Wait for the narcissist to take any blame, and you’ll be waiting a long time.

Instead, you’re the bad guy. They decided that long ago, and maybe that’s why you’re in their life.

You’re the scapegoat.

So when things go wrong, the narcissist is ready to point the finger at you.

Here are nine things they say to point the finger at you.

Frustrated? Yes!

It’s never fun to be blamed for something you didn’t do, but at least if you were in charge, you’d raise your hands and take the blame.

This is how we learn. We may make mistakes that propel us into a new chapter in our lives. We reflect and ask for forgiveness.

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We admit that we’re not human—because we are!

Don’t expect a narcissist to embrace this kind of behavior, because they’ll never be blamed.

They’ll always avoid it.

Let’s dig into how it happens.

1 “I don’t know what you’re talking about”

Narcissists usually don’t know what you’re talking about unless they want to use it against you.

Eventually, they’ll deny your truth by ignoring your blame, turning it into “your” problem.

This is where you’ll often find yourself swimming against the tide, feeling their anger subtly reacting to you.

Yes, this is true psychological manipulation.

2 “I think you need to listen to yourself for a moment”

If a narcissist can convince you that you’re saying ridiculous things, they will.

In the heat of an argument, you may find them asking you to think about what you’re saying, as if there’s something terribly wrong with it.

And of course, you do. And you will. And as you do, you’ll discover what isn’t there, and blame will ensue.

Never let them have that power over your thoughts.

You’re blaming them for a reason.

3 “You sound hysterical”

Are you? Well, they’ll certainly convince you of that. This is when you’ll be silenced, and it’ll become about your (nonexistent) hysterical behavior rather than what you blame them for in the first place.

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See how they move and change, taking you with them?

By the way, can I add here that you don’t sound hysterical. They’re trying to make you look crazy so you’ll calm down, even shut yourself up.

Narcissists love the silent victim.

Narcissists do this a lot because they want to constantly remind you that you’re not perfect.

If you hurt me, I’ll hurt you!

When it’s brought up, it makes you feel guilty and ashamed. Do you remember a time when this happened?

This isn’t pleasant for those who do it, because they find themselves apologizing.

You don’t need to. You’ve served your time, and you’ve shown remorse.

Now, the focus is on the narcissist, and they make little effort to offer you the same level of self-reflection.

This speaks volumes.

6 “You’re obsessed with blaming others”

Comments like these make victims revisit the past. They usually see a distorted picture of this when they recall similar instances where they blamed someone else.

Suddenly, all these times add up, and the victim feels the narcissist is right.

Oh my God! I blame others so much.

Am I obsessed?

I must be!

What do people think of me?

I’m always pointing fingers.

I need to be less harsh with people.

This isn’t fair.

Why am I doing this?

Am I the cause?

Am I the problem?

See what happened?

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In a short time, the victim had a full-blown conversation with themselves and discovered that the narcissist was right—they’re obsessed!

And the narcissist? Great! It’s over!

7 “It’s your fault”

That’s it, plain and simple.

Your fault.

Really? Did you force them to do it? Did you lead them into debauchery? No, you didn’t. But this is perhaps the most childish way to evade any blame.

You will. You are there. You will face the consequences, and you will let the narcissist out.

It’s a moment I like to use to remind you who you’re really dealing with. You think these people love and care about you, but they don’t.

Narcissists would rather throw you like a hot potato in the blame hole than take any blame themselves.

You know what this says about them? It reveals how toxic they are.

8 “It’s because you did this…”

Okay. So you did X, which automatically gave them permission to do Y and Z.

I get it.

Make sense, Alexander!

I’ll try.

You’ve wronged the narcissist. You see how at any other moment in your life with a narcissist, they like to be the leader.

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The moment they’re blamed, they’ll deflect that blame and tell you it’s your fault.

Come on.

Don’t believe this.

9 “I don’t feel well, and you’re making it worse.”

Oh, did you catch the narcissist at a bad time? They must be feeling so unwell that you can’t continue blaming them.

It’s not fair to hold a sick person accountable for their moral crime when you can just keep quiet and let them rest and forget…

Oh.

I see what they did there.

Well done then for evading blame by pretending you’re too sick to defend yourself.

Classic narcissistic behavior!