They do it all the time, don’t they?

Somehow, narcissists manage to drive their victims crazy (for all the wrong reasons) in the blink of an eye.

I say “somehow” as if I want you all to be surprised by this, but don’t be!

They’re full of nasty surprises, like buying a crappy used car. You roll it out the door and the lights start flashing.

Okay—let this one shine a light on you, because you need to know exactly what narcissists do that drives you crazy.

1 They Mislead You Mid-Conversation

Wait, I don’t think you remember it like it actually happened.

You’re confused. I didn’t say that.

I think you sound pretty tired. You need to go to bed and get some sleep.

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It’s not right to hear that nonsense, is it? However, it can leave a painful scar, one that will stay with you forever.

Manipulating you when you have something to say—perhaps something important—is neither fair nor right.

But this is how a narcissist shatters your version of reality and tries to replace it with their own.

And I’m sad to say—it works. Until they stop, of course.

2 Indirect Compliments That Hurt Deeply

That was very clever of you!

I have to say, I’m surprised you got the job based on your skills, but congratulations.

You smile a little, then it fades because you hear what the narcissist is actually saying to you.

Yes, they’ve hurt you deeply.

Why aren’t they happy for you? Is it that hard?

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Of course! You’re dealing with someone who hates seeing you happy, so they try to put you down every chance they get.

Eventually, those indirect compliments become phrases you dread, and you stop succeeding. You stop striving for success and live day by day.

3 Sudden Coldness After Love Bombing

Coldness after receiving such love and affection can be hurtful and confusing to victims of narcissistic abuse.

What has changed?

What did I do wrong that they’ve become so cold?

Why does it have to be this way?

What’s wrong with me?

There’s nothing wrong with you; it’s simply how narcissists operate. They never want to be in a single relationship for long, because then you won’t become addicted to the drastic changes that occur during these abusive relationships.

It’s unfair to be cold, especially after such a difficult period of loving you and trying to show you how important and wonderful you are.

That’s why love bombardment is toxic, and is only done to make you cling to them and cling to them in ways that make breaking up extremely difficult.

This is something to watch out for, because in the long run, it will drive you completely crazy.

4 Triangulation

All it takes is a second for a narcissist to notice you getting so close to someone that they decide to intervene—for all the wrong reasons.

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A powerful ally is perceived as a threat, so their usual tactic is to come between you and create misery and chaos.

Imagine you and your friend getting together more often. The narcissist doesn’t like your friend and believes this person will influence you and distance you from the narcissist.

What are their options?

They have to separate to gain control! They’ll start spreading rumors, or tell someone how little they think about them.

After a while, the fallout will happen, and you won’t understand where it came from.

I’m here to tell you that the narcissist is the cause. It doesn’t take long, and it’ll drive you crazy.

5 Interrupting and Talking Over You

Let me explain this to you; it’s an interesting way to get frustrated.

You’re a nice person, aren’t you? You’re patient, forgiving, and you like to give others a chance.

I understand you, and I respect that. We should all be.

A narcissist isn’t like that. That’s why they’re drawn to you. They can do whatever they want, and they know they can take advantage of you.

And so—oh, the joy when you come along and give them automatic permission to say whatever they want, interrupt you, and talk about you all the time.

That madness you feel is internalized.

Your heart races. You feel your blood boiling as time goes on, but you’re the good person. So you resist and let them do it again and again.

Meanwhile, guess what?

A narcissist loves being able to assert their authority over you by being the loudest voice.

They’re drawn to the idea of ​​making you both feel and look small—so they keep going.

It’s all about dynamics and rank, and you’re always the one being forced to comply.

Wherever they are, even if you’re alone, they want you to know that everything they say is more important and of higher value than what comes out of your mouth.

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Doesn’t that tell you everything you need to know about them as people?

If not, now is the time.

You deserve more than to be driven mad by a narcissist who clearly doesn’t respect you, both in and out of conversation.

6 Use Your Insecurity as a Weapon

Insecurity is no joke, but narcissists make people feel it, right? I hate it. I hate the way they make those I talk to feel, and how that, in turn, affects everything they think, say, and do.

And yet, here we are.

While my work addresses those who feel like narcissists have gone mad, it’s also the most unfair and brutal way to acknowledge how destructive their influence is.

Think about what makes you feel insecure.

The way you look? The way you laugh? What you wear? Your career? Your hopes? Your dreams?

I could go on, right?

Narcissists love to interfere in any aspect of your life, no matter what. As long as there are fears, a narcissist will find a way to extract them from you like they’re drawing blood.

So, when you say or do something they don’t like, the first thing they do is throw out a host of arguments they’ve got up their sleeve at you.

There you go, you’re back to your old ways. You’re unbearable.

Do you really think you’ll get the job like this?

Why are you even applying for this job? You’re clearly unqualified.

You know, I think the reason you don’t have any friends is because you simply can’t be yourself.

When a narcissist gets upset, they resort to using their weapons to protect themselves. Using them this way is unfair, not to mention cruel.

Yes, it really drives victims crazy.