Narcissistic personality disorder, or NPD, is a complex mental health condition that involves an inflated or inflated sense of self.
Narcissists are selfish, self-centered, and believe they are superior to others. Individuals with this disorder expect to be treated in certain ways and do not take into account other people’s opinions or problems.
One of the worst things narcissists do is manipulate people into doing what they want. They can become abusive and severely hurt people in their lives.
But do narcissists know they are narcissists? Well, one man named Lee Hammock is a self-aware narcissist.
Hammock is a mental health advocate and motivational speaker who has made it his goal in life to help people affected by his disorder.
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Hammock has been diagnosed with borderline personality disorder since 2017 and has been public about it since 2019.
“My goal is to raise awareness of Narcissistic Personality Disorder, get more people into treatment, and also validate victims and survivors of narcissistic abuse,” he says on his website. It also offers a different perspective through individual training sessions
Hammock is very active on his social media platforms, expressing his teachings and opinions on NPD in his own self-created videos.
These self-aware narcissists discuss how to avoid narcissists and toxic people.
The short answer? Leave them alone.
Hammock explains how people often give second, third, fourth, and even fifteenth chances to narcissists when they don’t deserve them at all. “When people show you who they are, believe them the first time,” he says.
What it means is that the first time someone yells at you, hurts you, or disrespects you in any way, you have to leave. Don’t stay where you are thinking that this person will change.
Hammock goes on to explain that these people take advantage of your compassion and empathy.
“They take advantage of the fact that you are very empathetic, very tolerant, very kind,” he adds. Then he raises a red flag and says, “The first time one of these shows up in your life or your relationship dynamic, leave it alone.”
Hammock ends this video by saying that you control access to yourself: “Your access has been earned.”
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Other Hammock videos explain whether you can hurt a narcissist, what it’s like to show your emotions in front of this type of person, and how narcissists will try to convince you that they love you, especially if you’re about to leave them.
According to Hammock, narcissists will start saying things like: “Hey, I love you,” or “You know I love you, right?”, or “I’ve never loved anyone like this before,” or “I can’t live without you.” “.
He goes on to explain that if someone truly loves you, they won’t have to convince you of it. “Narcissists usually don’t put their actions behind the phrase ‘I love you.'” “They just say it and expect it to be enough,” Hammock explains.
Narcissists and toxic people will treat you horribly until the moment you decide to leave; Only then comes the “crying and begging and pleading and ‘I love you’.”
Not only do Hammock’s videos explain certain elements or behaviors of a person with BPD, but he also makes role-playing videos that show how narcissists act in certain situations.
Hammock explains that the best way to deal with a narcissistic or toxic person is to not give them the time of day. Remove them from your life, and don’t spend a minute trying to change them.
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