People who make everything about themselves are, in simpler terms, self-absorbed or selfish. But why are they so obsessed?
Well, it’s simple, but it’s not. Humans are usually like this between the ages of 2 and 6, and then they grow out of it.
But for those who make everything about themselves, they become stuck in that place. However, they are often very good at hiding these feelings and emotions.
People who make everything themselves
Now that I’ve shared the simple truth, I’ll delve deeper into the complexities. Many people have layers of complex personality traits that manifest as toxic behavior. Some are more likely than others.
Understanding how this works means confronting difficult truths about people who make everything about themselves. Here are some things that may help.
- Narcissism
People who make everything about themselves are sometimes narcissists. There are many levels of narcissism, with narcissistic disorders found at both extreme ends of the narcissistic spectrum.
Those who always put themselves first are always entitled to turn situations and conversations back to themselves. As narcissists, this exchange is extremely toxic. So, if someone you know seems like they only care about themselves and don’t care much about what you have to say, they might fit this category.
- Feeling lonely
Loneliness can also make people become more selfish. After spending weeks, months or years alone, a person gets used to doing things for himself. If they suddenly spend more time with other people, they may start to act selfish or needy.
In this situation, it can be temporary, or it can be a state of being that has become permanent in their life. If they seem to make everything about themselves, that may be the way they are now.
Loneliness makes you put yourself first, because frankly, you are the only one. It’s hard to break this habit.
- The need for complete control
Some people seem to only care about themselves because they always want to be in control. Once they start showing concern for others, they feel like they lose the upper hand. It’s really strange to witness.
The controlling type of person wants everything their way or nothing at all. They rarely value your thoughts or ideas.
- The constant victim
I’m aware of this, because I’ve lost friends over this before. One thing you will notice about a person who makes everything about himself is that he is always the victim of some mistake. It doesn’t matter if the problem was 100% their fault, to them, it wasn’t their fault.
And when it’s so noticeable, it’s also great to watch. This victim becomes a competitor, especially if you decide to tell them about something bad that happened. When you do, they’ll always have a worse story to tell.
- The need for reassurance
With people who make everything about themselves, there is a constant need for reassurance. They always fish for compliments by putting themselves first. It’s a subtle way of insisting that others tell them how special they are.
Some of these individuals suffer from low self-esteem, while others believe they are better than others. However, they will all need reassurance to stay relevant. You will notice that they are always asking how a piece of clothing looks on them, or what their hair looks like, and sometimes they are obsessed with their weight.
But it all boils down to telling them how great they are. The spotlight is always on them.
- The emotional vampire
Vampires may not exist in movies, but emotional vampires do. And imagine what? They usually make things about themselves. I mean, that’s part of their personality that drains their energy.
Let me ask you one question: Is there someone in your life who makes you feel tired every time you talk to them? If so, it is possible that this person is an emotional vampire. And I bet, even if you talk about other things sometimes, the topic always comes right back to her.
- Insecurity
Sometimes insecure people try hard to appear confident. By doing so, they will appear selfish. There are many narcissists who do this. Narcissism, controlling behavior, and insecurity often intersect.
Therefore, those who make everything about themselves can have layers of dysfunctional thinking. Insecurity is sad, but it can lead to hurting others if it is not checked.
Dealing with complex individuals
Even when you think you’ve seen it all, this kind of person will still surprise you. Well, I think I might know someone like that now. But that’s the other thing, sometimes these people don’t know that they’re so self-absorbed. I mean I’ve done this too, many times!
So, while you should be sympathetic if someone is hurting badly and going through a difficult time in their life, you should also stand firm. This is because you never know when there may be a narcissistic personality waiting behind the mask.
