You may think that you are not a very critical person until you read about it. If you are, you can learn how to stop.
I am a very critical person. There, I came forward and confessed a fact about myself. To be honest, in the past few months, I’ve become aware of a great deal of the unhealthy aspects of my personality. But rather than letting it drag me down, I chose to work on this problem and get better. Are you very critical?
What is an overly critical person?
You won’t realize that you’re criticizing and judging people until it’s done with you, or until you start reading about the signs. You may think that the way you function is normal and that you intend to help others be better people.
But remember, each person is an individual, and criticism does not change him, nor should he. If something needs to be changed, it must be done by the person who wants to change. Do you see my point? Well, in case you didn’t understand, read on…
Signs swipe way too much:
- Negative upbringing
Unfortunately, many of us were surrounded by negative people as children. Our moms, dads, and even extended family members constantly talked about other people and judged individuals based on one trait, or what they wore.
If you grew up listening to all this negativity, you may still think it’s normal to criticize and judge people. Yes, this trait of being overly critical can run deep.
- Describe him as a negative person
If people close to you say you’re negative all the time, it may be time to evaluate yourself.
No, you don’t have to take everything a person says to heart, but when family and friends are telling you over and over again to stop being judgmental, you probably need to change that fact and try to be more positive. If you are used to being negative, this will be hard, but it will be worth it when the results come in.
3, Micromanagement is second nature
If your loved one is fixing a window or cooking a meal, it would be almost impossible to let them do it without your help — besides, it doesn’t help, it’s just the fact that you’ll be telling them all the ways they’re doing it wrong. You can even get the tools or utensils and do some work to show them off.
This is a stark indication that you are very critical of others and what they do.
- You have a mental disorder
I hate to bring this up again because it seems to be a growing problem. However, if you suffer from a mental disorder, you may also have trouble criticizing people. Paranoia will make you constantly ask questions about how someone completed a task. Anxiety will make you criticize almost everything bluntly.
do this. If I don’t have consistency, something is wrong. If someone looks shady, I’d say they’re shady. Yes, I’m embarrassed to admit it, but mental illness can cause us to act very judgmental when we wish others weren’t so judgmental of us. So, as we fight stigma, remember, let’s fight judgment of ourselves, too.
- Nothing is quite fun
You know those people who go out, have a good time, and come home smiling? Yes, I am not one of them. I want to be, and I want it so bad I can scream. You will recognize an overly critical person by the fact that they find something wrong with everything.
You can simply watch a movie, and they will complain about some frivolous little things like too many previews. Ordinary people enjoy the movie and go home happy. No matter how fun the day gets, critical people will find the fault – we’ll find the crack in the perfect.
- You are always moody
An overly critical person will always be moody, whether he is depressed or not. This is because no one else does things like you do.
For example, a critical person might get angry because someone forgot to open the door for them. This might be a one-time incident, but they would call it reckless. There are a lot of things that moody people notice that make them darker.
- You complain all the time
A critical person will complain so much that they are preparing themselves for a bad day they are going to have, not joking. I used to wake up for a while and immediately wonder how someone was going to make me angry at some point during the day. I should have been grateful and thought of all the time I had to accomplish good things.
Then when people come in, and something goes wrong, as you expected, you complain. You complain if you get a lot of attention, you complain if you don’t, you complain if it rains, and you complain if you stay dry and hot. No matter how wonderful the day is, a person who is constantly critical will make it dull.
How do we stop this?
So, since I’m doing this too, we should learn to pause together, right? I’ve been reading some articles that are beginning to help me with this problem. If this critical thinking is rooted in childhood, then when you start thinking this way, remember where it came from and say “No!”
What this does is that it reminds you that you are not your ancestors, and you can see the world differently.
If you are suffering from a mental disorder, working with your therapist and telling them all the truth about your day will help them find ways to change the way you think. It’s all about your mind.
I learned that. You see, you have made your mind bad, and gradually, in small steps, you can adjust it to good. Instead of saying, “Oh my God, I wonder what crap I’m going to have to put up with today.” Say, “Oh, I’m so excited to start this new day!”
For the complainers, practice finding at least one good thing about the person you’re criticizing. For those who criticize even the fun times, try to just have fun and ignore those annoying thoughts that tell you the drive was too long, or the bathrooms were too dirty.
It’s all about practice, you see. It’s improving yourself a little bit each day. If you fail, try again. Don’t let other people’s negative comments fuel your negativity. Recreate a negative comment with a nice comment. It will astonish them and they will be confused. I’ve been doing this lately.
