Breakups are hard, there’s no doubt about that. You lose the person you care deeply about, and suddenly, you have to learn to live without them.
It doesn’t matter who initiates the end of your relationship, whenever it happens, it’s painful for both parties.
Even if you are the one who stopped loving your romantic partner, you can’t help but feel sorry for the fact that you had to say goodbye for good.
However, if you are honest, you will see that breakups happen all the time.
This may sound harsh, but the truth is that every couple who doesn’t end up getting married or becoming life partners has to break up sooner or later.
What I’m trying to tell you is that statistically, most of your romantic relationships will end in a breakup. Unfortunately, this is all part of life and something we all have to face.
However, what could be worse than that is when you end things with someone you never actually had an affair with.
Going through failed situations is more painful than failed relationships.
I know many will disagree with me here, but trust me when I say that it is possible to miss someone you never had.
You don’t only miss this person, you suffer even more for the potential your romance might have had.
You cry for everything that could have been and what should have been. In general, the things you fantasized about next to this man, all the future plans you had, and the fact that none of them would ever come true.
If you’ve ever been in a failed situation, you’ll know that it has devastating consequences for your self-esteem.
Whether you want to admit it or not, you are not only hurt by the fact that you have to go on without this man, but you are also devastated that he never had the decency to choose you for real.
After all this time you spent together, he never called you his girlfriend. This man never took your hand and proudly introduced you to all his friends and family.
He never wanted commitment and continued to refuse to put a label on your relationship. The two of you had never been exclusive and you never knew where you stood with him.
Therefore, you assume that you cannot expect anything more or better from any other man.
Obviously, you are not meant to be loved, and you will never be enough for a man to prioritize you and make you the only woman in his life.
Well, let me tell you, you couldn’t be more wrong. Just because you’ve been in a situation like this, doesn’t mean you can’t have a real relationship.
I know this sounds like I’m trying to console you, but trust me on this: It’s not you, it’s him.
It was never your fault that this immature boy didn’t have the ability to give you what you deserved.
You don’t have to blame the fact that he didn’t know what he wanted and couldn’t decide for you.
I’m not gonna lie to you. You are guilty for allowing him to continue treating you this way, after realizing that he would never be the man you needed. I get it.
You hoped it would change, but everything stayed the same.
However, there is no point in thinking again now. What’s done is done, and all you can do is learn from it.
Instead of letting this experience damage you beyond repair, take it as a lesson. Learn how to avoid the type of guys who are clearly players and who are clearly going to crush your heart.
Most importantly, teach yourself not to settle for less than you deserve. Realize that it is unacceptable to be someone’s last resort and don’t let another man treat you like that.
Only when you reach this mindset will you see that the end of this situation is definitely not the end of your life – it is actually an opportunity for a new beginning.
Only then will you be ready to meet a man who will treat you not only as his first choice, but as his only choice.
A man who will always be sure of you, will never have any doubts about his feelings and will make you feel safe and loved.
