Marriage.

You meet, you fall in love, you commit.

For me or you, this makes the most sense. It’s the ultimate celebration of finding a love you hope will last, even imagine.

It makes sense.

A narcissist wants marriage for other reasons. But he doesn’t just want marriage; he rushes in at the speed of light.

I have ten reasons why, right here.

Marriage?

The idea of ​​a narcissist committing to anyone for the rest of his life seems foreign to the average, healthy person.

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Don’t be fooled.

A narcissist never views marriage as something they can’t get away from later. It’s certainly not an eternal concept for them. If it were, they’d feel trapped and out of control.

It’s never going to happen!

Instead, marriage is just a means for them to achieve their goals. So, while you may be searching for the perfect suit or wedding dress, a narcissist has other things on their mind.

Is this supposed to hurt? You know, I’m sure it’s going to be awful to hear. You want to love, and truly love. You want to find someone to share your life with, someone you trust and respect. You also want it all back.

That’s never going to be the case when you meet and marry a narcissist.

They have other reasons for marrying—especially the rush.

1: Locking You Up: No Turning Back

Listen, if you want a fairytale, you have to prepare for the most important moment of your life.

It’s going to be like the movies. You know those movies where two people meet, and within a few days they declare their love for each other?

It makes sense that a 90-minute film is meant to grab your attention, but my God, these movies are so over-the-top romantic.

In reality, what you want to do is scream, “Don’t do this! You don’t even know their last name!”

Locking you up means there’s no turning back. The world falls in love with you and you stumble on your journey because, from your perspective, this is the romance of the century.

In reality, the narcissist wants to woo you back as quickly as possible.

2 The Good Guy to Others

Oh, isn’t this romantic?

They’re so loving.

They’re eager, and I think that’s really sweet.

You can see how smitten they are.

That’s not true. They’re just smitten with their own good looks.

If the narcissist could paint a picture of a healthy family, that’s exactly what they would do.

As sweet as this sounds, it spells trouble in the long run. When your relationship inevitably falls apart, the narcissist will blame you.

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It’s easier when the narcissist seems like the angel in every way.

3 Wanting to Be Charmed: The Hidden Side

If all you see is kindness, you’re missing the manipulation going on behind the scenes.

What I basically mean is:

If you rush from meeting to marriage, that rush will only confuse you.

This is classic narcissistic behavior. You don’t have time to question the situation, what you’re doing, or even who you’re marrying.

Your dreams are being projected onto you, and all you know now is that you love them.

4 To Improve Their Situation

A married person is a quick-witted person with good values, morals, and faith. They’re a model for family, someone ready to commit, and happy to express that commitment to the world.

Of course, all of this is false. It’s designed and engineered to make others believe the narcissist is sane and honest.

This isn’t true at all, and we all know that.

5 Control: They Pick the Date

The sooner the better, right? When it suits them. When it’s convenient. The date has to be a perfect fit for the narcissist.

Make sure the whole family is in town. Or surprise them in the middle of a big project at work so the boss is invited, and the narcissist can show off and try to get that promotion.

It’s all about control, but I highly doubt you, as someone married to a narcissist, can decide when the big day will be.

Think about everything you do leading up to a date with a narcissist.

There’s always tension, and an overwhelming sense that you’d rather not have to do it.

This is because narcissists love to create tension. If they choose the date, they choose what suits the big day.

So what?

This makes it so you don’t enjoy anything you know you planned.

6 Proving They’re Over Their Ex

Look at me thriving without you!

Narcissists regularly hook up with new people and throw revenge weddings.

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It won’t be obvious to you because you hardly know the narcissist, but it’s a cheap opportunity for them to get revenge on a member of their past (who isn’t). Just because they put a ring on your finger doesn’t mean they’re over someone.

You may know this, but the rest of the world (as the narcissist wants it) will completely ignore it.

Another reason narcissists hide things.

7 Publicly Declaring Their Love

Guys, I love this person, so I can never be called a narcissist!

So clever, aren’t they? I’m amazed at how they always stay one step ahead of everyone else, and it makes life difficult for victims everywhere.

This is how a narcissist keeps their reputation clean during a breakup.

If they were just known as a good person who knows how to love and respect their partner, no one would label them an abuser.

I couldn’t be a narcissist even if I put a ring on it and told the world I loved them, could I?

Yes. You definitely can. Trust me.

8 A Place to Live

Tough times mean desperate measures.

If a narcissist is struggling to find housing, or is threatened with eviction, they will insist on the first person who offers them food and shelter.

If that means getting into a relationship and proposing or accepting marriage, so be it.

Once they move in, you’ll almost certainly assume the parental role, constantly asking them to clean or help out.

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Of course, they won’t. By then, it’ll be too late.

Be wary of anyone who wants to rush into living with you. Nine times out of ten, it will end in absolute disaster.

Not only will they take away the space you’ve earned, but it’ll be much harder to kick them out when things go south (which they will).