We like to think that people are telling the truth about how they feel. But unfortunately, this is not always true. Jealous people often say things they don’t mean.
There are noticeable envious traits in people around us, including family, friends, and partners. We’ve all felt jealous about something in our lives and acted in ways we now regret.
Being jealous and being a jealous person are two different things. Jealous people use phrases with hidden meanings. This is much more difficult to decipher. We must keep in mind that human feelings are complex, and jealousy is usually present long before it is noticed.
Phrases commonly used by jealous people
Jealousy is definitely a green-eyed monster, no offense to green-eyed people. It can destroy friendships, drive a wedge between family members, and do significant damage to relationships.
Worst of all, the hidden meanings behind the phrases jealous people use can be deceiving, making us question ourselves. Putting on a façade is never healthy. To help identify and confirm our suspicions, here are several phrases that jealous people use.
- “You’re so lucky.”
To some, I think that sounds like a nice thing to say. But, you see, envious people often use this phrase when you accomplish something big in your life.
You’re proud of your work and dedication, but they’re not really. What a jealous person is really saying, when they use this phrase, is that luck is the only way to achieve these positive accomplishments. They don’t give you any credit for your success.
- “Oh, that’s too bad. “I’m sorry you lost.”
They’re not sorry, so don’t be fooled. If you lose something, whether it’s a game or something more valuable, they’re secretly glad you lost it.
When you lose, they don’t feel alone in their failures; do you see. Misery really loves company, and jealous people are usually pretty miserable most of the time. If you watch closely, you might find them smiling about what they just said.
- “This is a nice shirt.”
Do you think they think your shirt is cool? Well, some people really mean what they say, and they’re just telling you the truth. Other people, those who wish they had one or more of your qualities, say things they don’t mean.
They are jealous people who use phrases to cover up their negative feelings about your gifts or possessions. This could be your physical beauty, your clothes, or your hair. It’s even more noticeable when someone constantly compliments you.
This exaggeration means that they are trying hard not to get mad at you just because you get nice things.
- “You know that new watch you bought last week? I only got one today!
It was kind of hard to phrase this the right way, but let me explain it to you. Jealous people will always try to compete with you. If you buy a new computer, soon after, they will buy one too. The important thing is that they will be sure to buy a more expensive one.
It’s all about “outdoing” the person who scares them the most. I’m sure you’ve noticed this with a few people in your life.
- “This is a great idea! But what if it doesn’t work?
Before you can even try something new, the jealous person is already planting seeds of doubt in your mind. They belittle your goals and use passive-aggressive terms. They make you re-guess things you were previously sure of.
These statements are very convincing, so it seems that they are concerned about your plans. In fact, they want you to forget what you’re planning because they know it’s likely to be successful.
- “I’m not sure what color this is. Makes you look tired.”
Jealous people are overly critical, but they won’t make it obvious. They will talk to you about what you are wearing or your weight while pretending to be a supportive friend. They will use logic to figure out why you are not making the right choices about yourself or your lifestyle.
Real people will be nice to offer constructive criticism, and will also offer solutions. Unfortunately, it is sometimes difficult to distinguish between real criticism and fake criticism. You have to trust your gut on this one.
- “I’m so proud you got this job, but remember I told you about it.”
You can never take full credit for your accomplishments when it comes to a jealous person. If you get a new job, or if you get married, either way, the envious person will insist that he or she played a part in these good things.
In some way, they introduced you to someone important, told you about a special event, or were the person who put you in a position of success. When you achieve a goal or achieve a dream, it is because of the jealous person. They are always responsible for the good things that happen to you…or so they want you to believe.
How to deal with jealous people
Some people will always feel jealous, and some will go through phases, as many of us do. It is worth understanding these differences. Living an insecure life is toxic, but going through a season of insecurity is a sign of struggle. The way you deal with these two will be completely different.
If you think someone is toxic, you need to protect yourself, draw boundaries, and fight to maintain your self-worth. Sometimes, cutting ties is necessary, as is the case with other chronic relationships.
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If an individual is going through something that makes them jealous, and you know it is not in their character to act that way, patience is key.
But the bottom line is that you must make the final decision on how to deal with jealous people using your ability to discern. No one knows what you should do in the end except you.
