The popularity of using personality disorder names as buzzwords for “bad guys” (or “bad guys”) has been rising steadily for a long time, and not without reason.

The six personality disorders currently recognized by the psychiatric community – narcissistic personality disorder, borderline personality disorder, antisocial personality disorder, obsessive-compulsive personality disorder (not to be confused with the more common obsessive-compulsive disorder, i.e. OCD), and avoidant personality. Schizotypal personality disorder and schizotypal personality disorder – these are truly terrible mental health conditions.

This is exactly the problem.

These are not ordinary labels, but rather serious diagnoses of mental disorders, and should not be freely and unjustly assigned by people who are not trained and licensed to do so.

And after…

Are you dating a narcissist?!?!

Does your ex suffer from Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD)?!?!

Everyone thinks their ex is a psychopath – how can you be sure?!?!

Contrary to the myths that develop in too many relationship advice columns, people with personality disorders are not evil. They have a mental illness.

They don’t behave badly on purpose. They act the way their brain tells them.

According to the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Health Disorders, Fifth Edition (DSM-5):

“Personality disorders are a class of mental disorders characterized by maladaptive patterns of behavior, perception, and internal experience that appear in many contexts and deviate markedly from those accepted in the individual’s culture. These patterns develop early, are inflexible, and are associated with distress or disability.” big.

If you’re in an emotionally abusive relationship of any kind, whether someone is physically hurting you, emotionally manipulating you, or attacking you, you need to stop letting them do it. It doesn’t matter if the reason for their behavior is because they have a disorder, their mom was mean to them or you look like the kid who bullied them in middle school.

If you have ever been involved in an abusive relationship, try to think back to the behaviors they displayed when you first met them and fell in love. They may not have seemed like big problems at the time.

Related: 8 Ways To Deal With A Malignant Narcissist — The Most Evil Type Of Narcissist

7 Signs that you are in a relationship with someone who is trying to manipulate you:

1. It puts you in a high-pressure, intense, and sometimes urgent courtship period.
2. He pressures you to commit to an exclusive relationship before you know each other well or feel completely comfortable doing so.
3. He explains his unreasonable level of jealousy by offering copious compliments about how much he wants you or statements about how “you don’t understand how guys/girls are really like.”
4. He subtly puts you down, often disguising his comments as friendly advice or constructive criticism.
5. Ignore your feelings and achievements.
6. He offers conditional apologies for his bad behavior, i.e., “I only did it because…”
7. He makes your gut feel funny and like something is off when he’s around.
   If you can identify “yes” to any one or more of the above, it does not mean he is a narcissist. These disorders are difficult to properly define, describe and identify.