People often associate abuse with its physical manifestations because bruises are easy to see and therefore undeniable.

But abuse in relationships can be much more than what meets the eyes.

Abuse in any form is a disgusting and unacceptable type of relationship behaviour, and we hope that everyone who has to deal with it can find their way out, safe and sound, with the help of a good support system.

Being in a relationship with a mentally and emotionally abusive partner is silent torture.

It is one of the most sad and lonely feelings anyone can endure.

This type of abuse is something people can’t see, and having to explain what you’re going through without actual “physical evidence” of abuse is absolute hell.

You are degraded, demoralized, and made to feel worthless on a daily basis, and no one really knows.

Feeling isolated and people unable to understand your pain is a daily battle.

You get so caught up in someone and the love you feel for them that you decide to turn a blind eye to their malicious treatment of you.

It always starts small, so you don’t really want to say anything. But as time goes by, it becomes worse and more painful, but you continue to suffer in silence…

They will stoop to the lowest levels to make you feel bad, oftentimes acting as if you are somehow responsible for the way they act.

They will play the victim card in order to manipulate you, play mind games with you, and confuse you.

They will pretend that their hands are clean and that all the blame falls on you.

And often, the best way to do this is through the double standards they impose on you.

If you feel like your partner is emotionally abusing you, don’t stay silent.

Don’t accept the shit he puts you through. Decide that’s enough!

Below are some of the most common examples of double standards experienced by victims of emotional abuse.

If you recognize yourself in any of these, my advice is to find the most peaceful way out, and never look back.

He will criticize you like it’s his job, but when you do the same to him, he handles it very poorly

He has no problem blaming you for the most trivial and trivial things.

Everything you do is scrutinized, and he makes sure to tell you what a poor job you did if he’s not happy about something.

But when he does something really bad and you want to confront him as an adult, he throws a tantrum and handles it very poorly.

You fear for your life sometimes, so it’s easier to never criticize him than to risk yelling at him too often.

Demands to know your whereabouts at all times, but fails to tell you where he is and how long he will be staying

You are required to check in with him regularly no matter where you are. If you don’t let him know where you are, he’ll make a scene.

But when you politely ask where he is and what time he will be back, he acts as if you have no right to know such a thing.

He goes and does what he wants with whomever he wants for as long as he wants, and you are completely in the dark.

He doesn’t care how you feel at all but he expects you to put his needs and emotions first

If it makes you feel like shit, that’s okay. If he says something hurtful to you, it’s still okay.

But when she ignores his emotions and fails to be at his beck and call, everything explodes.

You have to be careful to always pay attention to how he feels that day and do whatever suits him.

If you even try to ask him to understand that you’re having a bad day, you’ll never hear the end of it.

He asks for sex and expects it whenever he wants, but when you are in a good mood, he completely ignores you

He expects to have sex whenever he feels like it. You have to always be available to him, or else.

But when you ask for the same thing, he won’t pay attention to you.

Only when he is in a good mood will there be any physical manifestations of love.

When you feel this way, he is unlikely to respect you.

He is the decision maker in everything, but when you try to suggest something, he ignores it

He’s the man, and he makes sure you know it. He makes all the decisions, no matter how big or small, and there is nothing left for you to participate in.

But when you try to offer your input or just suggest an idea about something, he looks down on you as if it’s not your place.

You are expected to let the man do his job and to be obedient and at his service if he needs something from you.

When he mistreats you, he puts all the blame on you, and when you make a mistake, it’s always your fault and your fault only.

He will yell at you for something he did. He will make you feel like a piece of shit and put all the blame on you.

It’s always your fault when he treats you badly.

You’re the one who made him act this way. Your bad mood made him angry, and he had no choice but to take it out on you.

Basically, you have to walk on eggshells around him because you know that no matter what you do, he will find a way to shift all the blame for his actions onto you.

As long as you let him get away with it, the emotional abuse will never end.

It’s important to distance yourself from it slowly, and if you need it, seek help.

Don’t put up with what you shouldn’t. This type of behavior is toxic and hurtful, and no one deserves it.