Wonder what relationships can teach you? Well, when it comes to that beautiful thing called love, there are so many lessons that a relationship teaches you and makes life better. Learn more about it!

Our intimate relationships teach us more than we do about the hearts of those we love. They teach us about ourselves. There is no machine that grows people greater than the machine of love.

Our culture often views love as some mysterious thing that gets passed around and makes you feel warm inside. But as we all know, this only happens part of the time. The other part is full of anxiety, confusion and frustration.

Having problems in our relationships is inevitable. Even soulmates sometimes cause problems. According to John Gottman, couples disagree about unsolvable and never-ending issues 69% of the time.

While many see conflict as a sign of incompatibility, the disagreements that most couples experience are signals that the relationship needs growth.

Feeling separated from your partner can be used to find new horizons for communication. Having a sexless marriage can lead you to take a deep look at your own integrity. It can teach you how to embody your deepest desires and how to truly want your partner and experience life-changing intimacy.

Your relationship can be the foundation for deep growth and vitality. Even Abraham Maslow, famous for creating Maslow’s hierarchy of needs, argued that without bonds of love and affection with others, we cannot move forward to achieving our full potential as human beings.

Our relationships have profound life lessons if we allow them to. If you don’t let these lessons sink in, you will likely prevent growth from occurring, which will ultimately leave you stuck in an unfulfilling relationship.

My relationships caused me to experience anxiety. To stand on the threshold of what I thought was happening and open myself up to see what was going on. My intimacy taught me how to let my partner tell me what I’m doing wrong as I swallowed my defenses and took a step into a new realm of loving my partner.

Love taught me eight powerful lessons.

8 Deep lessons the relationship teaches you in life

1. Happiness in our relationships does not come from finding the right partner, it requires you to become the right partner as well.
   This requires tremendous personal growth.

Your relationship gives you a chance to learn how to control your anger, reactions, and defensiveness, so you can find new ways to be affectionate, tender, and respectful of your partner’s differences. It makes you allow someone to count on you.

Act in trustworthy ways that demonstrate your commitment and reliability in the relationship. To face the vulnerability of giving your heart to one person entirely, with no secret life and no escape routes.

Being the right partner is not an easy journey. But the depth and emotional growth you will experience will bring fulfillment beyond what you ever imagined.

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2. Facts are less important than feelings.
   In a relationship, there are two ways to communicate. There is truth and feeling. As a man, I usually clung to the facts of what was going on in my relationship. But our feelings are not some facts that we can verify; They are emotions.
3. When communicating with our partners, one thing you don’t want to miss is feeling. Because feeling is what matters.
4. If your partner is angry, know that they tend to feel pain under that anger. Ask your partner why they feel hurt. This is how you can defuse anger. Once you show your partner that you understand why they feel the way they do, even if you don’t agree, you can connect faster and find a solution.
5. There will always be a reason to reject someone.
   Everyone is imperfect and every person will make you want to put them away. to unload them. to leave them.
6. “Every [relationship] requires effort to keep it on track; there is a constant tension… between the forces that hold you together and those that tear you apart.” – John Gottman
7. The trick to making love last is to discover — and continue to discover — your reasons for staying together.
8. Withdrawal is death.
   The dysfunctional relationship pattern that emerged after 40 years of research in John Gottman’s Love Lab was withdrawal. When we distance ourselves from our partners, shared passion, humor, and joy go out the window.
9. Withdrawal tends to occur when one person is emotionally unavailable or when a spouse continues to act in negative ways that push each other away. He is emotionally crippled. Withdrawal kills intimacy and sexual passion.
10. Personal growth comes from learning how to be hurt or angry and not withdraw from the relationship. Learn how to say you’re upset, frustrated, and hurt so that you and your partner can get together to talk it over.
11. Not putting up a wall takes emotional depth. If you want a close intimate relationship, this is what you need to learn how to do.
12. Touch is the best aphrodisiac.
    Affectionate touch brings us closer and causes us to stay close. If you don’t touch your partner a lot, your relationship won’t feel as passionate. Both of you will feel that the connection and closeness you once had are diminishing.
13. While sexual touch improves romance, emotional touch deepens romance. It’s the gentle brush along the back as you pass through the hall. Touching a person’s hair while you are lying in bed. Love thrives in the subtle moments of connection, and sometimes the best way to create a connection is to reach out and touch your loved one.
14. Constantly ask yourself, “If I’m going to make this relationship work, what should I do? What do I need to quit?” We often know what we want from our partner, but very few of us have a clear idea of what our partner needs from us.
15. If your answers to this question are unknown, or if they feel superficial or vague, it’s time to ask your partner. “Am I helping you with your needs in this relationship? (And if not, what could I do differently?)” Respect what your partner says. It doesn’t matter.
16. Complaining to friends and family doesn’t help.
    We often get so frustrated with our partners that it becomes easy to talk to our friends and family about their flaws, lack of libido, or terrible communication skills.
17. Unfortunately, our friends and family don’t have the power to change your relationship. If you have a problem, go directly to your partner. This is the only person who can make an effort to change your relationship.
18. Love is an action, not a feeling.
    If you want your relationship to work, you have to make a deliberate effort to make it work. Two of my most popular articles reinforce this.
19. If you want the romance to stay alive, you have to keep it alive. As unattractive as that may seem to some people, I think this is the most attractive thing a person can offer.
20. “I am making you a priority in my life and will continue to treat you and learn new ways to make you happy.”

Is there anything more exciting than that?

If you take the time to think about it, some of the biggest lessons we learned came from our intimate relationships. Our relationships provide us with a window into ourselves. We grow out of misunderstandings and misunderstandings.

We become mature by learning how to control our emotions and improve how we communicate when we are overwhelmed with anger.

Our relationships teach us what is acceptable and what is not. With every relationship problem that occurs, ask yourself, “What lesson can I learn from this? What is this problem teaching me?”

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8. Relationship problems can be a catalyst for deep personal growth.
   If you listen, you’ll quickly discover that powerful life lessons are taught in our relationships. with those closest to us.

I’ll leave you with a quote that continues to deeply affect me and my relationship.

“Romantic love requires courage—the courage to remain vulnerable, to remain open about our feelings for our partner, even when we are in temporary conflict, even when we are frustrated, hurt, and angry—the courage to stay in touch with our love, rather than shutting down emotionally, even when it is It is very difficult to do this.

“When a couple lacks such courage and seeks ‘safety’ from pain in the shelter of withdrawal, as it usually happens, it is not romantic love that fails them but the failure of romantic love.” – Nathaniel Branden.

Dedicated to your personal growth in love.