You need to move on from a guy with low self-esteem. Have you ever been in an on-again, off-again relationship where you and your boyfriend experienced a lot of drama – fighting regularly and then enduring long periods of icy silence?

Did they break up over and over but keep getting back together in hopes of making it work?

And has all that drama been going on for months or even years wasting precious time and so much energy that you felt exhausted (or even lost faith in love)? You knew it wasn’t healthy, but you stayed because you loved it, right?

I know how terrifying that is because I went through something similar many years ago (before I met my wonderful husband), and it hurts so much!

How can you avoid relationships that are full of drama?

Through my experience as a marriage maker and dating coach, I’ve learned that there is nothing more important when searching for a partner than finding someone who is emotionally healthy and has high self-esteem. I’ve found that drama-filled relationships usually have at least one partner who has low self-esteem. Conversely, when two happy, healthy people don’t get along emotionally, they usually go their separate ways without all the chaos. It is less painful and confusing!

So when you’re looking for love, it’s really important to know how to spot low self-esteem early on. Because I think a man can’t love you if he doesn’t love himself.

Here are eight signs that the guy you’re dating may have low self-esteem…and that you may need to move on:

He says self-denial.
Being humble is one thing, but constantly underestimating yourself is another. He says things like, “I can’t believe you’d date someone like me” or “I’m out of my league.”

He criticizes you.
A healthy man is dating the woman he loves. If you’re not what he’s looking for, he’ll move on. If the guy you’re dating is constantly criticizing you (from your looks to your personality), that’s a really bad sign.

It is somewhat perfect.
Does he have the perfect home, the perfect car, the perfect clothes, the perfect job, and the perfect friends? People who feel the need to appear perfect can convince not only others but themselves as well, that they have value.
It is very negative.
Happy people see the best in others and every situation. If it’s constantly pointing out what’s wrong rather than what’s right, pay close attention.
He is jealous.
Is he constantly jealous and uncomfortable with your male friends or is he justifiably accusing you of flirting? So this is a clear sign of low self-esteem. A confident, healthy man who believes in you and your relationship.
He wants you all for himself.
Your friends are important to you and being with them makes you happy. If he doesn’t want you to spend time with them, and he doesn’t want to get to know them, that’s a problem and a clear sign of his low self-esteem.

He can’t admit when he’s wrong.
Being vulnerable is an important part of being in a relationship. If he always blames others and can’t look inward and admit when he’s done something wrong, that’s a big red flag.
He can’t hear what you’re saying.
This is the biggest donation in my opinion. Did you know that some people hear what they believe rather than what you say? Does he often take what you say the wrong way? Do his feelings always get hurt? Does he get offended easily? If you have to practice before you speak or need to walk on eggshells, your partner may have low self-esteem. Communication shouldn’t be that difficult!

If you want an easy and healthy relationship this time, find a guy with high self-esteem and you will enjoy a much easier and more rewarding relationship.

I’m not saying you should get rid of him if he lacks self-confidence from time to time (we all have our fears). But if his low self-esteem is affecting your happiness regularly, it’s time to act.

Because life is too short to expose yourself to all the drama, don’t you agree?

How can you avoid relationships that are full of drama?

Here are eight signs that the guy you’re dating may have low self-esteem…and that you may need to move on:

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