A common piece of dating advice on TikTok is: “If he wants it, he will.”

This statement lacks accuracy, but there is truth there. It also goes both ways.

Sometimes, your partner may be going through something that makes him withdraw, in which case he’d rather have an honest conversation than give him the cold shoulder.

But if they constantly fail to match your energy and show up for you, staying with them does not bode well for you in the long run.

Here are 8 signs that you’re not a priority in someone’s life (and it’s time to move on).

I suggest you do it sooner rather than later.

1) They don’t make time for you

Family members need your help, work becomes stressful, and errands need to be run.

Everyone is busy.

When you’re a priority in someone’s life, you never wonder whether they’re thinking about you or not.

They let you know.

One of the things I appreciated most about my ex-boyfriend was that he was always in touch.

If he had a busy day at work, he would text me in the morning and say he wouldn’t be available for the next few hours.

If he couldn’t see me on the weekend, he would explain to me why.

I never had to worry that he would scare me off or leave me reading.

Most importantly, someone who cares about you will make time to see you, even if it’s just for 5 minutes during a busy day.

If they don’t, you’re not as important to them as you want to be.

2) You only see them on their schedule

When talking about spending time together, think about how often you and your partner spend time together.

If it’s just on their terms, they’re less likely to view you as a priority.

Some signs to watch out for:

• They routinely choose other activities instead of spending time with you
• They cancel plans at the last minute if something comes up that they like more
• Or they make last-minute plans and expect you to be available
• They show little interest in your schedule and commitments
• Their efforts to engage with you fluctuate (they are attentive one moment, withdrawn the next).

If you only spend time together on their terms, the relationship will be one-sided – your partner puts his or her desires above your needs.

To quote Taylor Swift, you know when it’s time to let go.

3) They don’t take you into account when making decisions

Considering each other when making decisions is crucial in a healthy relationship.

It shows that you respect each other, enhances emotional intimacy, and ensures that both partners have an equal say.

If your partner frequently makes decisions without asking for your opinion, this indicates that he does not value your opinion and does not consider you an essential part of his life.

I’m not referring to decisions like what they should wear or eat for breakfast.

(Although if you’re a hairstylist or nutritionist, your experience will certainly come in handy.)

Mostly, I’m referring to decisions that affect both of you.

How they spend their time, whether they should pursue a life-changing goal, the social engagements you’re expected to attend as a couple, that sort of thing.

Not being taken into consideration makes you feel like you don’t matter to them.

I hate to break it to you, but that’s because you don’t do it — at least not to the degree you should be satisfied with it.

4) They do not take the initiative in the relationship

If your partner is not passionate about moving the relationship forward, he or she is not the right person for you.

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In short, one of the most difficult tasks on the path to love is knowing what you want and taking responsibility for it.

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When you first started dating your partner, you probably had dreams about how the romance would develop.

Maybe you imagined yourself going the distance with this person, getting married, and living a beautiful life.

However, the more time you spend together, the more you realize that you have projected all these dreams onto them.

In fact, their goals don’t align with yours at all.

But you still hold on, hoping that your boyfriend will see the error of his ways and decide he wants you wholeheartedly.

When you do this, you give them the love you should give yourself.

Are they talking about becoming exclusive, moving in together one day, or meeting your parents?

Someone interested in sharing their future with you takes the steps required to make that future a reality.

If they don’t move the relationship forward, they don’t see you as a priority.

What if they never change their minds?

5) Their actions do not match their words

Your significant other can promise you the world. If their actions don’t back up their words, then those words don’t matter.

I once dated a guy who liked to talk about our future. a lot.

Where we will live, what we will do, and the adventures we will have together.

But when it came to following up and making actual plans for said future, he would immediately change the subject.

I soon realized that this fantasy of ours had no chance of becoming a reality because I wasn’t committed to doing the work required to make it a reality.

You may be in the same boat if your partner:

• Fails to follow through on promises
• Don’t show up when they say they will
• They do not take responsibility for their mistakes
• Becomes defensive or evasive when you call them out
• In general, if you feel that your partner’s actions do not match his words, despite his explanations or assurances, then you are not his priority.

Moving forward is the best option available.

6) They dismiss your concerns

In a sustainable relationship, both partners work together to resolve conflicts.

If your partner rejects you every time you bring up a problem, it may be because he or she doesn’t see your relationship as meaningful enough to warrant a serious discussion.

Additionally, by downplaying your concerns, your partner invalidates them, making you feel unheard and unimportant.

It is a form of emotional neglect.

“You’re overreacting.” “No problem.” “We’re fine, don’t worry.”

Being.

7) They don’t introduce you to their inner circle

Introducing a partner into your inner circle is a big step in integrating them into your life and making the relationship public.

If your partner is reluctant to do this, it may indicate that he prefers to keep the relationship separate from his other communications.

In other words, it may not be a big priority in their lives.

Granted, since this is a big step, some people prefer to wait a while before doing it.

For example, I don’t introduce a friend to my family unless we’re in the “very serious” phase because I want to avoid having to explain to everyone what happened if things don’t go well.

However, they know that the man exists, and I am not ashamed to say his name in the presence of another.

There is caution, and then there is secrecy.

If your boyfriend never invites you over when he’s out with friends, never posts you on his social media, and never talks about the possibility of meeting his family, this is a red flag.

8) They are not willing to compromise

Everyone has desires and preferences in a relationship, which don’t always go hand in hand.

When conflict arises, compromise enables you to find common ground and reach a solution that satisfies both partners.

If one of them refuses, this leads to an imbalance of power.

They end up being more controlling, which indicates a lack of consideration for the other person’s feelings.

Your needs are no less important than your partner’s needs.

Don’t overlook that.

finalthoughts

Being with someone who doesn’t view you as a priority hurts your self-esteem and makes you doubt your worth.

Get rid of this person and find someone who understands how amazing you truly are.

I’ve already mentioned Rudá Iandê’s Love & Intimacy Masterclass.

If you want your next relationship to thrive, give it a try.

It will empower you to never settle for anything less than what you deserve.