Narcissists have a personality disorder that will ultimately destroy you.

At first, you don’t understand the situation you have put yourself in because these people are good manipulators.

When you first meet them, they seem like this perfect, rare type of man and you’re so happy with yourself you can’t believe you’ve hit the jackpot – you can’t believe you’ve found the perfect man for you.

And only then do you discover it was all a lie. You realize that he is nothing more than a manipulative bastard who fell in love with you for only one purpose – to suck you dry.

There is only one game in which they have absolute advantages – and no one can touch them – and that is the game of manipulation.

It is their most powerful weapon and they know how to use it to get whatever they want.

They play these little games with you to hurt and humiliate you. People’s misfortunes and suffering are something that boosts their ego and feeds their souls.

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Narcissists will consume and drain you, and after they are done with you, they will put all the responsibility on you.

The amazing thing about them is that they always somehow manage to get a fresh start.

No matter how many people they destroy, they will always find a new victim to manipulate, and after they are done, they will leave you broken and move on to the next person.

These people will never admit when they make a mistake. Moreover, they will blame you for everything, knowing that it is only their fault.

When you finally realize that he’s been using you and sucking the life out of you, and when you finally get rid of him, he’ll do everything in his power to get you back.

He will use evasive tactics to literally drag you back into a dysfunctional relationship.

These are the tactics every narcissist will use to get you back:

Intentionally misinterpreting your thoughts and feelings

Narcissists have the ability to make your opinions and ideas seem ridiculous. They have the ability to make you think that you are a crazy and irrational person.

This narcissistic abuse tactic is also called “mind reading.”

These toxic people believe they know exactly what you’re thinking or feeling, so they have a tendency to jump to conclusions without noticing the situation beforehand.

They don’t understand that they are jumping to conclusions because they are convinced that they are right.

They will put words in your mouth, and when you try to confront them about it, they will deny that they said anything at all and walk away.

changing the subject

Narcissists love to use this tactic. Whenever you put a stop to something and decide to confront them about something, they will change the subject and start looking like they are actually victims.

They will highlight mistakes you made a year ago. They never forget anything.

When you make a mistake, they will lie to you and pretend that it is no big deal until a situation like this occurs.

Then, they’ll rub everything you did right on your face, just to redirect the attention away from themselves.

Stalking and trying to destroy your reputation

If they lose control of you, they will do everything in their power to make others see you as a toxic person.

They will try to sabotage your reputation and slander your name so that you will not have a safety net to fall into after you leave them.

They want to trick everyone around you into thinking you are dangerous, so that you end up alone, with no one to talk to after they leave you.

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They may stalk or harass you or people you know. They will try to deceive you and they will try to defame you or reveal the alleged truth about you.

sarcasm and condescending tone

Narcissists will use sarcasm to hurt you. When both parties are ready to make sarcastic jokes, it’s funny, but when he tries to provoke you using sarcasm, he is doing it on purpose just to provoke you and put you down.

If you show him that you don’t find the things he says funny, then you are overly sensitive or you don’t understand his jokes that are carefully planned to make you feel foolish.

Another form of manipulation is treating you as if you are a child, or you have no idea how to do things yourself, or you don’t understand some things and need to be carefully explained to you what to do and how.

He will make you feel stupid and unappreciated which is exactly what he wants.

He wanted to silence you and make you forget that you had your own opinions, but you gradually silenced yourself.

Mind manipulation

This tactic is perfect for losing self-esteem and self-love.

His ultimate goal is to make you feel useless without him, so you stay by his side forever believing that you can’t live without him and believing that you are unfit for life, and that no one would want to live with you in the first place.

He will use this tactic to make you think about things that are not true. He will convince you that you did or said something that never happened.

He wants you to completely lose your self-confidence and surrender yourself to him so that he can continue to use you as his obedient puppet for as long as he wants.

Criticisms and impossible tasks

These people will criticize you for one purpose only: to bring you down and make you feel bad.

You have people who will give you constructive criticism in the hope that you will learn something from it and remember it the next time you do something.

These people want to help you, but narcissists only use criticism to bring you down. Maybe they do it out of jealousy or just plain evil.

They will also give you impossible tasks and set impossible goals for you to reach, so you will continue to fail and feel like you are not good enough.

No matter how hard you try, he will raise the bar higher so you never reach it.

Follow-up

They will make themselves responsible and put you aside. You won’t have any say in anything.

They will slowly cut you off from your friends, family, and almost everyone you know because they want to be the only ones who will influence your life.

They want to turn you into something they want alongside them.

Taking the opportunity to let others destroy that, and risking them trying to knock some logic out of you, is completely unacceptable.

They will also control your money and free time. They will want to know what you are doing, with whom, and when.

They will make sure to control every little aspect of your life so that you cannot escape from it.