Do you feel constantly drained for no apparent reason? Well, it might be one of the warning signs you should stay away from!

If there’s one thing I’ve learned about life, it’s this: stay away from false ideals, too much sugar, and toxic people.

If you follow false ideals, you will become false. If you eat too much sugar, you will get sick. If you surround yourself with toxic people, you will waste your time and ruin your life!

Life is too short to deal with negative people. Your time is too valuable to waste on people who do not add value to your life.

Whether your partner takes you for granted, your colleague is secretly plotting against you, or your friend is a Debbie Downer (who always gets the best of your positive mood), dealing with these people is often unavoidable.

But all hope is not lost! What you can do is change the way you respond to them!

If you don’t pay attention to the red flags, spending time with these people can destroy your well-being and lower your self-esteem and self-esteem.

To prevent this from happening, here is a list of warning signs that indicate you should stay away from someone:

You spend a lot of time complaining about them

Do you find yourself constantly talking about it with your friends or family members? Has complaining about them become your new hobby (that you don’t really enjoy)?

If yes, then you know there is something fishy about this person. Often times, we don’t realize that we are surrounded by negative people until we find ourselves constantly talking about them.

I remember when I repeatedly visited the social media profiles of the toxic person in my life. Even though I couldn’t stand their presence, I was still consumed by their toxic personality in the virtual world.

I suppose I was trying to get some answers as to why they acted this way. How wrong I was!

Little did I know that I was giving them more power over my life by doing this!

If you find yourself spending a lot of time over-analyzing or complaining about the negative person in your life, you need to do something about it.

You don’t control your emotions

Whether you’re dealing with a manipulative coworker or friend, negative people can interfere with your emotions.

Imagine that something bad happens at work, and you don’t act immediately because you have no idea what to say.

So, you go home, and for the rest of the day, you can’t stop thinking about what happened.

You’re also having trouble sleeping because you’re haunted by all the things you want to say to them. You wake up, go to work again, and feel like you’re not yourself anymore.

You feel like you have no control over your emotions because you suddenly feel frustrated, and uncontrollable outbursts of anger take over your mind and body.

When this happens, you may act impulsively or let repressed emotions get to you. Remember that controlling your emotions does not mean avoiding them.

You blame them for the choices you make

Do you blame them when you don’t do something you want? Do you blame them for interfering in your life and ruining your plans?

Do you blame them when you are unhappy with your life?

If you have a toxic relationship with someone, you will blame them for the choices you make. They say we are the creators of our own happiness.

Blaming others for your misery is a big sign that you are giving away your power. If she is the cause of your confusion, excessive anxiety, and misery, it is time to walk away from her.

Once you do this, you will be able to navigate life the way you want. You will have absolute freedom to make your own choices and be responsible for them instead of blaming others.

Your self-esteem decreases significantly

There is one thing every victim of a toxic and abusive relationship has in common: low self-esteem. Toxic people do their best to make you feel bad about yourself.

Why? So they can control and control you more easily.

They will say mean and rude things to you, and they will insult and belittle you. They will do all this to make you think that you are weak and that you deserve to be treated this way.

If anyone treats you this way, know that it is time to show them your strength! Your strength lies within you.

It’s about your decision to let go of everything toxic and surround yourself with positive people; Those who add value to your life and increase your self-esteem instead of lowering it.

Spending time with them makes you feel terrible

Do you often feel anxious for days when you are about to meet this person? Do you feel drained in their presence, even for days after meeting them?

One of the most obvious signs that you should stay away from him is that spending time with him feels more like a nightmare than a fun experience.

I remember when I had to deal with toxic peers in my high school.

Whenever something bad happened, I would relive it over and over in my head for days. I was so anxious about going to school that I seriously considered pretending to be sick.

Truth be told, I was sick but not physically. I was tormented mentally, and it took some time to recover from it all.

This is my humble advice to you: take care of your mental health. Don’t waste your time on those who don’t deserve it.

You stoop to their toxic level

Have you ever felt so frustrated with a particular person that you thought of joining them and supporting their way of thinking just to find your peace? Well done.

I used to be friends with someone whose presence was devastating to my well-being. Their toxicity levels were truly dangerous to others.

No matter what you do or say, everything will remain the same. At some point, I decided to stoop to their level, and by doing so, I inadvertently put myself in an even messier situation.

If you find yourself descending to another person’s toxic level, that’s a big red sign that it’s time to let go!

I have learned the hard way that successfully dealing with negative people does not mean becoming one of them, but it is all about protecting yourself and not letting them destroy your inner peace.

Find comfort in unhealthy coping strategies

Everyone has their own coping mechanism/strategy when they feel down or go through difficulties. Some coping strategies may be toxic to your well-being.

Do you find yourself drinking more than before, or are you a victim of compulsive eating? Do you find comfort in enjoying things that are not good for you?

Finding comfort in such things will provide temporary relief, but it will do more harm than good in the long run.

You should never allow a toxic person to have power over your life!

Also stop trying to save toxic people by destroying yourself. Sometimes, the best way to cope is to stay away from them.

Your relationships are suffering

Imagine that you had an argument with that toxic friend, and now you’re back home feeling frustrated.

You are yelling at your children because they did not behave as they were told, and you are angry with your husband because he forgot to do some chores.

But you’re not actually behaving this way because of them, but because of that toxic friend who filled you with negative energy.

That’s the thing with toxic people: once you internalize their negativity, you’ll need to release it somehow in the future.

Often times, we choose to do this with our family members, best friends, and other loved ones.

This is how you become a controlling husband or wife, an angry boyfriend or girlfriend, and the list goes on and on. By allowing negative people to remain in your life, your relationships will suffer.

When you find yourself suddenly feeling upset, think about why you felt that way in the first place. If the answer is, then you know what to do.

You lack healthy boundaries

Every healthy relationship (whether romantic or not) consists of healthy boundaries. But negative people often make it difficult for us to set healthy boundaries.

They will manipulate you, leave you speechless, and take you for granted over and over again. Every time this happens, you say you will never let them do that to you again.

But you already know that you are only lying to yourself. You know they will continue to manipulate you because you didn’t set boundaries. Without boundaries, you will never be able to protect yourself from them.

If you lack healthy boundaries and have difficulty setting them, you should consider moving away from them because you owe it to yourself and those who love you.

They blame you for their problems

This one should probably be at the top of the list of signs you should stay away from someone because it’s one of the most popular techniques used by negative people.

Here’s one of the most important questions to ask yourself if you suspect your relationship is abusive: Am I always to blame?

Do they often tell you things like: Because of you, I’m not me anymore. You are the reason I failed the exam / Did I do something wrong? They often go so far as to say hurtful things like “You are the reason my wife/husband left me.”

You become the scapegoat for all their problems, and you start feeling bad about yourself. They convince you that you are responsible for everything negative that happens in their life.

They do this because they desperately need someone to blame for their problems.

These people often pretend to be your good friends just to prove otherwise. After some time, you realize that they are disguised manipulators.

They take and take and take some more

Toxic people are famous for two things: Being master manipulators and taking as much as they can from you. The word ‘giving’ simply isn’t in their vocabulary.

If you are in a romantic relationship with a toxic or narcissistic person, you probably feel taken for granted and comforted.

They only text and call you when they need you and then ignore you when you call or text them.