud and being narcissistic.
When a narcissist’s pride is wounded, things can get interesting. Their responses can range from subtle to explosive and are usually aimed at restoring their sense of superiority.
As a narcissist, I’ve been there, and seen it all. And let me tell you, there are certain things we say when our pride is secretly hurt.
So, here are 8 common phrases narcissists use when their pride takes a hit. Although they may seem harmless to the untrained ear, they can reveal a lot about what’s going on beneath the surface.
Let’s dive in!
1) “I don’t need anyone”
Have you heard this line before? It’s a classic narcissistic defense mechanism.
Narcissists often have this grandiose belief that they are self-sufficient, and don’t need anyone else in their lives. But beneath this facade, it’s usually a different story.
When a narcissist’s pride is secretly wounded, his or her instinct is to push others away. They may say things like “I don’t need anyone” or “I’m better off alone.”
But don’t be fooled. These are the ones trying to protect their fragile ego from further damage. They are not good at admitting that they have been hurt, even to themselves.
So, the next time you hear a narcissist say something like that, know that it’s probably a sign that their pride has taken a major hit.
2) “You’re just jealous”
Narcissists often view the world through a lens of competition and rivalry. Either you are with them or against them. When their pride is hurt, they often resort to the phrase, “They’re just jealous.”
This skewed statement is used to dismiss any criticism or negative comments they may receive. Instead of admitting any mistakes or shortcomings, the narcissist prefers to believe that others are jealous of him.
This phrase is a classic example of a narcissist’s inability to accept responsibility for his actions. It is their way of maintaining their proud self-image and protecting their ego from any potential damage.
3) “I never make mistakes”
Narcissists find it difficult to accept that they can be wrong, too. Studies show that individuals with narcissistic tendencies are more likely to believe they are always right, even in the face of clear evidence proving otherwise.
When their pride is wounded, they double down on that belief. They may say things like, “I’m never wrong” or “My way is the only right way.” This behavior is their attempt to regain control and reassert their perceived superiority.
If you notice someone who refuses to admit their mistakes or constantly insists that they are right, their ego may likely be nursing a secret wound.
4) “I don’t care”
“I don’t care” – a phrase narcissists often use when trying to hide their hurt pride.
Self-absorbed individuals like to project an image of being unaffected by the opinions or actions of others. But the truth is that they care a lot more than they let on.
When their pride is hurt, they may resort to saying “I don’t care” to ignore the situation or person that is causing them discomfort. It’s their way of trying to regain control and protect their fragile ego.
But remember, beneath that indifferent exterior, there is often a broken pride that needs some serious healing.
5) “You’re overreacting”
Ah, the classic “You’re overreacting” – a phrase I’ve heard more times than I’d like to admit.
When a narcissist’s pride is secretly wounded, he or she will often resort to manipulating someone into questioning their sanity.
Here’s how it usually works: I’d point out something they did that wasn’t okay, and instead of admitting their mistake, they’d turn it around on me — “You’re overreacting” or “You’re too sensitive.” “.
It’s not just them who avoid criticism. It is also a way for them to regain control and protect their wounded ego.
6) “I’m sorry you feel this way”
At first glance, this might seem like an apology, right? But it is far from that.
When a narcissist’s pride is hurt, he or she may say, “I’m sorry you feel that way.” But if you listen closely, you will realize that this is not an admission of guilt or an apology for their actions, rather they are apologizing for how you feel about their actions.
It’s a subtle way to shift blame without actually admitting any wrongdoing. This tactic allows them to maintain their image and protect their broken ego without needing to truly apologize.
This statement is a false apology and may be a sign that the narcissist is secretly trying to nurse his wounded ego.
7) “No one understands me”
Here’s another phrase narcissists often turn to when their egos take a hit – “Nobody understands me.”
This statement is intended to arouse sympathy and shift the focus away from their wounded pride. In a way, it’s a plea for validation and attention, without having to admit they’re hurting.
It is also an attempt to portray themselves as unique or superior, which feeds their grandiose self-perception.
8) “I am the victim here”
The most telling sign? When narcissists play the victim – “I am the victim here.”
When their pride is hurt, they may portray themselves as the wronged party, even if they are at fault. This allows them to divert attention from their shortcomings and gain sympathy.
