Narcissism is a personality disorder in which a person exhibits behaviors such as an unhealthy need for admiration, insensitivity to the feelings of others, inability to accept any kind of criticism, and feelings of excessive self-importance. If you know or deal with someone who displays these traits, they are likely a narcissist.
People with narcissism can be treated for this disorder, but it has no cure. It is also important to note that narcissism is chronic, meaning it lasts for years and can last a lifetime in some cases.
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Many people are not only in a relationship with someone like this but also married to someone with narcissistic personality disorder.
Here are some sad facts about what it means to marry a narcissist.
1. They make you feel trapped
“I’m married to a narcissist. Even though I’ve learned to always expect the worst, he still manages to shock me. He won’t leave and he won’t let me take the kids. I’m stuck.”
2. They only care about one person, themselves.
“My husband is a narcissist and only thinks about himself and his needs. We have been married for one year and I fear that it will end at the end of this year.”
3. You wonder why you stay
“My husband has a narcissistic personality, and he is one of the coldest people I know. I was going to leave him, but I still love him, and I don’t know why.”
4. It affects your quality of life.
“I love my husband but I hate his narcissistic personality. It makes it difficult to live, to be happy, to do something for me without feeling bad or harassed at night.”
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5. He makes every day seem like a struggle.
“My husband is a narcissist, which makes me feel like I’m going crazy every day. I’ve never felt so broken and alone.”
6. You feel that they are unable to deal with anyone but themselves.
“I married a narcissist and I feel like this marriage is a lie. He is incapable of loving anyone other than himself.”
7. You secretly regret having a relationship with them.
“I’ve been married for almost 10 years to a narcissist who chases other women nonstop. I just want a normal relationship.”
8. It is terrifying to realize that you made the wrong decision to marry them.
“I don’t know what I was thinking when I married a narcissist. I just wanted to be loved.”
9. You can leave the relationship, and that feels great.
“I recently separated from my emotionally abusive, narcissistic husband. 13 years of gaming brought me to my lowest lows, but now I feel so free and my soul is healing.”
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10. The relationship is stressing you out
“I’m married to a narcissist and I’m constantly walking on eggshells. Living with an emotional roller coaster is exhausting.”
11. It is heartbreaking to realize that their narcissism caused you to fall out of love with them.
“I no longer love my narcissistic husband…and this makes me sad.”
12. You don’t know why they act this way.
“I have a narcissistic husband and I have a hard time understanding how people like this can’t see how vile and selfish they are.”
13. You are very conflicted.
“I married a narcissist. Now I don’t know what to do.”
14. Ending a marriage may be painful, but it’s for the best.
“I married a narcissist and now we’re divorced. Sometimes I miss him, but then I realize I miss my misconceptions about who he is. It still hurts though.”
15. She didn’t realize that the problem was narcissism.
“After years of trying to make my marriage work, I discovered that my husband is a narcissist. I don’t know what to do.”
16. It makes you feel negative emotions, instead of positive ones.
“My husband is a narcissist. I hate him for it.”
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17. Worry about how it will affect your children.
“My ex-wife is a narcissist. It kills me to watch her raise my kids.”
- The relationship makes you feel like you’re becoming a completely different person.
“My wife’s narcissism is turning me into a sociopath.”
