I know, I know. I don’t need to tell you how weird narcissists are.

They’re incredibly weird, and on top of that, they’re so toxic that you, the victim, feel like you’re going crazy.

You’re not.

But who are you without them?

The only way to find out is to explore the narcissist in detail—starting with the weird things they do that no one wants to talk about.

Except me, your best narcissist friend!

We Need To Talk

I know this is long overdue. Topics like these are often neglected in many professionals’ papers because they don’t consider them important enough to cover.

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I always wonder: Why?

The whole point of your recovery, healing, knowledge, and inner growth is to fully discover how weird the narcissist can be.

It seems crazy to me that people don’t even talk about it.

But if we don’t, you’ll never make it to the other side of this misery, or as I like to call it:

Your Real Life!

1 Randomly Forgetting Important Events or Details

What a relief it is for a narcissist to forget something so important to you!

What a shock! I feel like they’ve erased everything that matters from their minds, instead of literally everything else.

It may seem random to you, but these are cruel and calculated ways a narcissist disappoints you and leaves you feeling miserable.

They will find any way possible to make you feel worthless—and I know that’s what your life is all about.

It’s all done intentionally.

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If you don’t feel important, you stop doing the things you love. You stop connecting with the people you care about. You give up on your dreams and goals, seeing them as unattainable.

You stop realizing your value and understanding that your compassion for people and life is what makes you you.

But let’s be realistic here for a moment.

They don’t care enough about you to remember anything that’s a priority for you.

2 Use private jokes as a form of mockery in public.

Only you and the narcissist know the backstory to the joke, and that’s how they get to you in public.

So what are your options when that joke rears its ugly head?

First, you feel angry. Do you want to scream, cry, or both?

Second, you face the challenge of trying to suppress that emotion in front of people who may laugh at what the narcissist said, or worse, fail to notice the insult right in front of them.

Now, what do you do? Do you try to convince those around you that the narcissist is a narcissist for making this unnecessary insult?

Do you tell them that you’re hurt by it, only to be met with a puzzled look because they don’t understand the problem?

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It’s hard to convince anyone of the narcissist’s abuse.

You want support, but you know it’s an uphill battle while they put on their best behavior in front of the oblivious crowd around you.

This isn’t nice at all.

3 Innocent Jealousy of Your Success

I didn’t think you had that talent.

I’m so surprised you could pull it off, that’s all.

These quick, snarky comments will bring you back to your well-deserved happiness.

And more often than not, narcissists do this so maliciously that no one notices.

This is the worst part if you’re on the receiving end. It’s hard to accept someone who abuses you in such a blatant way without anyone noticing.

Remember, they’re just jealous because you’re getting something they don’t—and you’re likely getting good attention for it, too.

4 Create Chaos, Then Pretend You’re the Rescuer

There’s something about the way a narcissist plants landmines for us to step on, then runs at us when one explodes in our faces, isn’t there?

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What’s that about?

The weirdest thing is that they line us up before they rescue us, which worries me deeply, and I’m sure it worries you too.

Why would anyone devote their time and effort to all this when they could just be a good person?

It’s all about control—and that’s an unhealthy level of it. They have to be the ones stirring things up, watching everyone else lose their minds…

…and then they step in and fix it.

And what does everyone else do?

Oh my God, thank God you came in time.

What would we do without you?

In fact—probably a lot more than you could do under their control, that’s for sure.

5 Act Like a Victim After Being Hurt

There’s one instance I’ll give you as an example.

Tiffany was in the kitchen when she was living with her parents. She heard her father tell her mother that he thought she was dull and clearly didn’t care about her appearance. This was ongoing.

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In a fit of anger, Tiffany asked her father to jump (but in a more direct way).

From that day on, Tiffany’s father told everyone how rude Tiffany was and how upset he was that she spoke to him that way.

Funnily enough, no one was told why Tiffany said those words. They all assumed, through unrealistic narcissism, that she was ungrateful and that she was the one with the problem.

In reality, Tiffany felt hurt, and that’s how she expressed it in that moment. #6 Triangulation

If they notice you’re getting along with someone else, the narcissist will break up the relationship with hurtful words.

I’m sure you’ve all been there when they get in between you.

It’s all because you seem like you’re going to create a special power between you, and that poses a direct threat to them.

So they step in and push you apart, hoping to regain the control they briefly lost.

Triangulation happens all the time, and no one really knows who the culprit is.

So far…!

7 Use Silence as a Weapon

Silence is left to those who understand it.

That’s why narcissists like to leave a little bit of themselves on your doorstep, and because your self-esteem is low, you’ll see silence as a disturbing development in your relationship with the narcissist.

So they get what they want—and you spend the rest of the day, week, or even month begging them to tell you what you did wrong.

But why are you wrong?

Why doesn’t anyone tell you that they’re brazenly trying to manipulate you with silence?

That’s unfair, and it’s cruel.