Relationships with narcissists are stressful experiences because their personality disorder gives them the need to control and manipulate everyday people and situations. You may have known for some time that the relationship was unhealthy and going nowhere, but deep down you knew you had to make a decision to move forward.
The most important thing to remember is that it is not your fault that the relationship fell apart. Their personality disorder prevents them from being a good partner. It’s also important to remember that you can’t solve their problems. They need professional help to overcome their emotional unavailability and manipulative behavior.
Unfortunately, narcissists rarely admit their mistakes, so most of the time they never seek change. The best thing for the victim in this scenario is to move on and improve their lives without the narcissist. Here is a list of eight signs that your ex was a narcissist. It will take some time to get over, but it will be worth it.
- Your physical and mental condition has improved
When your stress levels get out of control, your body reacts in strange ways. Many people in bad relationships gain weight, suffer from insomnia, and develop anxiety levels so bad that they can cause physical reactions such as hives and panic attacks.
Once the healing process begins, big changes occur. Many people try stress-reducing activities such as massage therapy, daily exercise, meditation, or yoga.
With a healthier diet and healthier mindset, your immune system will be stronger and you’ll be less likely to get sick. You will lose weight, your skin problems may disappear, and you will find a taste for life.
- What you do with your life is up to you
When you wake up in the morning, you now have to decide what you want to do today. You are not afraid of making a bad decision or having problems with your ex. If you’re in the mood to shop and buy new clothes, go ahead, no one will blame you. - You make great strides in life without their control
For too long, you’ve only wanted your partner to be happy, and you may have stopped pursuing your passions and goals.
Now that you’ve finally completed the cycle of mental abuse, you’ll make huge leaps in everything from friendships to your career. You’ve accomplished a lot without your ex making you question every decision you make.
- You don’t care if he’s dating someone else.
When you get past the stage of being jealous when you hear about his new partner, you know that you are truly free. You may feel a little sorry for their new victim because you know what your ex is capable of. - She detects empty flattery
We feel relieved when we hear these sweet words, but in reality there is no meaning behind these words. It’s just empty small talk for the narcissist, a move he’s taking to get what he wants now. - He will make big promises, which is everything you want in life, but in the end you will find that he never tries to keep his promises. Compliments and lavish promises don’t matter at all, they’re just about getting what they want.
- You don’t want any more messages or calls
When the relationship ended, you found it difficult not to think about your ex. After all, you gave them all your free time, which means you lost most of your friends, just because you never spent time with them again. - It takes time to detoxify your ex, but after months of no contact, you’ll start to see the abuse for what it is. You will stop making excuses for the bad things that happened to you. Once you reach this point, you will easily walk away, realizing that you are finally free from their narcissistic abuse.
- You ignore their attempts to communicate
Even if you lose the desire to call or text them, the situation is completely different when they try to contact you. - When your phone rings and you see his name on the screen, but you don’t want to answer it, it means you have moved on. Sometimes this drives your narcissistic ex up the wall because he or she wants to stay in touch with you. This gives him the impression that he still has some control over your thoughts and emotions.
- Dr. Tony Ferretti said: “Narcissists hate failure or loss, so they will do what they can to maintain contact if they don’t make the decision to end it. They can suffer narcissistic wounds when a partner rejects them and have difficulty letting go or healing.”
- I started helping others in similar situations
It’s a sure sign that you’ve left your toxic relationship. When you share your knowledge or story with other people to help them get through their difficult times, it shows that you have grown through pain. - A person who loves you will never talk to other people behind your back or make you feel like they can replace you if you don’t live up to their impossible standards.
