Are you feeling brave? I’ll start by saying, good for you! This kind of feeling isn’t common for those who regularly interact with narcissists.

Something must have happened that made you want to confront them, and I don’t say that lightly.

So what is it? Or have you simply had enough?

The bad news is the narcissist’s revenge is in store for you, and here are 8 ways they get it when you confront them.

They Don’t Want Your Courage

While standing up and defending yourself may be empowering, the narcissist has a different opinion.

I don’t want you to think that you shouldn’t confront them as a result, because you absolutely should.

Narcissists like it when you obey them, listen to them, do what they say, believe them, and let them take control.

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They don’t like it when you take the initiative and make your own decisions, because then they lose their power.

So be prepared…

Don’t Mess With The Dynamics

What works, works. That’s what narcissists love. They work hard to create their own toxic corner of the world.

The moment you start messing around, they’re in big trouble.

Standing up for yourself is messing with the dynamic, but that shouldn’t stop you.

If you’re usually the gentle, kind person who nods and does what’s told, the narcissist will suddenly find your spot.

When the narcissist is ready to punish you for daring to stand up for yourself, they’ll do it in these seven ways.

1_BlameYou

I find it really rude of you to raise your voice at me like that.

What do you feel you gain by speaking to me like that?

How dare you be so rude to respond to me!

This is all your fault, anyway!

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Whenever I hear someone tell me they’re to blame, I ask them the same question I’m going to ask you right now:

Really?

I mean, really?

Think about it.

Are you telling me it’s your fault because you believe it, or because you’re conditioned to believe it?

If I were a gambler, I’d bet it’s the latter. But here we are, and this is where we need to start addressing that belief.

Confronting a narcissist doesn’t put the blame on you. You’re not trying to start a fight or cause more conflict.

You’re expressing your opinions, and for once, the narcissist can’t hold onto them and change them.

2 Discrediting You

You’re wrong.

Yes, they tried to make me feel bad, but I know how badly they understand people, so I refuse to take the blame for that.

They don’t know what they’re talking about. They’re known for lying sometimes, so ignore them.

See how easy it is to discredit someone and make others feel sorry for you?

I’m sorry to say, this is how narcissists behave when you try to take a stand against them.

They’ll bring you down faster than the blink of an eye, and it’s the kind of punishment that leaves you feeling powerless.

This is the main reason they want their actions and abuse to be as private as possible—so that no one will suspect them. Times like these will prove them right, as they gain allies instead of enemies.

3 The Smear Campaign

Narcissists know how much you value your loved ones. Parents who have always supported you, or the friends you’ve made over the years who are a great source of comfort. What about your coworkers, who know you so well?

Maybe your neighbors? They love you. You always have a cheerful disposition, and you’re always there when they need help.

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I hate to say this, but you’ll have to say goodbye to some of them. I can’t say which ones, because it depends on the narcissist and who they can take advantage of.

If you think you’ll be immune to the smear campaign, I want you to reconsider.

Narcissists love spreading lies and rumors, and if you confront one of them, it’ll only get worse.

So, here’s a little advice for you:

Prepare for loss.

And you know what? I always say that the right people for you won’t leave you. If others believe the narcissist’s lies, there’s no way to convince them, so save your energy.

4 Silence

I’m sorry.

I won’t do it again.

I hate that you’re silent with me.

I was just trying to express what’s on my mind.

I didn’t think you’d take it seriously.

It’s my fault.

You were right, I don’t know what I was thinking.

Do I need to tell you what’s going on here?

If I need to, it’s this:

These phrases and thoughts will come out when the narcissist’s silence toward you is working.

5 The Beast Wakes Up…

Unleashed, and out in the open for everyone to see and witness.

Or at least for you alone. If it was out in the open, your truth about them would be obvious, right?

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Narcissists are smart like that. So, if you stand up to them, they’ll make your life hell with as brutal an act as possible…

…but only for your eyes.

6 Insult: Doing what they can!

You’re pathetic.

I don’t know why I care.

What a waste of time knowing you.

You disgust me.

I can’t stand you like this.

Anything that makes you even more unkind.

If it works, great. That’s exactly what they want to do.

7 Threats and Intimidation

It can get very dangerous, and I know of cases where the police have had to intervene.

Ultimately, this is the reality of what you’re dealing with, and the likelihood that some narcissists will escalate to this level is entirely possible.

All I will say is: take care of yourself, do the right thing, and put your needs first.

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There is no place in your life for threats or intimidation.

8 Let Go

Does ignoring feel comfortable? This probably isn’t the first time the victim has developed a strong, albeit toxic, attachment to their abuser.

Leaving and becoming independent is difficult, but it is very possible.

Use their exclusion to your advantage, move on with your life and never regret facing them.