We have all met these types of people at least once in our lives, perhaps in a romantic relationship, and it is very painful to know that our partner was manipulating us into believing that what they showed us were real feelings.
So, without further ado, I’m going to introduce you to all the ways of emotional manipulation, so you can recognize him the next time you see him!
The victim
You have surely met a “victim” at least once in your life. You simply know it’s them every time they open their mouths.
“I’m not good enough”, “You don’t love me anymore”, “You’re being so rude to me, I’m fragile, don’t you see?”
No matter what happens, these people are always insecure about something in their life and never know what to do. Their goal is to gain your approval and make you pity them.
Why?
Well, they’re not called “victims” for no reason. They want you all to feel sorry for them and are giving you all the power to make them feel better again because they can’t make themselves feel better.
You may feel exhausted with this type of person and get into a lot of fights with them because of their constant mood changes.
The expert in everything
These people drain me the most because their constant need to be better than everyone else is so strong that they somehow manage to never show their insecurities.
But imagine how weak and insecure a person must be to constantly need to compare themselves to you and try to belittle you by saying how much better they are than you.
How they are above you and you are not worth their time. These people drain others with their toxic personalities.
They can make you feel their insecurities and constantly point you out until you see every little mistake you’ve ever made. Just run away from these people.
Spinner type
Well, when it comes to these guys, all you can do is watch them and laugh at them.
They give so much of themselves to others that they seem desperate.
Maybe because they are? You definitely have a friend who is a flirtatious type of toxic person. Yes, you know, the one who has no boundaries.
You will flirt with your ex, your guy friends, or even your boyfriend. It has no limit.
She will try to destroy your relationship and make you feel miserable without you even noticing!
self-defender
Well, you did something wrong and hurt someone. You admit it immediately. But not this person because everyone bears responsibility except him.
They are never the ones to blame for something happening or some project not ending up the way it should have.
They will make you think that you are the one who messed everything up and they will never be the one to blame for anything.
Anger revolution
“Why are you asking me that? How stupid can you be?!” I dated this type of emotional manipulator.
In fact, many of my friends were like this, but I never noticed this pattern.
I thought I was too clingy and that I was to blame. But I wasn’t.
I never was. They’re just mad at themselves for some reason, for not achieving a certain goal or something.
So don’t care about these people. They have anger management issues and this should not be something to worry about. They are not angry with you. They are angry with themselves.
The innocent liar
They will make up a story just to make it seem more interesting.
They want you to love them so they can’t make any excuses, so why would they? It’s an innocent lie. But be careful.
You will never know if they are telling the truth about an important matter.
They may lie to you and say, “Well, you didn’t say it that way,” or, “Oh, I must have misunderstood you.”
The strong is the weak
You’ve probably seen girls who keep playing the victim in relationships just because they’re the “weaker” sex and make their partner feel like they need to constantly take care of them so they don’t feel sad.
You want to make them feel better somehow, but it doesn’t work. They’re just stupid crybabies.
The triangle
Strange name, isn’t it? I don’t know what else to call them. These are people who are nice to their victim and play innocent just to gain their trust.
When they get it, they go to someone else (or even anyone else?) just to tell them all your little secrets.
They want the approval and love of all the people they can surround themselves with, so they use their advantage of always knowing what’s going on and simply gossiping. Apparently, they don’t have their own lives.
Aggression
If you don’t do what they want you to do, they may hurt you.
Or at least the threat of doing so. Their vocabulary is a mixture of curse words and threats that they will hurt you.
Don’t take them seriously, just try to talk to them in a nice way. If that doesn’t work either, just leave. Not worth it.
“All in one”
This may be an exaggeration, but there are people in this world who manipulate multiple emotions and we have not yet recognized them.
They can be vulnerable victims who threaten to kill you if you don’t do what they want. So it’s a really interesting combination.
now? Now you know what you need to look for in people to know if they are emotionally manipulative.
Sometimes they disguise themselves well, but believe me, they will show their colors eventually.
Just keep your distance from these people and do not devote your time and attention to them. You will feel more drained than you have ever felt before.
